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Post by Leapkit on Feb 27, 2024 16:17:12 GMT -5
New hurdle: Being anywhere costs money. What do you mean? Most hobbyist groups I've seen are free, like library book clubs. i dont have a library near me...
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Post by Leapkit on Feb 27, 2024 16:17:33 GMT -5
the only thing within walking distance are stores
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Post by Saint Ambrosef on Feb 27, 2024 16:28:57 GMT -5
oh yeah if you are limited by what's in walking distance, that can be pretty hard. sorry buddy.
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Captain Americat
"Don't frown, someone could be falling in love with your smile." - Teen Wolf
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Post by Captain Americat on Feb 27, 2024 16:52:00 GMT -5
pulls the old coots advice alarm. Folks how do i make irl friends as an adult I don’t know how to make friends, mostly because I’m so quiet, haha. And I am not sure really what friends are anymore because I’ve had people leave me… and that’s definitely hurt me when it comes to making friends now. And I don’t think making friends comes naturally to me at all. But I will say that, while it’s taken me a while to open up, I’d like to think I’ve made friends with a few of my coworkers. I don’t talk to them outside of work, but I talk to them while I’m at work, and I consider them friends. I’ve lost touch with all my school friends. In college, I never made friends with anyone from classes or dorms or anything… but I joined a club, and that’s where I found my “friends”. I put it in quotes, though, because while I enjoyed their company, we never hung out aside from said club and outside club activity. Everyone wanted to party and I wanted nothing to do with that. So, even though I was invited to parties with them and all the people who went to them grew closer, I always felt a little left out because I didn’t have that extra shared connection with them. Still, joining a club of sorts can probably help with friends. For the past two years, I’ve also been a part of a hobby where I’ve been able to make more friends. I don’t see them hugely often, but I keep in touch with them and we hang out multiple times a year. I was too scared to join the hobby alone but my sister’s coworker took me under his wing. But, again… I’m pretty terrible at friends because I don’t know how to open up to people and stuff but I’m learning and it’s nice to have a group of people who I can spend time with and who enjoy the same thing I do. And, I love them all. (Also, though, my sister has always been my best friend. So, I’ve noticed a lot of the people I’ve met have like best friends and stuff… but I’ve never had a “closeness” like that with anyone other than my sister. Maybe it’s because I’ve always had her so I wasn’t alone even if there was no one else).
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Post by mintleaf2 on Feb 27, 2024 16:56:26 GMT -5
pulls the old coots advice alarm. Folks how do i make irl friends as an adult I don’t know how to make friends, mostly because I’m so quiet, haha. And I am not sure really what friends are anymore because I’ve had people leave me… and that’s definitely hurt me when it comes to making friends now. And I don’t think making friends comes naturally to me at all. But I will say that, while it’s taken me a while to open up, I’d like to think I’ve made friends with a few of my coworkers. I don’t talk to them outside of work, but I talk to them while I’m at work, and I consider them friends. I’ve lost touch with all my school friends. In college, I never made friends with anyone from classes or dorms or anything… but I joined a club, and that’s where I found my “friends”. I put it in quotes, though, because while I enjoyed their company, we never hung out aside from said club and outside club activity. Everyone wanted to party and I wanted nothing to do with that. So, even though I was invited to parties with them and all the people who went to them grew closer, I always felt a little left out because I didn’t have that extra shared connection with them. Still, joining a club of sorts can probably help with friends. For the past two years, I’ve also been a part of a hobby where I’ve been able to make more friends. I don’t see them hugely often, but I keep in touch with them and we hang out multiple times a year. I was too scared to join the hobby alone but my sister’s coworker took me under his wing. But, again… I’m pretty terrible at friends because I don’t know how to open up to people and stuff but I’m learning and it’s nice to have a group of people who I can spend time with and who enjoy the same thing I do. And, I love them all. was this written by me??? Girl I hear you on this and you are so not alone in this experience. Losing touch with high school friends has been really hard, and I also mostly only had surface level college friends (a couple good gems in there, but just a few). Plus now I don’t even live in the same area as them anymore, and I’ve tried social groups but it’s hard to find people you totally connect with. Wishing you all the best with this new group!
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Captain Americat
"Don't frown, someone could be falling in love with your smile." - Teen Wolf
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Post by Captain Americat on Feb 28, 2024 17:54:48 GMT -5
Mintleaf; I wish you all the luck, too!! I’m glad I’m not alone in that! (:
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Captain Americat
"Don't frown, someone could be falling in love with your smile." - Teen Wolf
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Post by Captain Americat on Feb 28, 2024 17:59:16 GMT -5
New hurdle: Being anywhere costs money. What do you mean? Most hobbyist groups I've seen are free, like library book clubs. Definitely depends on the hobby xD
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Post by rabbit on Feb 28, 2024 18:07:58 GMT -5
New hurdle: Being anywhere costs money. Do you live near any colleges? A lot of the ones near me hold free public events. Like art gallery showings, presentations, movie showings.
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Post by Saint Ambrosef on Feb 28, 2024 18:19:39 GMT -5
Tbh most people from my college did not seem to stay in contact with their friend groups after graduation. Squads that were together for years just sort of dissolved and went their separate ways (not helped by the fact that it was a private school where half the students were out-of-state, so most peeps moved back to their home cities across the country).
Our friend group was kind of the exception to the norm, but we were also very tight-knit and didn't have a many casual "satellite" friends. Of the seven of us, five of us still regularly chat, one pops in occasionally, and one dropped off the map. My husband has one other good friend he talks to weekly. But for the most part, we're the anomalies.
The most extroverted one in our group had a lot of college friends, including a group of guys who happened to stick around the area for a year post-grad for various reasons. But as soon as he and his wife moved away, they made exactly zero effort to keep up the friendship despite his best attempts. Straight up ghosting his texts. It's very odd to me and we don't really get it, but unfortunately that is the norm.
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Post by Leapkit on Feb 28, 2024 21:02:29 GMT -5
New hurdle: Being anywhere costs money. Do you live near any colleges? A lot of the ones near me hold free public events. Like art gallery showings, presentations, movie showings. Near is still kind of a weird term, considering i cant drive and theres also a highway on either side of me i can't cross even if i could probably walk farther than that hypothetically.
i'm also not a student so it would be weird
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Post by houndsteeth on Feb 29, 2024 7:00:21 GMT -5
Am I an old coot at 25?
Edit to add; because I would like some advice/ thoughts haha
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Post by Brownie on Feb 29, 2024 13:03:17 GMT -5
Am I an old coot at 25? Edit to add; because I would like some advice/ thoughts haha Age is relative, ask away!
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Post by rabbit on Feb 29, 2024 16:48:29 GMT -5
Do you live near any colleges? A lot of the ones near me hold free public events. Like art gallery showings, presentations, movie showings. Near is still kind of a weird term, considering i cant drive and theres also a highway on either side of me i can't cross even if i could probably walk farther than that hypothetically.
i'm also not a student so it would be weird
It’s not as weird as you would think. I am not a student either or an alumni but I’ve been to some events held at colleges. At some events, many people who attend aren’t students either. Schools are just great places to hold events. But if you can’t drive, it’s definitely hard living in most places in the USA. I can’t think of much unless you could have a few people to drive you somewhere. Haha
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Non-binary
dal
and even all the smiles on kid's faces bring you pain, when you think of what they'll face
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Post by dal on Feb 29, 2024 22:05:19 GMT -5
Do you live near any colleges? A lot of the ones near me hold free public events. Like art gallery showings, presentations, movie showings. Near is still kind of a weird term, considering i cant drive and theres also a highway on either side of me i can't cross even if i could probably walk farther than that hypothetically.
i'm also not a student so it would be weird
can't drive gang.... we're making it out of the car with this one (and into the endless expanse of urban development that we can't traverse without spending exorbitant amounts of money on uber)
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Post by brooksie on Feb 29, 2024 22:11:26 GMT -5
Near is still kind of a weird term, considering i cant drive and theres also a highway on either side of me i can't cross even if i could probably walk farther than that hypothetically.
i'm also not a student so it would be weird
can't drive gang.... we're making it out of the car with this one (and into the endless expanse of urban development that we can't traverse without spending exorbitant amounts of money on uber) dozens of us no drivers
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Post by Leapkit on Mar 1, 2024 5:00:45 GMT -5
Near is still kind of a weird term, considering i cant drive and theres also a highway on either side of me i can't cross even if i could probably walk farther than that hypothetically.
i'm also not a student so it would be weird
can't drive gang.... we're making it out of the car with this one (and into the endless expanse of urban development that we can't traverse without spending exorbitant amounts of money on uber) dabs to hide the uncontrollable sobbing
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Post by Sand on Mar 1, 2024 9:57:13 GMT -5
Add me to the can’t drive club 🫠
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Post by Tealraven on Mar 1, 2024 15:11:16 GMT -5
and me 🙃
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Post by brooksie on Mar 1, 2024 15:39:11 GMT -5
and offsite i have 2 wcf friends who also cant drive what is wrong with us
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Post by Saint Ambrosef on Mar 1, 2024 16:28:02 GMT -5
and offsite i have 2 wcf friends who also cant drive what is wrong with us this site has a type, and it's "gay and can't drive"
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Post by Leapkit on Mar 1, 2024 22:30:46 GMT -5
and offsite i have 2 wcf friends who also cant drive what is wrong with us this site has a type, and it's "gay and can't drive" ok rude. 😭 youre right but you shouldnt say it
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Post by Northstar3213 on Mar 2, 2024 23:07:05 GMT -5
Pardon my late-night ramblings lol
For those who are just turning 18/19, nobody expects you to know how to do everything all at once just because you’re legally an adult. You’ve still got a lot of growing up to do and have a lot to learn.
Generic brands can be just as good if not better than the name brand. Don’t be afraid/ashamed to go to places like Aldi or Dollar Tree.
Don't be afraid to pursue niche/unusual hobbies/interests. You’re gonna be able to meet folks as an adult that way. It also provides a great conversation topic!
Any money you can save/invest for retirement will benefit you. Roth IRAs are not taxable until you start to pull money out, but I recommend meeting with a financial advisor to talk about what your long term goals are and come up with a plan that best works for you.
Learn how to cook your favorite foods from restaurants so that you don’t have to spend a crapton of money for small portions that aren’t even lined up with your tastes. I’m currently learning how to cook various meats like steak and seafood because that’s some of the priciest stuff lol
It’s ideal to get an oil change for your car every 6 months, especially if you have an older car. Also keep a quart of oil on-hand in the car if you need it in a pinch. Make sure to check your oil regularly! If your oil light comes on on your dashboard you were in the danger zone a long time ago.
If you need to soak your dishes to get baked on/dried on food off, you can put a dryer sheet with a little bit of soap in the water and it will make it much, much easier to clean. And they don’t have to be expensive dryer sheet either you can get a pack from dollar tree and they work just fine lol
Weighted blankets are the best. Definitely invest in one.
Also don’t forget to clean your dryer filter, it’s a fire hazard.
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