#a8d1ff
The Ancient One
Name Colour
pumpkin pie
what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
|
Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 23, 2016 6:22:02 GMT -5
Haha idk- history just really brings it out in me I guess lol Oh ok- my fav yr of science that really got me into it was 8th grade so I think I get what you mean Good luck on the test!!
|
|
#a8d1ff
The Ancient One
Name Colour
pumpkin pie
what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
|
Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 23, 2016 20:04:17 GMT -5
(:
|
|
|
Post by e11e on Sept 23, 2016 20:22:03 GMT -5
Hi. I have a lot going on in my life right now. I'm suffering from ocd anxiety depression and ptsd. My doc wants me on meds and cognitive behavior herapy but I'm not sure i can afford either. I also have sensory processing disorder and it's really bothering me a lot... I have crippling social anxiety and no friends. I can barely talk to anyone. I'm trying a new church and I can hardly speak to anyone without awkwardly chuckling and making a dumb comment or accidentally scratching the deacons wrist when trying to shake his hand. Yay. The PTSD is from my past of abusive boyfriends and the approaching one year anniversary of my mom's near death from her kidneys failing. She's recovering but as the time of year is approaching my boyfriend's mom is waiting on a biopsy to determine whether or not she has breast cancer. I am also coming up on my one year anniversary of quitting self harm. Im stressing about money. (Im a special ed assistant so I have two kids that I take care of in a general education classroom. We don't make much). I'm trying to treat my boyfriend to a nice trip for his birthday next week and I'm running low on funds... Meanwhile I have wicked panic attacks and horrible depression that's making me lose interest in literally everything even the upcoming proposal that my bf has hinted at. My mental illnesses are ruining my life.
|
|
|
Post by ͠ɴ͠ɪ͠ɢ͠ʜ͠ᴛ͠ᴍ͠ɪ͠s͠ᴛ515 on Sept 23, 2016 21:07:50 GMT -5
Sorry to hear about all that e11e. As for myself I can hardly imagine the tough obstacles you are trying to just at the moment since I have never even experienced any disorder thoughout my life so far. But I hope things turn to the bright side soon for you!
|
|
|
Post by e11e on Sept 23, 2016 21:11:34 GMT -5
Thank you I appreciate it a lot. I just hope things look up
|
|
|
Post by ͠ɴ͠ɪ͠ɢ͠ʜ͠ᴛ͠ᴍ͠ɪ͠s͠ᴛ515 on Sept 23, 2016 21:21:17 GMT -5
Yea, sometimes it just feels better to just say your problems out loud. That helps me sometimes, whether the people around me understand or not. Anyways, best wishes to you!!
|
|
|
Post by John 3:16 on Sept 25, 2016 3:51:35 GMT -5
feel like this needs a free bump
|
|
#a8d1ff
The Ancient One
Name Colour
pumpkin pie
what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
|
Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 25, 2016 7:47:55 GMT -5
Thanks! ^^ I apologize that I wasn't able to get back to you all quickly! If anyone has any concerns, don't hesitate to message Deamon or I(:
|
|
|
Post by ๖ۣۜCrossroads on Sept 25, 2016 8:55:49 GMT -5
Okay, wow. So, I know there's not much to go off of, but after going to a marching band competition last night, I feel as if my girlfriend is slowly starting to cheat on me? She's in the band too, and there's a lot of tall, attractive, funny guys, that she would understandably like. I don't really know what to say about it or why I think so, I just got this vibe. If anyone wants to ask me a question about this, go ahead, I can answer.
|
|
|
|
Post by ๖ۣۜCrossroads on Sept 25, 2016 9:32:24 GMT -5
Okay, well here's the thing, Kevin. I'm not saying I don't truly love her, but our relationship is not that one couple that always kisses each other and walks with each other to class, even though one of them is late. We're more like the ones that just holds hands and hugs each other. It's more like a platonic relationship (I could be using that word loosely). We're more like the best friend couple relationship and I have a feeling that she is putting me on the same level of "closeness" to her as the other guys. I don't really know what I'm saying at this point, I'm just rambling on.
|
|
#a8d1ff
The Ancient One
Name Colour
pumpkin pie
what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
|
Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 25, 2016 11:32:38 GMT -5
Hmm that is very troubling. How long have you guys been together? Were you guys friends before you started dating? Do you want more to the relationship than just the platonic relationship you feel that it is? Or do you feel that it would be better if you were just really close friends? Sometimes things like this can be tricky because it's hard to tell where your feelings lie. Have you talked to her at all about how things are between you two?
|
|
#a8d1ff
The Ancient One
Name Colour
pumpkin pie
what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
|
Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 25, 2016 11:33:06 GMT -5
Hey Kevin(:
|
|
|
Post by The Noble Dragon on Sept 25, 2016 12:12:39 GMT -5
I agree that talking is very important. In fact, in my opinion Communication is the key to the success of any relationship. I also think you should take a look at your own feelings towards her, specifically how much you trust her and trust that she cares for you. Bringing up the subject of cheating is going to upset her. I'm not trying to steer you away from talking to her but prepare you for how she could react. Don't get angry if she gets upset or defensive because it's a normal reaction to something like that. Try to ask her in a way that doesn't seem like you are accusing or pointing fingers at her. Just says something like: "I know there are a lot of good guys in band and I was wondering if you were interested in them more than me?" Or something.
Not all relationships have to be lovey dovey. Hugging and cuddling is still amazing and I love doing it with my gf all the time. You don't have to kiss and stuff to have a real relationship. My first relationship we didn't kiss for 4 years because i wasn't comfortable with it. My next one took a year before we did even a smallest peck on the lips. People move at their own pace, and if either one of you doesn't like kissing or other stuff like that then that's okay, you don't have to like it if you don't.
|
|
|
Post by The Green Writer on Sept 25, 2016 12:18:30 GMT -5
I had an anxiety/panic attack today and I'm still feeling the effects from it. This is my first major one this half of the year. This has actually been one that has caused my parents to find out about my anxiety. I'm absolutely terrified at this moment and completely overwhelmed. At any minute I feel like Ill have another one in front of all my family.
|
|
|
Post by The Noble Dragon on Sept 25, 2016 12:21:23 GMT -5
Hey Greeny, it's okay. Just take some deep breaths and focus on that. Take in a breath for as long as you can and then let it out as slow as you can. Count the seconds to yourself for each part. I want you to know that it's going to be okay and even if you have another one it will be okay. Do you know what caused it? You don't have to tell me what it was if it will trigger you /if you don't want to.
|
|
|
Post by The Green Writer on Sept 25, 2016 12:38:18 GMT -5
I have been under stress with a great deal of things. One of the most prevalent was coming out to my sister in law. She told my brother and he sent me an email about how he would view me depending on what I "chose". I'm upset and disappointed in both of them. That's probably what caused this.
|
|
Asexual
#A4ACE3
Невыносимая коммунизм
COMMUNIST ㅤㅤㅤㅤDICTATORㅤㅤㅤㅤㅤ ㅤㅤKEVIN
"ι need тнoѕe old people тo wнιѕper мy naмe wнen тнey dιe"
|
Post by Невыносимая коммунизм on Sept 25, 2016 12:42:38 GMT -5
Okay, well here's the thing, Kevin. I'm not saying I don't truly love her, but our relationship is not that one couple that always kisses each other and walks with each other to class, even though one of them is late. We're more like the ones that just holds hands and hugs each other. It's more like a platonic relationship (I could be using that word loosely). We're more like the best friend couple relationship and I have a feeling that she is putting me on the same level of "closeness" to her as the other guys. I don't really know what I'm saying at this point, I'm just rambling on. Oh! I'm sorry. I never meant to imply that you didn't love her. That was a mistake on my part.
If you're having conflicted feelings over how she's treating you, I would recommend {again, because I'm a broken record} talking to her, or looking for signs that: A: She's losing interest or B: She wants you to take things up a notch. Of course, I don't personally know either of you, so this is some pretty broad advice.
I go to college for this.
|
|
|
Post by ๖ۣۜCrossroads on Sept 25, 2016 13:39:34 GMT -5
pumpkin pie Our relationship is kinda weird. About this time last year, we were "dating". I'm using that term loosely because it was more like, "Yeah, we both like each other so let's get closer." We pretty much claimed each other without making it "official" About three months later, she got tired of it and dated one of my friends for a month. Then the two of us had a little awkward moment between May and June where we didn't talk much but still texted. After that, we got a lot closer and started officially dating last month. I'm fine where the relationship is now, but she seems to be talking to other guys in the band. They're great friends with me and her, but I'm not sure where everything sits right now. I haven't talked about it at all, we just have the usual conversations that you would have with your best friend. We also have arguments, but they're usually dumb- last night there was one about whether Chris Evans or Chris Hemsworth is hotter. The Noble Dragon Невыносимая коммунизмThanks for the advice! I'll try my best to smooth things out and clear everything up.
|
|
|
Post by Northstar3213 on Sept 25, 2016 13:49:40 GMT -5
I hate it that everyone seems to be leaving. I get it, it'll weed out some of the problematic people, but at the same time it's driving innocent bystanders away. I was a part of the old forums for a good six years, and I'm in my twenties right now...you'd think I should have left after high school. But I don't want to leave! This place has problems, but I want to help fix them!
|
|
#a8d1ff
The Ancient One
Name Colour
pumpkin pie
what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
|
Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 25, 2016 17:38:52 GMT -5
Shinobi; I get you completely. It's pretty sad. Like I've been part of these forums for nearly 6 yrs and I should no longer be here, but I grew up on here, made so many friends and it's where I go to talk to others because I don't have anywhere else. It's sad what this place has become so much so that so many people have to leave because of the actions of others. I wish we could fix all the problems too. But it is very hard:/ The best we can do, is promote a positive and helpful atmosphere for those who still want to be part of this place And if you ever want to talk to, come to pretzels because we are a civil bunch with no drama whatsoever
|
|
#a8d1ff
The Ancient One
Name Colour
pumpkin pie
what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
|
Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 25, 2016 17:42:42 GMT -5
pumpkin pie Our relationship is kinda weird. About this time last year, we were "dating". I'm using that term loosely because it was more like, "Yeah, we both like each other so let's get closer." We pretty much claimed each other without making it "official" About three months later, she got tired of it and dated one of my friends for a month. Then the two of us had a little awkward moment between May and June where we didn't talk much but still texted. After that, we got a lot closer and started officially dating last month. I'm fine where the relationship is now, but she seems to be talking to other guys in the band. They're great friends with me and her, but I'm not sure where everything sits right now. I haven't talked about it at all, we just have the usual conversations that you would have with your best friend. We also have arguments, but they're usually dumb- last night there was one about whether Chris Evans or Chris Hemsworth is hotter. The Noble Dragon Невыносимая коммунизм Thanks for the advice! I'll try my best to smooth things out and clear everything up. Oh ok, gotcha. That sounds a bit complicated. I don't really know what to say to that, as I've never actually dated anyone (so my opinion could very well be invalid) but I think, like the others said, try and talk to her about it so you know where things stand. I mean this in the best way, but maybe you'll see that you are just better as really good friends, and nothing is wrong with that. But if things do work out, which I really hope the best for you, hopefully things will get better as you date for a longer period of time! It might just be a little awkward because it hasn't been too long so you are just trying to get into it? And talking like best friends isn't necessarily a bad thing? You want to be best friends with the person you date anyway, ya know?
|
|
#a8d1ff
The Ancient One
Name Colour
pumpkin pie
what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
|
Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 25, 2016 17:44:27 GMT -5
I have been under stress with a great deal of things. One of the most prevalent was coming out to my sister in law. She told my brother and he sent me an email about how he would view me depending on what I "chose". I'm upset and disappointed in both of them. That's probably what caused this. Oh gosh! I hope things go well for you! I know that situations like that are never easy and it doesn't make things any easier when you don't have the support of people who are really close to you.
|
|
#a8d1ff
The Ancient One
Name Colour
pumpkin pie
what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
|
Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 25, 2016 17:56:11 GMT -5
Невыносимая коммунизм Out of curiousity, what is your major? Is it in psychology or something of the sorts?
|
|
|
Post by The Green Writer on Sept 25, 2016 17:59:28 GMT -5
I have been under stress with a great deal of things. One of the most prevalent was coming out to my sister in law. She told my brother and he sent me an email about how he would view me depending on what I "chose". I'm upset and disappointed in both of them. That's probably what caused this. Oh gosh! I hope things go well for you! I know that situations like that are never easy and it doesn't make things any easier when you don't have the support of people who are really close to you. He's the first one who's been very against it. Well actually his wife is too, but she's another story. In fact she told me he'd be understanding. And "My Gay Big Sister" told me to talk to my sister-in-law because she helped her through her tough time of coming out. So yeah. I'm positively enthralled with this
|
|
#a8d1ff
The Ancient One
Name Colour
pumpkin pie
what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
|
Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 25, 2016 18:03:08 GMT -5
Oh gosh! I hope things go well for you! I know that situations like that are never easy and it doesn't make things any easier when you don't have the support of people who are really close to you. He's the first one who's been very against it. Well actually his wife is too, but she's another story. In fact she told me he'd be understanding. And "My Gay Big Sister" told me to talk to my sister-in-law because she helped her through her tough time of coming out. So yeah. I'm positively enthralled with this Gosh! Hopefully over time he is more understanding with time. Maybe it is a bit much for him to take in right now? But that totally doesn't take from the fact that it was any easier for you. At least most people have been good with you though! Having someone there to support you and be there for you, despite everyone else, is definitely something good to have(:
|
|
Asexual
#A4ACE3
Невыносимая коммунизм
COMMUNIST ㅤㅤㅤㅤDICTATORㅤㅤㅤㅤㅤ ㅤㅤKEVIN
"ι need тнoѕe old people тo wнιѕper мy naмe wнen тнey dιe"
|
Post by Невыносимая коммунизм on Sept 25, 2016 18:08:30 GMT -5
Невыносимая коммунизм Out of curiousity, what is your major? Is it in psychology or something of the sorts? Thanks for asking! I am majoring in developmental/applied behavior psychology. It's sort of like asking why people act the way they do. I also work in counselling too.
For example, I would be asking and attempting to figure out why a school shooting happened, or why a middle aged man is preying on women in the age group of 15-25. Behavioral Psychology I actually love learning about the brain and about how emotions effect people's actions in the long term!
I'm this forum's psychologist.
|
|
#a8d1ff
The Ancient One
Name Colour
pumpkin pie
what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
|
Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 25, 2016 18:19:03 GMT -5
That sounds like a fun major! I am actually taking a psychology class right now! It is just intro, but it is super interesting and I am really enjoying it! My teacher actually is a behavioral psychologist- not exactly the same as you, but a branch lol There are so many branches of psychology! It's super complex with so much to it - so honestly, kudos to you! It's such a great topic though! And I so agree with you! One of the reasons I wanted to take this was because I love seeing the motivation's behind why people do things, how people are affected by their emotions, why people act certain ways. It is really interesting to learn about. That's great for you though! So do you think you will end up counselling in the long run? I mean, you are doing it now, so you must enjoy it a bit?
Haha I love it! That's so great!
(also, I really like the pic thing behind your writing- Idk what you would call it, but it's really nice haha)
|
|
Asexual
#A4ACE3
Невыносимая коммунизм
COMMUNIST ㅤㅤㅤㅤDICTATORㅤㅤㅤㅤㅤ ㅤㅤKEVIN
"ι need тнoѕe old people тo wнιѕper мy naмe wнen тнey dιe"
|
Post by Невыносимая коммунизм on Sept 25, 2016 18:29:22 GMT -5
That sounds like a fun major! I am actually taking a psychology class right now! It is just intro, but it is super interesting and I am really enjoying it! My teacher actually is a behavioral psychologist- not exactly the same as you, but a branch lol There are so many branches of psychology! It's super complex with so much to it - so honestly, kudos to you! It's such a great topic though! And I so agree with you! One of the reasons I wanted to take this was because I love seeing the motivation's behind why people do things, how people are affected by their emotions, why people act certain ways. It is really interesting to learn about. That's great for you though! So do you think you will end up counselling in the long run? I mean, you are doing it now, so you must enjoy it a bit? Haha I love it! That's so great! (also, I really like the pic thing behind your writing- Idk what you would call it, but it's really nice haha) Ah! My dragon? Yes I love her so muchh
Exactly! I love knowing why people think what they do! But I think I might go into policework and behavioral analysis. The counselling part {Introductory Analysis of Human Though} is usually the basics of psychology. I'm only a freshman in college, so I got to start out somewhere! I love working on the forums and helping out users though.
|
|
|