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Post by Deleted on Apr 8, 2017 12:57:01 GMT -5
So I figured I'd contribute to the discussion of the week before the topic gets changed on Sunday :3
So from my experience, you always want to make sure you have total trust/confidence in a person before you try to scare them with any sort of "big news". Imo this differs from just plain old practical jokes/April fool's tricks, etc. As a hypothetical example, if I were to become pregnant, I wouldn't disclose any information about it to anyone but my partner, my immediate family, and very close friends, until I was further along kind of thing. Why? Because since that is in the "big news" category, it very well could surprise or scare some people, and I wouldn't want them being distracted from their daily lives for the foreseeable future because of something I did/said. As well, you can sometimes get a lot of hate/unwanted judgement if you're not careful with who you share information like that with.
My advice from personal experience would be if you're ever in a situation where you're going to need to "scare" someone with big or unfortunate news, make sure you are both at ease/in a comfortable environment. Make sure you're ready to support them emotionally in case they need it after hearing the news. Make sure that the person you are telling is someone you can trust with the information, otherwise you could end up with some nasty rumours going around, for example. And finally, think to yourself what you will gain from telling the trusted individual the news: Do they have the right to be involved in the situation? Is the news relevant to them/going to affect them and their lives? Will either of you be hurt by the sharing of this news, and if yes, are you prepared to deal with that?
That's what I think.
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Post by The Noble Dragon on Apr 8, 2017 14:17:01 GMT -5
(lol whoops that discussion topic has been there since Halloween...... ) But thank your for adding your thoughts! It's also kinda fitting for April Fools too. My opinions on scaring people and when it is and isn't okay is that you HAVE to have consent to scare someone beforehand. Be it a month in advance or so. Just make sure you ask them beforehand like "Hey, would it be okay if I scared you or played a prank on you in the future?" and if they say yes, or yes with exceptions (like they say don't do anything with spiders or something) then you are good to go! If they say no then DON'T do it. Also it is very important that you listen to the things someone says is NOT okay for you to do. Personally I hate getting scared. The feeling just doesn't sit well with my body and I do not like feeling like I"m going to die or something. But I love harmless practical jokes. My sister and I had a April Fools Joke thing that went on when I lived at my parents house that was super chill and harmless (except for the time she took all my books out of my room and I had to put them back in my bookshelf but it wasn't really harmful I just didn't want her touching my books). My mom tried to scare me one time when I got home from seeing a horror movie and I just started crying and freaking out right there. I don't like getting scared and it's important that my friends don't try to scare (which they don't bc they respect this) And if you think "but asking for permission ruins it!" well you are wrong because you aren't doing it right. If you ask them then they are lowkey always expecting it BUT they don't know when it's coming which will make the reaction that much better bc they will have just a bit more adrenaline from getting scared. (if that makes sense) it adds suspense to situation. Those are my thoughts. Next weeks Discussion will be on Respect.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 8, 2017 14:34:19 GMT -5
The Noble Dragon: For sure. I agree wholeheartedly. Especially when it comes to coming into contact with other's belongings in order to play the prank. You never know when something (like a book, or outfit, or childhood toy) could be a really prized possession to someone. And I would never want to risk something like that getting destroyed if then all you get out of it is a) something being ruined, and someone (probably a friend/family member/acquaintance) getting upset. I also am personally not great at being scared, unless I'm in a very safe/comfortable space otherwise I'll probably just break down and start crying. It definitely opens up the whole April Fool's day discussion of making sure no pranks hurt anyone either. Like pretending to dump someone as a joke, faking a suicide/depression/other mental illness, faking a pregnancy, pretending someone died when they didn't, etc.
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Post by The Noble Dragon on Apr 8, 2017 14:42:46 GMT -5
Or one of the worse April Fool's pranks, asking someone out as a joke. Like just don't do that, it really hurts peoples feelings and it just makes you look like a jerk. Harmless jokes are the best jokes tbh, like changing their screensaver/lockscreen to a funny pic. Or (as my sister did) putting an army of plastic frogs around their bedroom, or to retaliate (which I did) Hot glue those plastic frogs to the ceiling of your sister's bedroom and crowing her lord of the Frogs. (Only do that if you are willing to help clean up the frogs if they don't want them up there and don't glue them to anything that is important or will upset the person. My sister loved it and still has it up like 2 years later.) Just Harmless jokes are the best AND the funniest bc they are usually really weird and get the best reactions.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 8, 2017 15:02:20 GMT -5
Haha, that actually sounds amazing. One of my friends' sisters did a similar thing with those glow-in-the-dark stickers, putting them all over my friend's room (mind you, most of the stickers were of random dinosaurs and comets and such, and my friend was well into high school at this point), but she thought it looked so funny/cool she just kept them around/even ended up bringing a few to university with her. Sometimes jokes end up being the best thing to happen, haha.
And oh gosh no, asking someone out as a joke is just plain cruel. I've been asked out once to a dance on a "dare" once (it ended up being a joke basically) and it sucked because I actually spent a lot of time/money preparing to go, and the guy who pranked me was a good friend of mine, so I would've gone if it would have been real.
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Post by The Noble Dragon on Apr 8, 2017 15:06:57 GMT -5
Haha yeah, it's my brother's room now bc my sister moved into my old room when I moved out but he thinks the frogs are cool too so he keeps them. They are like in a couple rows leading into the room on the ceiling as if marching in and there are some on like the closet door and shelves in the room. It was a lot of fun to do!
That's why i warn people that if someone asks you out on April Fools Day to just say no, if they really wanted to ask you out they would wait till the next day to do it or ask again. If not then it's obvious that it was a joke. But that really sucks! I'm sorry you had to go through that! I hope you stopped being friends with that guy bc he is not worth it.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 8, 2017 15:21:08 GMT -5
Omg, I loved frogs as a kid, I definitely would have wanted to keep them around as well!
And yeah, honestly it happened so long ago for me (I was in middle school at the time, and now in my third year of a university degree), that I tend to laugh it off. But that doesn't mean I'd ever want to see a kid go through the same, especially not if it were my future child or even one of my younger relatives. It can really take a toll on someone/damage their confidence, depending on the situation. Fast forward to high school, and I made sure to ask out one of my best friends to prom, because he's kind of on the more awkward/nerdy side, and I wanted to make sure he spent the night with someone who genuinely cared about him, and I didn't want him to end up getting shoved to the side for one of the more traditionally "attractive" guys in our grad class.
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Post by The Noble Dragon on Apr 8, 2017 15:24:38 GMT -5
Yeah my sister loved reptiles and amphibians (she works at a reptile education and rehabiliation facility and is the manager of their mueseum) I personally prefer the furry and feathered animals
That's really nice of you to do!
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Post by The Noble Dragon on Apr 8, 2017 16:18:07 GMT -5
Whats wrong Sweet?
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Post by sweetclover1 on Apr 8, 2017 16:45:33 GMT -5
Just the usual drama with my mother. Like, I feel like whenever we start taking steps in the right direction its like one step forward two steps back. If I don't answer her texts sometimes she'll just get mad at me, like, earlier today she said she was going to the carnival in town and I was like cool, have fun or something like that and then I went to take a nap and I heard my phone go off so I read the text and my mom put Carnivals=boring! But I didn't respond because sleep and I totally forgot about t and then two hours later she sent me this long text that did't make much sense but pretty much she's upset because I'm not taking pictures and my events and whenever the honors program at my school posts something I'm usually not a part of it because I'm either doing homework, hanging out with my roommates, or on the forums, or hanging out with my fiance, and she feels like she can't experience my college life through me because of that... but she KNOWS I don't like taking pictures. Its awkward for me to take pictures with people, I haven't really gotten down the social cues for picture taking so it stresses me out and she knows this. Also she wants to come up and spend a day "helping" me get stuff done and I don't know how to tell her she's literally the #1 source of my anxiety spikes and I don't want her here because this is my safe place. We are opposite people but have the same amount of stubbornness and I hate it.
I'm dropping Student Government next year because they dropped my position and I do not have the mental stability to step up and become a director so I decided to drop it but continue volunteering through them and I told her this and that I'm moving off campus (You know, like a healthy sophomore ready to start living off campus with her roommates) and she told me she thinks I'm going to disengage and then I got a little snarky and she flipped on me and threatened to cut me off so I had to call my stepdad to make sure I wasn't actually being cut off because although I have a job and a bunch in savings I don't have the money to make car insurance (which I shouldn't have to pay because I never wanted to get a car, I wanted to bike it but they literally forced me to get one, thank goodness my dad helped me pay for the car so no car payments) and phone, because what I have in savings is so I can pay for college and get through it with as little debt as possible, BUT THEN SHE CONSTANTLY SAYS "Well you have more in savings than we do" and I'm like binch its because Im smart with my money and you aren't but thats me being bitter plus most of that is scholarship money. She also didn't know that my fiance was going back to NV for drill this weekend and when I told her she said, and I quote, "ahhh I'm so sorry" because she's a lot more needy in her relationships than I am, I can last a few days without seeing Hutch, we literally lasted six months (it literally almost killed me once, I talked about that before here,but still) without seeing him we can last a couple of days. But that was understandable and then she said "I wish you would have told me, I would have come up for a couple of days' and I was like nooooooooooooooo nononoo thats okay, but I didn't say that of course and I just don't know how to deal with her because I love her and all but its just a really toxic thing when we see each other for more than a few hours and I know it hurts her when I make myself busy when I get home but I don't have the heart to tell her that I actually can't be around her for too long without wanting to start a fight, and when I'm there I feel like either my anxiety is really high or I just get really, really, really angry, and I've honestly just stopped respecting her all together (I still listen and all but in my heart I don't respect her) and I know this sounds like a stereotypical thing to say but I really don't think that she gets me. She assumes she knows all about me because she used to, we used to be so incredibly close, but once junior year hit we started to.. just not I guess. And senior year the fights got so bad with her and my stepdad and me that I don't even like talking about it, and although my anxietys worse now that Ive moved out I don't think I could ever live with them again because it got to the point when I was just reminding myself that in a few months I didnt have to deal with it any more and now its getting to the point that my dad, whom I haven't lived with full time since 3rd grade, seems to know me better than the person who raised me, which is sad. but ugh I don't know I love her but I just really odnt want to be around her and, quite honestly, I don't know if I'd talk to her much once I get my own phone carrier and stuff because she needs to sort her stuff out and I need to sort out mine, because I don't really think I handle how she is very well, and I don't want to be around her until she gets help because I genuinely believe she needs it because of some of the stuff that she's done and said that I don't feel comfortable talking about on the thread and ugh its frustrating and I had to invite her up to help me move out of the dorm because she's feeling unneeded and sometimes I feel like I do things just to make her feel better and I feel so fake doing them because I don't want her here when Im moving because she gets mean whenever a "big event" like moving or a birthday or a holiday happens.
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Post by The Noble Dragon on Apr 9, 2017 2:24:26 GMT -5
I'm sorry but I think it's a little ridiculous that your mom wants to "experience" college through you and is upset that you don't like taking pictures.... like it's your life, not hers.
But yeah, parents are tricky. Especially ones that seem to be clingy and a bit of helicopter parents like your mom seems to be. Personally I would suggest either sitting her down and telling her (or emailing/writing a letter/texting her depending on how comfortable you feel/how likely she would be able to let you finish talking) that while you love her very much you are becoming your own person and feel as if she is trying to control your life a bit much. Make sure to mention how amazing it is that she pays for your car insurance and your phone bill (bc people (especially the older generatataions) like to have the things they do/'ve done for people aknowledged and attention drawn to it) and that you really love seeing her. It's completely natural for kids to move away from their parents in both the physical and emotional sense. We've matured enough to not need them in the ways we used to need them. It just takes time for them to realize that and some have trouble letting go. BUT if you don't think that talking about this to her would go over well at all and probably make things worse then.... idk is your stepfather more laid back enough for you to bring this up to him about? Or your father (if he is able to talk to your mother) because adults are more likely to listen to adults their age than their own kids because they just see us as kids even if we are in college and adults.
I'm really sorry you have so much stress and anxiety over this. I wish there was more I could do to help.
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Post by The Noble Dragon on Apr 9, 2017 2:26:01 GMT -5
Also I finally updated the link to the Kindness discussion from a few months ago(link is on the front page). I'll change the current one to Respect when i wake up lol so anyone can add their final thoughts to the scaring people/getting scared discussion
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Post by ͠ɴ͠ɪ͠ɢ͠ʜ͠ᴛ͠ᴍ͠ɪ͠s͠ᴛ515 on Apr 9, 2017 11:55:40 GMT -5
I failed a math test. It'll bring my grade down to a B probably. I really need the A. I had an A before btw. Ugh. Math. I don't like it. Also I got a C on my big history test. I suppose I could be gotten worse and technically I got a B because my teacher is putting a curve in sooo. Ugh I just cant handle this part of school. Test. Not to mention my history teacher loaded me up on homework. Geez. I will fail. Also half the time he never checks it soooo it could just be being a wasted effort. Basically I'm just stressing. But I'm also listening to Peer Gynt Suite No. 2. It's really good a sooo.. Lol. Honestly I've rambled on about my math stress so much on here, lol. It's bad. Okay, I'll stop. Im sorry about your tests... that really sucks. Does your teacher offer Extra Credit or anything? And don't worry about talking about your math stress on here! That's what this thread is for okay? Just for you to rant. So rant, please Night. Thanks for the support, Deamon. Yea, he's letting us correct for the credit. I guess lots of people did bad lol. So Ima gonna go correct that now. Thanks. Its really nice to know there are people to support you. Okay I'll stop being sappy xD lol. Also my sister just started a new part-time job and it's her first time. So that's cool.
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Post by The Noble Dragon on Apr 12, 2017 17:03:52 GMT -5
Sorry! I'm really bad at responding! ͠ɴ͠ɪ͠ɢ͠ʜ͠ᴛ͠ᴍ͠ɪ͠s͠ᴛ515 That's good that he's letting you correct your mistakes! It's important to learn what you did wrong and to try and learn how to fix it! sweetclover1 Okay I wish I could help more! Parents are tricky bc every single one of them is different. And no problem! That's what I'm here for!
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Post by Deleted on Apr 12, 2017 17:16:03 GMT -5
So this is for the Respect discussion.
I honestly feel like having respect for other people may just be the most important part of maintaining a healthy relationship, whether that be with family, with a friend, or with a partner. It also fills in a lot of areas. You want to be respectful of another person's opinions: A healthy debate/light argument is fine once in awhile, but if you spend most of your time with someone who is attacking your personal beliefs/opinions, it's going to start putting a lot of strain on everyone involved, and possibly your mental health.
Respecting other's property/belongings is also a big one. I know there was a LOT of controversy at my college in recent weeks because some unknown group grafitti-ed the entire entrance to our library. Now that's public space used by the whole campus, and privately owned by the university, so they were none too pleased about it. It basically caused an uproar which was uncalled for and unnneeded. Behaviour like that just fuels fires.
And of course you always want to respect people's boundaries. If someone doesn't want to talk about something, you need to respect that it is a sensitive subject for them, and they may not want to talk about it at this given moment. If someone you're in a relationship with gives you feedback as far as if things are moving too quickly or too slowly for them, you need to keep that in mind and try to work together to find a solution. If you end up bringing a trusted friend/person into a social situation, and they start to feel uncomfortable, it's kind of your responsibility (especially if they don't know anyone else there) to make sure you find a solution to the problem/help them feel more at ease, even if that means leaving said situation.
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Post by The Noble Dragon on Apr 12, 2017 17:16:18 GMT -5
Also I have changed the Discussion topic to Respect! Let's talk about how we can show respect and if there are different kinds of respect out there. I have a rant in my head to write later but I"m short on time so I'll write it later! But the gist of what I'm going to say can pretty much be summed up by what Markiplier said in this video:
Warning: There is a single swear word in the middle of the video and this video was made during the whole PewdiePie thing a month ago. But his message is clear.
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Post by The Noble Dragon on Apr 14, 2017 4:11:45 GMT -5
What bothers me most about when people disrespect others is when they are in a position of power above someone. Say your boss is upset with you because of something and you say something rude. Their response a lot of the times can go like this (teachers and parents do this to) "You need to show me some respect, if you show me respect I will show you respect in return" Which on the base line seems fair. Except two different kinds of respect are being talked about here. Professional respect and basic human respect. What this person is saying really is: "You need to show me (Professional) respect, if you show me (Professional) respect then I will show you (basic human) respect in return." Like they say it as if we HAVE to see them as a superior person in order for them to even CONSIDER us a person in return. Like it's messed up that some people don't get basic human respect because of things like race and ethnicity, gender, sexual orientation, ability.... like it makes me very angry. We need to learn the difference between the different kinds of Respect.
Basic Human Respect Professional Respect There are others but my mind blanked.... Like respecting a teacher..... respecting an opponent even if you don't agree with them or something. Like there are a lot of kinds of respect.
Pst we should make a big list of the different kinds of respect
On the note of disrespecting others. You should NEVER revoke someone's basic human respect. Because we are all human beings and nothing someone says or does (however horrific) changes that. If someone is harming another person either physically or mentally then you definitely should lose respect for that person. But I don't think disrespecting someone outright is the way to go, because then it looks bad on you for disrespecting another person even if they are in the wrong.
Just basically show people respect and DEMAND basic human respect in return because everyone deserves that.
Idk it's like 2AM rn so idk if any of that made sense.
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Post by pumpkin pie on Apr 16, 2017 6:29:56 GMT -5
^^ Everything you said
Plus, it's also important to be mindful of where people come from because respect varies from culture to culture. I mean, you should respect everyone- but like Deamon said, there are different types of respect and one type might not work for some situations
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Post by Deleted on Apr 18, 2017 14:31:20 GMT -5
Well, the day has come for Tassie to have a rant.
Basically, I'm in that lovely only-child-empty-nest-syndrome situation. And it sucks, for all parties involved. My mum and I were super close growing up, but now that I'm away from home communication is....not the greatest. She still insists on texting me a lot (and when I say a lot, we probably send each other on average about 50 texts a day if not more). Which lately I've found a little...suffocating.
It's my finals week, both she and I expect me to bring my GPA up, and I've been trying my hardest to study. So when she goes and sends 6-8 texts at once, I come back and my phone has blown up, I tend to either ignore the texts, panic because I think it might be an emergency (it's usually not), or I skim through them but often don't read them carefully.
A couple days ago she had sent one that I apparently misinterpreted/answered briefly. And now she thinks I'm lying to her. But in all honesty it wasn't a lie, it was me misreading one of an umpteen texts. But she refuses to believe me/when I told her maybe she should try calling me in the evenings instead of texting so many times in a given day she got super offended and basically told me I don't appreciate her after all she's done for me.
I just talked to my dad about it and he thinks she needs to ease up on the texting too....
I don't know if I'm in the right or the wrong, but I just want to stop fighting with her because it's getting exhausting.
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Post by pumpkin pie on Apr 18, 2017 14:47:32 GMT -5
I don't think you are in the wrong at all. This situation happens with me and my dad a lot actually so I can see where you are coming from. In my situation, my dad, after we went to college, wanted a way to still communicate with us and he thought that being able to text us would be best so he got a phone but he way over does it, sends so many at a time, is very confusing in his texts and gets mad if we don't answer right away. Like it totally isn't your fault at all. My thoughts are that if there is something that is extremely important, call, don't go through texts. Texts can easily be misinterpreted. And I think a misgiving regarding texting and parents too, is that parents expect that we are on our phones 24/7 and have all the time in the world to answer them, but we really aren't/don't so when we don't answer, or give brief answers, it's not necessarily because we don't want to talk to them, but we actually have lives and can't attend to our phones 24/7. Talking in person is the best bet if something really needs to be discussed. And honestly, if you are living away from home too, your mom doesn't know what is going on in your life like she could be texting you when you have a lot on your mind and the way you interpret things will be different than actually speaking. In all honesty, I feel that speaking in person is not any way an offense vs texting- in fact, I think that if you are willing to spend time to actually call your mom and talk to her in person rather than through texting, that should mean so much more because talking to someone on the phone isn't as easy as just texting- you are taking time out of your day and making time, that maybe you don't even have, to talk to her. Have you tried telling your mom that you have to study for your exams? Because if she wants you to do well, she should understand that you need to study and can't be answering her texts at every moment of the day.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 18, 2017 15:04:45 GMT -5
pumpkin pie: It's relieving to know I'm not the only one in the situation, thank you. I have mentioned to her during the dispute it might be easier to just call in the evenings from now on. If nothing else, I think the incessant texting needs to stop at some point, at least gradually. Like right now it might not seem as bad because I'm just a student/focused on my education, but someday I do see myself getting married/having kids/essentially not going back to live with my parents if I can avoid it, and of course I can't be texting my mom through all of that. She's going to have to give me more space eventually, whether she likes it or not, and I figure this way we can just ease in to it instead of cutting her off cold turkey (because I do care about her and don't want her to be upset, I'm just a little exasperated/smothered at this point). I do agree that phone calls are more sincere anyway/less chance of miscommunications that way, which is what I've been arguing the whole time with her). She definitely realizes how important school is to me because I've been that way since I lived at home. I think she just can't handle the whole "only child growing up" thing as well as I thought she could. I was also really scared because last time we had a disagreement my dad was on my mom's side of things, but I'd like to think I've matured a lot since then (I was 17 at the time and basically only cared about my ex/boyfriend back then). So I was relieved he could see my side of things this time. I'll try talking to her again tomorrow, I think she needs until at least tonight to cool off and I'm going out this evening/it won't be a very appropriate time to call her if she needs to have words with me. There are days I wish I had a sibling so I wouldn't have to be the only one calling her out on this kind of stuff. It makes me come across as spoiled and rude sometimes I think
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Post by pumpkin pie on Apr 18, 2017 15:24:38 GMT -5
No, I totally agree too. I mean, you are getting older and you will be on your own soon enough with your own life, your own family and you won't be able to talk to her all the time. I think it is always just hard for parents because they don't want to let their kids go, they want to keep them forever but they gotta realize that you are growing up and you'll be on your own and she can't hold onto you forever (I mean, it's not like you are just going to poof off the face of the earth and never speak to her again), but you will just be moving on to your own life. It must be especially hard being an only child though because she only has you and it must be hard to give that up, but her parent's would have done the same thing for her and this is all just part of growing up. It's not easy, but it is just life. I think college is a good time to start to, not grow apart, but let go just a little bit because at this point you aren't living at home all the time, but you are still in good communication so it's like in between when you were in hs and living with them all the time, and when you will be off on your own- its a good buffer zone I guess. I wouldn't think you were rude or spoiled at all but I can see why you might think that way. But its more just you are growing up and don't need your parents as much as you used to. You are more independent and more mature and they should be able to see that. It's hard though to make parents see this because they just don't want to see their kids grow up.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 18, 2017 15:33:17 GMT -5
pumpkin pie: Yeah, exactly. And it's difficult right now to see things from her perspective I guess/I'll probably realize it more when I have kids of my own, but right now I kinda just want what's best for both of us, and I think that's just a more normal amount of communication right now. Like, I don't want to tell her "no one else's mom talks to them this much" because I think I did say that before and then got the whole "well if everyone else jumped off a cliff would you..." speech followed by "that's just because I care about you" speech. And I do get that/can see and understand that for sure. But at the same time, having a parent who still focuses on you too much while you're away in turn takes up a lot of time/in some ways it's probably stunted my social life a little bit, because I spend more time having to respond to texts while I'm out/then in turn it makes me look rude to the people I'm with. One thing is for sure, I'm definitely not having an only child xD I always say two is my biological limit, but then if myself/my partner decide we want more kids after that we'll probably foster/adopt. Growing up as an only child, it's too harsh on everyone involved in a lot of ways.
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Post by pumpkin pie on Apr 18, 2017 15:57:30 GMT -5
Oh my goodness why do all parents feel the need to use the jumping off a cliff thing for literally every situation? xD but I get ya, it's definetly not easy at all and you can't just flat out tell your mother to stop talking to you xD
No same- I want at least 2 kids as well. Like I feel bad enough for my brother cause he is so much younget than me and my sis and didn't really have anyone to grow up with but it's obviously way different being an only child so I can only imagine!
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Post by Deleted on Apr 18, 2017 16:06:56 GMT -5
Hahaha, true dat. Like what kid even started this analogy? Were they actually rebellious enough to just go jump off some cliff with their buddies? xD
Yeah, 2 just seems like a nice minimum to me, I want them to have that sibling support. At the same time the idea of me being the smol human I am having babies....yeah I can only handle that thought twice o_o But I definitely wouldn't mind having more, thus the adoption thing. I have no idea if my current bf and I will go that long term, but we talked about it hypothetically and said we'd have a kid biologically, then adopt one, and then if we felt we could handle a third we'd wait and see what we felt like would be the best option for the third child (I jokingly call it the "surprise" baby, haha)
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Post by pumpkin pie on Apr 18, 2017 16:15:57 GMT -5
Legit xD honestly, there are so many analogies out there that make absolute no sense at all haha
I feel like I keep saying same but seriously, same xD im afraid of that as well but like idk lol it's a weird thought haha At least 2 though my bf and I have talked about it and we've both agreed at least 2 but who knows what really will happen haha so much time still lol we are still youngish haha (and who knows if you'll still be with the person- one can hope though lol)
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Post by ͠ɴ͠ɪ͠ɢ͠ʜ͠ᴛ͠ᴍ͠ɪ͠s͠ᴛ515 on Apr 19, 2017 6:28:24 GMT -5
Lol I should keep up with the forums. So much has happened. Lol. Except for the part that I'm in the middle of State Testing week and I'm stressing and dying and history and Math exams I'm not confident. Ack. Also I got a solo in my orchestra, so that's cool. Sorry, my thoughts are all over the place... Soooo... Lol ok I gotta go. School: the bane of my existance.
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#a8d1ff
The Ancient One
Name Colour
pumpkin pie
what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
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Post by pumpkin pie on Apr 19, 2017 7:00:41 GMT -5
Best luck with your tests! I'm sure you will do fine! Try to relax and make sure you are getting enough sleep! You got this! Also, congrats! That is awesome! Have a good day at school!
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