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Post by Salted Squid on Sept 19, 2016 0:42:30 GMT -5
Bookmarking this for later
I have stuff to share but I just got home from work and I'm too exhausted to type it all up rn
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what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
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Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 19, 2016 6:25:58 GMT -5
@deamon; xD and Sounds good! Should we make the archive page? I will make sure to add something to discussion this week!
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what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
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Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 19, 2016 6:28:49 GMT -5
@sweetclover; Hey! Haha ya, that is fine with me lol and we would love if you added in on the discussion! Take your time though, no rush! And it's alright! Honestly, if you want to talk about it, we are hear for you whenever you are ready, but no pressure on that(: Salted Squid; Hello! Sounds good! Take your time(:
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Post by Salted Squid on Sept 19, 2016 10:23:10 GMT -5
Ok so I've been stressed out over school and work lately and I have no clue what to do. I wake up at about 5:30 most mornings just to get to school on time (I'm a freshman in college this year and I commute). I have school until 2:15 Monday thru Thursday and I don't get home until around 2:45, at which point I have about 15 minutes to eat something, take a shower, and get ready for work before I have to leave again. I usually work for around 8 hours which means that I don't get back home until midnight. At that point I grab myself a quick dinner and sit down to do homework, even though I'm exhausted and want to go to bed, so by the time I have my work done I'm lucky to get maybe two hours of sleep at most before I have to get up again. I'm already falling behind on my work, and my professors don't really care-- they just tell me to manage my time better and I'm like??? And what time are you referring to??? Plus I can't get better hours bc I've only had my job for two weeks and everyone with seniority gets prioritized, and I have none, so I get the awful hours and I have to make them work when they don't. I'm honestly just so exhausted, and I don't know what to do
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The Ancient One
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what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
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Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 19, 2016 15:42:42 GMT -5
[ Salted Squid; That sounds terrible! Honestly, what I am going to suggest, is get a new job, or quit until you have everything for school figured out. That is not the way that you should be living right now. 2 hours of sleep and a 15 minute break between classes and work is not nearly enough. Is it a job that you can leave? Or at least tell them to cut your hours, not necessarily change them? Because that isn't ok. Right now, you should focus on school and if you have time, a job on the side but it shouldn't consume you like that. ]
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The Ancient One
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pumpkin pie
what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
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Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 20, 2016 7:27:59 GMT -5
Morning(:
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Post by The Noble Dragon on Sept 20, 2016 11:54:19 GMT -5
If you feel like you don't know what you're doing with our life, just remember that Venus spins backwards and we don't even know why. Just do whatever you want honestly.
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The Ancient One
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pumpkin pie
what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
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Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 20, 2016 13:17:54 GMT -5
^^ I love that honestly
But literally though and plus I think of all the people out there who didn't know where they were going or what they were doing but realize that they all made it somehow. So like even if you don't know what you are doing, take it one day at a time and you'll find your way
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Post by ͠ɴ͠ɪ͠ɢ͠ʜ͠ᴛ͠ᴍ͠ɪ͠s͠ᴛ515 on Sept 20, 2016 15:26:16 GMT -5
Hai
Well I know I've never really posted any of my life on here but maybe I will start now. So I had a good morning but when I checked my phone, I had a text from a number I didn't know. It was from a number I didn't know but they had sent a picture of someone I thought I knew. I responded asking their name and later they responded saying and asked who I was I told them my name. She said the picture was ment to go to one of her friends but it was crazy it was to someone she knew. I thought that was crazy because of the chances but something kept feeling wrong because she kept calling me the wrong name and such. I told my mom after school of that story and she was like, "Let me look at the picture!" "Oh, I don't think that's a girl you know!" "Don't ever text anyone back that you don't know." yada yada. Sometimes I just want to slap my mom. I mean I know she's just worried but seriously it's kind of annoying. Anyways I looked up the person I thought she was of ye ol' Facebook and they look almost exactly the same. Now my mom is giving me the silent treatment...
Sorry for posting this negative stuff but I needed to take my frustration out somewhere ... Since I can't drive yet....
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The Ancient One
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pumpkin pie
what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
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Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 20, 2016 15:44:52 GMT -5
Hey Night! Don't worry about posting anything negative here- what ever you have to say, this place is here so you can say it (: If you ever have anything you need to say, don't hesitate!
Hm, that is really interesting. Did you figure out if you knew the girl that texted you? I can see why your mom wouldn't be too happy about you texting her back if you didn't know here because you don't want to give out any personal information as it is not safe, but your mother should have at least been a little more understanding or talked to you about it and explained why it wasn't right or something along the lines rather than give you the silent treatment because what does that do? Sometimes our parents can be annoying, but its all because they care for us and love us, ya know(: Hopefully your day gets better!
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Post by ͠ɴ͠ɪ͠ɢ͠ʜ͠ᴛ͠ᴍ͠ɪ͠s͠ᴛ515 on Sept 20, 2016 17:26:40 GMT -5
Thanks pic. I do feel better with time (you know what time can do. ) and yea. Even my dad agrees my mom can be a little... Well... Short circuited. And she could try to understand the other side of an argument. Anyways, thanks
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The Ancient One
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pumpkin pie
what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
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Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 20, 2016 20:53:17 GMT -5
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Post by The Noble Dragon on Sept 20, 2016 21:23:11 GMT -5
So the discussion of the week is Kindness and there's a reason for that. Lately we have noticed that there has been a lot of unnecessary drama and flame wars on the forums and I feel that that a) doesn't reflect well on us as a community and Just isn't healthy in keeping a positive outlook and safe environment here on the forums. There shouldn't have to be threads who's sole purpose it to be a safe place away from the drama and anger. I understand having important debates and disliking other members for various reasons. But that doesn't mean you guys have to start giant Flame Wars over a sentence another member said that might have been taken the wrong way (Not saying that they are all misunderstandings)! It makes me very angry and upset to see a bunch of members seeming to circle threads just so they can attack like a pack of sharks because someone doesn't share your veiwpoint or isn't as educated on a subject or had an experience that goes against what you think. Everyone on here is supposed to be at or over 13 years old. Act like it. I'm not saying don't discuss topic that are important or need to be talked about. I'm saying to do it in a civil and kind way. Caps locking or attacking a member directly doesn't help your cause! It just makes everyone look immature and like you aren't able to have a decent discussion! Give facts, experiences and say them in a non threatening non passive aggressive tone. Don't attack others on what they think but educate them on your view and listen to theirs. Then everyone can learn something and get along! That aside let me talk about being Kind to others. Yes, I know, sounds like Kindergarten and those 6 pillars of character or something. Contrary to popular belief, it is EXTREMELY hard to be kind to others. I don't know if humanity just has this aversion to peace and is drawn to always finding conflict, but either way it is so hard to be kind to everyone and so easy to be mean or rude to others, especially online when chatting to other people. It's because you can't see the other person's face and they can't see yours. Even if they know your name there's still that note of being anonymous and them being nothing more than an icon and a screen name to you makes it so easy to be mean and rude. There have been so many times I have wanted to say something really rude to a member or kick them out of a thread because something they did really bothered me. But I didn't. I stopped, and looked not at the member's icon or screenname but past that, at the person sitting on the otherside of the computer. That someone who lives a completely different life than I do, that someone who is a different age than me and has a different family than I do. And I realize that it isn't just another member I'm talking to, it's another Human Being who could be going through something that I don't know about or just doesn't have the experience that I do with life. And as hard as it is sometimes I be kind and instead of yelling at them I just gently explain to them what's up or ignore the nit picky thing that was bothering me. People seem to think that those who are kind are weak. But try being kind to someone you "hate" and you'll get a glimpse of how strong they really are. Some of us on here are older members and older people. We have more life experience and maturity than some of the younger people on here. So don't expect everyone to be as mature as you because that happens in their own time. Set the example and be gentle. Ignore Trolls. Ignore Flame Wars. And ignore Drama. The anger and the feeling of dissatisfaction isn't worth it. Don't give our community a bad name, don't give others a reason to leave just because of the drama. Remember that everyone is a person and is entitled to their own beliefs, as much as you or I may disagree on them. Be kind. Be nice. And we can all have fun. I know that rant was a little heavy and specific but I think it needed to be said.
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what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
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Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 20, 2016 21:38:34 GMT -5
Honestly, everything you said 100% right on. I was actually just having a convo with my friend a few ago on a topic like such
Another thing on kindness too, is that we tend to build bad habits. A lot of us spend a good chunk of our time on these forums. If we are constantly surrounded by negativity, hate, no respect or kindness and fighting, what does that teach us in the real world? It almost makes it seem alright because on the internet you can get away with it, but it is no different in person, or on the Internet. Like Deamon said, there is a person behind every screen. We don't know what their lives are like? What they go through? Respect. Kindness. Don't judge a person, fight them, disrespect their opinions because you don't know the way they may feel that way. You wanna have a civil conversation about a topic, go for it, but respect. People come on here as a safety place, a refuge maybe from a place that they are not treated with kindness, only in turn to be treated poorly again? It's not right. And you would think all of us being here, would be able to understand that we are all different. Just be kind to everyone! It makes the world a better place(:
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Post by sweetclover1 on Sept 21, 2016 0:55:28 GMT -5
SO first off, everyone who is on this thread, thank you! Really because of this thread (and other "advice" threads) I was able to find an awesome research topic for my information literacy class, which my topic was interesting enough that my professor said that he hopes I'll be able to create a research paper on it so he can read about it. I just wanted to mention this because our subject was kindness, and this thread and how supportive you guys can be, inspired me to start researching the positive influences online relationships can have on adolescents/young adults. So thank you guys!!
Also, I found a pretty inspirational song... I found it this morning, when I was kind of stressed and feeling rather anxious and somehow it made me feel inspired and more... grounded? so I want to share it... Its called "Battle Scars" by Paradise fears <3 idk maybe it'll lift someone else day too. It does have some rap in it, but its really good!
And one more thing... I agree with you 100% Picia
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#a8d1ff
The Ancient One
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pumpkin pie
what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
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Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 21, 2016 6:55:51 GMT -5
sweetclover1 Aww! That's awesome! That makes me feel so happy! I hope your research paper turns out great! I'm sure it will! That is a really good topic actually! And it's definetly true that it can have a positive impact! I'm glad this place makes a difference though! It's great to know that you can have an impact on others! It really is just a great feeling(: Ooh! I'm gonna have to listen to the song! I might even add it to the list in the front! I'm sure if it made you feel inspired/grounded, it'll make others feel the same way! So thanks for that! (:
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Post by The Noble Dragon on Sept 22, 2016 1:23:26 GMT -5
Good evening everyone!
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Post by ͠ɴ͠ɪ͠ɢ͠ʜ͠ᴛ͠ᴍ͠ɪ͠s͠ᴛ515 on Sept 22, 2016 6:24:46 GMT -5
It's morning. Lol. You posted that at 2am for me. Lol xD that's okay.
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#a8d1ff
The Ancient One
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pumpkin pie
what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
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Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 22, 2016 6:40:57 GMT -5
Haha Morning Deamon! Morning Night!
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Post by The Noble Dragon on Sept 22, 2016 9:29:10 GMT -5
It was like 11PM for me so hush xD morning everyone... it's 7AM.... why am I up so early??
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#a8d1ff
The Ancient One
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pumpkin pie
what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
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Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 22, 2016 10:16:26 GMT -5
xD it's 11:15 am haha Morning to you!
I need to remind myself to post a kindess thing cause I do hav things to say but I always forget lol
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Post by ͠ɴ͠ɪ͠ɢ͠ʜ͠ᴛ͠ᴍ͠ɪ͠s͠ᴛ515 on Sept 22, 2016 11:50:57 GMT -5
Haha. I am popping in in History class. I should probably go do my work.... Lol bye.
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Post by qυeeɴ oғ ɢнoѕтlιɴɢѕ on Sept 22, 2016 12:10:23 GMT -5
I really need to vent but idk if I can using civil language so give me a bit and then I'll post
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#a8d1ff
The Ancient One
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pumpkin pie
what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
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Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 22, 2016 12:15:39 GMT -5
Haha. I am popping in in History class. I should probably go do my work.... Lol bye. Hey! How is history? What type? History is my fav! I really need to vent but idk if I can using civil language so give me a bit and then I'll post Take your time! (:
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Post by The Noble Dragon on Sept 22, 2016 12:53:31 GMT -5
If you need to vent and feel the need to curse, you can always PM me. I don't mind curse words so if you don't want to censor yourself PM me and we can talk!
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Post by ͠ɴ͠ɪ͠ɢ͠ʜ͠ᴛ͠ᴍ͠ɪ͠s͠ᴛ515 on Sept 22, 2016 14:00:38 GMT -5
Haha. I am popping in in History class. I should probably go do my work.... Lol bye. Hey! How is history? What type? History is my fav! I really need to vent but idk if I can using civil language so give me a bit and then I'll post Take your time! (: I'm out of school now. American History. I'm pretty good at it but it's not my favorite subject. The only part I really like is learning about famous figures in history like John Adams or Benjamin Franklin. My favorite subject is science.
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The Ancient One
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pumpkin pie
what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
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Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 22, 2016 20:34:05 GMT -5
AHH! American History!!!! Yes!! Omg yes lol I love love love American history! Benjamin Franklin is my child as is Sam Adams but I also like Lincoln lol I love learning about the wars and everything Colonial times, civil war era- world wars, oh my <3 What kind of science? I am a fan of the earth sciences
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#a8d1ff
The Ancient One
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pumpkin pie
what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
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Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 22, 2016 20:45:43 GMT -5
While I have the time;
Our topic this week for discussion is kindness. The topic es very broad, so I would like to zone in on acts of kindness. Acts of kindness can range from holding the door for someone, helping someone carry their things if you notice they are struggling, smiling at someone, saying hello or asking how their day was, listening and being their when they need someone, inviting someone to sit with you or join in with you if you notice they are lonely, complimenting someone, picking things up for someone if they drop it ect ect. The list goes on and on and they can be anything small or large. No matter the size of the task, these acts of kindness can make someone day. Someone could have been having a terrible day, or dreading something but having you there to help them or show them that someone out there cares, it feels good to not only them, but also to you. An act of kindness can really go a long way.
For me in particular, I've always been the quiet and shy type, but strangely enough, I am also the one who, whenever I notice someone sitting alone, or without a partner or left out, I go to them and talk to them and make them feel like they are part of something and the happiness it brings to their faces is the greatest thing. There was this girl at my school who was in my grade. She used to be my neighbor and when we were young, me, my sis, our other neighbor and her would hang out. Well, this girl didn't have any friends aside from us and she grew especially close to this other neighbor of ours. This neighbor moved away and this girl was left alone. Throughout the years, she was bullied and picked on because she was quiet and different and they make fun of what she wore and it was just sad. We weren't in any of the same classes, but at lunch, I always made sure to invite her to our table and talk to her and make her feel welcome and she just was so happy to have someone talk to her. One day, I asked her when her birthday was and she was confused and she was like why do you need to know my birthday? And I was like so I could send you a birthday card and she almost started crying. Her response was the most genuine smile ever "No one has ever sent me a birthday card before" and I myself, wanted to cry. It's just moments like that that can really make someone's day. Something so small like that, reminds you that there is still some good out in this world (:
I have plenty more stories, but too much to tell lol
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Post by ͠ɴ͠ɪ͠ɢ͠ʜ͠ᴛ͠ᴍ͠ɪ͠s͠ᴛ515 on Sept 23, 2016 5:42:34 GMT -5
AHH! American History!!!! Yes!! Omg yes lol I love love love American history! Benjamin Franklin is my child as is Sam Adams but I also like Lincoln lol I love learning about the wars and everything Colonial times, civil war era- world wars, oh my <3 What kind of science? I am a fan of the earth sciences Lol ok. So we're all hyper! Ummmmm I guess just regular science middle school stuff. I Am learning about... well actually I am having a test today... I gotta go now.
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