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The Ancient One
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pumpkin pie
what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
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Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 15, 2016 6:25:17 GMT -5
I just remembered I have a tiny book with friendship quotes. Ironically enough it was given to me by Mikeala xD My favorite is: I've seen that quote before! I like it! Want me to add it to the front?
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Post by Raven on Sept 15, 2016 7:00:45 GMT -5
Not much of a rant but I don't know how to feel about it Boys are so weird(no offense to any dudes) Like I was literally trying to get in my class This huge group of guys walk by and one of them points at me and goes "(Name) stop looking at her boobies"
Like I'm wearing a tshirt
Why
Just why
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Post by Basement Cat on Sept 15, 2016 7:09:53 GMT -5
I detest morons who are too stubborn to move out of the way when you are biking. Look, I barely use the sidewalk, using the roads as instructed, but every day I have to bike a snail's pace because some idiot is too selfish to move out of the way.
Oh, and don't get me started on the cars. They are obnoxious as can be. I have been almost hit twice already because they don't grasp that the walking sections mean PEDESTRIANS FIRST.
...I seriously hate humans.
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#a8d1ff
The Ancient One
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pumpkin pie
what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
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Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 15, 2016 7:15:38 GMT -5
Not much of a rant but I don't know how to feel about it Boys are so weird(no offense to any dudes) Like I was literally trying to get in my class This huge group of guys walk by and one of them points at me and goes "(Name) stop looking at her boobies" Like I'm wearing a tshirt Why Just why Some boys can just be very immature and boys will be boys. It definetly isn't right that one of them said that to you though. If that continues, I'd say to bring it up with a teacher because that can develop bad habits in guys, ya know? Don't want them to think they can just take advantage of us girls! I'd glare though. Just stare at him til he breaks and show him that you won't tolerate something like that.
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#a8d1ff
The Ancient One
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pumpkin pie
what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
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Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 15, 2016 7:20:12 GMT -5
I detest morons who are too stubborn to move out of the way when you are biking. Look, I barely use the sidewalk, using the roads as instructed, but every day I have to bike a snail's pace because some idiot is too selfish to move out of the way. Oh, and don't get me started on the cars. They are obnoxious as can be. I have been almost hit twice already because they don't grasp that the walking sections mean PEDESTRIANS FIRST. ...I seriously hate humans. Ok ya, that is annoying. Share the sidewalk friends! Some people honestly might not realize that you are there but others, it's really not that hard to move just a quick moment. At my school, I see this all the time, bikes moving slow behind people who don't move- but in our case, it's more of- where do we go because there are way too many people xD Ok ya, some people actually don't see you in the sidewalk, or notice too late and that has happened to me sometimes and I feel so bad that I didn't stop bc by the time I realized, it was too late- but I have never almost hit anyone! Although, the other day, I almost got hit myself because some car decided they weren't going to stop when it is clearly marked that they are supposed to stop, even more so because it is a school zone. It's super annoying so I totally get where you are coming from!
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sweetclover1
Hi loves, like my posts so I'll reply faster <3
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Post by sweetclover1 on Sept 15, 2016 10:28:17 GMT -5
I'm glad you like the thread! I feel it can help people get their feelings out in a healthy, judge-free way and we can all help each other! First of all though. I want you to take a deep breath and let it out. You don't have to rush to figure out your entire future right now. You are young and you have your entire life ahead of you. When I was in 10th grade my math teacher introduced himself to the class with "When I was younger I was a areo-space engineer. Then I was a helicopter pilot for the air force and now i'm a teacher. And I still don't know what I want to be when i grow up!" And he was like in his late 40s-50s and bald with teenage kids. And I think that was the best advice a teacher has given me even if it wasn't directly stated as advice. A lot of people who are well known and famous didn't figure out what they wanted to do till they were much older in life, it seems ridiculous that we are expected at such a young age to have a 20 year plan or something and know exactly what we wanted to do for a living when we didn't know much about the "real" world or our options. I'm in my fourth year of college and I've changed my major twice. First I was a Criminology Major and wanted to join the police force. Then, after taking a justice studies class and not really feeling it, I changed to Environmental Studies so I could become a forest ranger (Something I've wanted to do since I was in 7th grade) and took a class on that. It was extremely boring and I was not enjoying it. It wasn't till I was watching a Youtuber playing a video game and giving a great message out to over a million people that I realized I wanted to make video games. Which I'm pretty set on that but I was also really set on the other ones so that can change to. I'm gonna tell you something that is going to be hard. But. Don't care what your parents say. They won't be disappointed in you because it's something you want to do. People change their mind, you said you wanted to be a Theatre teacher when you were young and didn't know how much work it was. Our hobbies and interests change as we get older so our plan for our future is bound to change too. It's YOUR life. Not your parents. If they think it's because of your boyfriend well then tell them it isn't and give them the explanation you gave us. You were happier in percussion than in theatre... it just took some time to realize it. Which is okay. You have time to figure it out and learn, I'm not gonna rush you and the world should stop doing so as well. Your parents should understand, and if they don't ask them if they grew up to be what they always wanted to do when they were younger. The answer is probably no. I suggest the easiest thing to do is to take a class on music theory of music 101 if there is a class at your school. It'll help you realize if you really wanna go for it and you can meet other kids in the class with similar interests. Making friends is hard, socializing is even harder but sometimes you just gotta ask for help on homework or comment on their clothes or accessories or something and start a conversation. It'll probably get awkward but that's fine, it just takes practice. Hell I'm terrible at socializing and keeping a conversation going so I just tell bad puns and crazy work stories. I'm sorry it's hard without your boyfriend, I live my girlfriend and being apart for longer than like a day is very stressful, but I'm really glad you got to see him! I hope I was able to help ease your mind a bit. You have time and you don't have to make all the decisions right now, especially since you are only in your first year of college! Thank you! I'll definitely keep the bad puns and crazy work stories in mind (boy do I have those ) I've been considering going to the career counciling place, i just don't know if I have time for it as I have classes, work, book club, and student council ahaha. I might just take music theory, thats a good idea Thank you so much!
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Post by The Noble Dragon on Sept 15, 2016 12:48:52 GMT -5
I'm glad I could help! You should def go to the career counceling place when you get the chance! Make sure you have some questions and stuff prepared so you aren't just sitting there like "Uhhhhh....??" Good luck!
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Post by The Noble Dragon on Sept 16, 2016 1:33:40 GMT -5
Good (Nearly) Midnight everyone! The Discussion of the Week will be ending on Sunday and switched to a new topic! All posts talking about healthy and unhealthy relationships will be archived on a separate thread for easy access and for everyone to continue to discuss. (If you don't want your post archived for any reason please let us know! We don't want to upset you!)
If you guys have any advice on how to tell a good friendship from a bad one please share! There are some young people who don't have the experience yet to tell the difference! It took me 5 years to realize that one of my friends wasn't really the best.
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Post by The Noble Dragon on Sept 16, 2016 1:53:23 GMT -5
That's very good advice Sweet!Thank you!!
I hadn't thought of it like that but friends respecting boundaries and rules that have been set up is a very good thing to notice and point out. If your friend breaks a rule that you've told them about then call them out on it other wise they are going to do it again. Sometimes they might have just forgotten the rule or not realized they broke it so gently, but firmly, reminding them of the rule is a good way to keep rules or boundaries strong and the friendship healthy! I also go by how the friend treats their parents and customer service workers! (Remind me to talk about the bubble my mom taught me about later)
Yes listening and giving constructive feedback is an important part of any relationship. Communication is key to basically everything tbh
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Post by Ginz on Sept 16, 2016 2:02:21 GMT -5
i feel like i should really vent about the toxic relationship i got out of a while back and i'm still recovering from but idk where to start or anything
however, i need to sleep
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Post by The Noble Dragon on Sept 16, 2016 2:05:56 GMT -5
It's okay take your time! Sometimes just spilling everything onto a keyboard without it making sense just helps. Our minds and thoughts don't always work in ways that the english language can express properly. You can always go back and edit or build upon and clarify later. I just want you to know that I'm really proud of you for getting out of a toxic relationship. I can imagine it was really hard and hurt a lot but I'm proud of you!
shhhhhh don't say the "s" word xD Sleep isn't a thing. It's illegal lol
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Post by The Noble Dragon on Sept 16, 2016 2:18:15 GMT -5
That's true. If you are firm and clear on boundaries and they still don't listen that when you know you need to have a talk with them or end the relationship because they won't listen, which as you stated, is very important to a friendship
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Bisexual
#ffc5c5
Official Queen of Fan Clans
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ʀᴀɪɴʟᴇᴀғ 🍁
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Easing back in
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Post by ʀᴀɪɴʟᴇᴀғ 🍁 on Sept 16, 2016 2:23:17 GMT -5
My past two relationships were kind of toxic? They ended on bad terms, because I was uncomfortable. This post will kind of go into "trigger" territory for victims of sexual acts. However, I won't detail them, obviously..
My first relationship actually was fine for the first couple of months. Then as we went on down the road, he became more and more clingy. He called everyday to the point where I had to pick up for him to stop. He constantly wanted to hang out, which was fine if he had given me some space. It got to the point where I was afraid he'd go to great lengths to see me. It was kind of like he was obsessed and it scared me. I broke it off, not in person because I was afraid he'd do something.
My second relationship lasted a month or less. He was nice and sweet, but he was really pushy on a topic. He kept mentioning that he couldn't wait for us to do it. He also was very happy at the fact that I hadn't been with anyone in that sense. When he and I were hanging out, he brought me to his room... Nothing "too" bad happened, but it was enough to once again scare me that he'd do something.. If he ignored my "no" the first time, only getting it when I pushed away, then how far would he go if he got impatient? I didn't tell anyone why until after we broke up. I broke it off like with my first relationship, and again, not in person in case he did something. I feel like he would have been more opt to hurt me than the first...
Luckily, I'm with a guy right now who cares about me. We've almost been together for four years, majority of it long distance. He knows about what happened, and he's honestly different than the others. He helps with my depression and helps with making me see that I do matter.
Sorry if my post scared anyone or grew too inappropriate. I'll delete it if need be..
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Post by The Noble Dragon on Sept 16, 2016 2:33:00 GMT -5
Thank you for sharing Rainleaf. I'm really glad you got out of those two relationships because they were toxic.
Sometimes being a little clingy is okay, but if it borderlines stalking or being obsessive then it is not okay. And It's perfectly okay that you broke up with him not in person. Your safety is more important than following "Society's rules".
I've been in a similar relationship with a guy that was very pushy and inappropriate. It didn't last long and made me very uncomfortable, especially when he wouldn't listen to me when I told him not to touch my stomach because it weirded me out at the time and I wasn't comfortable with it. We broke up over text on a mutual note. Again I'm glad you saw that your safety was more important than a face to face meeting, I cannot stress enough how important your personal saftey is.
I'm super glad that your current boyfriend is great to you! You deserve the best and being in a four year relationship is amazing! Congrats and I wish you the best of luck!
Do you mind if I archive your post in the friendship discussion archive (when I make it)? I'll put it under a Spoiler tag so people can avoid it if it triggers them or makes them uncomfortable but I think it's important to talk about, especially with some younger people still exploring themselves and relationships as a whole.
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#ffc5c5
Official Queen of Fan Clans
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ʀᴀɪɴʟᴇᴀғ 🍁
Official ThunderClan & ElmClan Leader
Easing back in
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Post by ʀᴀɪɴʟᴇᴀғ 🍁 on Sept 16, 2016 2:35:41 GMT -5
Thank you! >w<
That's fine. Thanks for listening. c:
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Post by The Noble Dragon on Sept 16, 2016 2:41:57 GMT -5
Of course that's what we're here for!
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#a8d1ff
The Ancient One
Name Colour
pumpkin pie
what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
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Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 16, 2016 6:49:31 GMT -5
Good Morning!
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Post by The Noble Dragon on Sept 17, 2016 1:12:25 GMT -5
Today was not a very good day for me but I hope everyone else had a good day! If not, don't worry it'll get better I promise. There's always tomorrow!
I'll probably talk about my day in a little i just need to relax for a minute
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Post by John 3:16 on Sept 17, 2016 1:16:04 GMT -5
hello everybody
agh bad days are not very good (i am le captain obvious) would you like to talk about it?
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Post by The Noble Dragon on Sept 17, 2016 1:24:26 GMT -5
I will, it has to do with a lot of bad thoughts though so I'll probably put it under a spoiler since it could be potentially triggering.... but I'll type it out in a bit. I'm just gonna relax and listen to music for the moment and make myself some tea. How are you Thistle?
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Post by John 3:16 on Sept 17, 2016 1:26:28 GMT -5
yeesh, I'm not too sure what to say :/
eh, i'm good, besides the fact i'm crying with nervous laughter and horror at the rikey fics i am making myself read for some reason
literally it's like wGHAt t HE hELL aM I rEADiGN
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Post by The Noble Dragon on Sept 17, 2016 3:30:02 GMT -5
lol sounds like fun xD
basically I was having a huge spell of dysphoria from my being Gender Fluid. I just felt really gross and disgusted my myself and my body because It isn't guy enough and it isn't girl enough and it is just gross and bad to look at and I hate looking at myself in a mirror and just ugh none of my clothes feel like they fit right and it's terrible. And then there's my name. It's a very gendered name which I don't dislike it but sometimes when I'm trying to be a seperate gender for the day it throws people and me off to have that name. So I usually go by Sam bc it's gender neutral but sometimes it doesn't feel right either and a lot of the time just thinking about my names makes me sick to my stomach and want to throw up because neither feel right but why should I get to pick a new name when other people can't? so yeah I just have my nametag at work say Sam to make it easier for customers and so I don't get as many weird looks but sometimes I just take it off because I don't want to have a name. But anyways earlier me and my gf were putting away laundry and we were arguing about something small but like I picked up this shirt that I had gotten from the mens section bc I really liked it but a few days ago when I went to wear it to be guy passing for the day my gf told me that it didn't make me look like a guy and I got really upset and wanted to throw the shirt away because it was supposed to be one of my guy shirts and if it couldn't be that why should I keep it? But I picked teh shirt up from the laundry pile and just all the gross feelings and bad thoughts converged on me so I finished the laundry as quick as I could so I could get away from my gf and feel sorry for myself and she tried to get me to tell her what was wrong but I haven't really told her all about my feelings on the whole gender thing(Like she accepts the genderfluid thing and supports me wholeheartedly but I never wanted her to know how MUCH I hated myself about it) so she tried to get me to tell her what was wrong because I was crying but I just pushed her away because she wouldn't understand how I felt bc she's cis and doesn't have an existential crisis everytime someone says my name(s), or when I get dressed or even go to the freaking bathroom and she's pretty and looks like a girl and I look like a freak and I don't want her to worry bc if I told her she'd get that sad face and say my birth name in that way and try to hug me but I didn't want her to touch me bc I'm gross and I just kinda wanted to die so I pushed her away till right before she left for work when I told her I loved her and she snapped at me because she thought I was trying to get a rise out of her by saying that but I wasn't I just didn't want her to go to work with the last words bad between us so I wanted her to know I loved her a lot and then she said she loved me too and I let her give me a hug and promised to come home from work which helped my feelings a little bc she's so nice and caring. I ended up partially telling her about how I feel when we both got home from work and she did the face but it was nice and she helped but yeah. I just... don't really want others, especially those close to me, to know how I feel i guess? I just like being a private person but like I'm so private I don't tell anyone anything...... oops. Work wasn't very good either and didn't help my mood much but we didn't get super busy so eh.
Sorry for long rant. I'm fine now that's just what I was feeling earlier
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#a8d1ff
The Ancient One
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pumpkin pie
what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
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Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 17, 2016 6:46:29 GMT -5
Good Morning!
Imma read that in a sec Deamon! But for now, I hope your day gets better(:
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#a8d1ff
The Ancient One
Name Colour
pumpkin pie
what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
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Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 17, 2016 13:50:26 GMT -5
Ok this is such a super late response but I am so sorry you feel that way:/ I can't say I know how you feel because I don't go through what you do, but I can imagine the inner controversy just going back in your forth in your mind that you can't escape. I can at least say that I understand thoughts that just make you break and it feels terrible because sometimes thoughts just come on you and you can't control them or stop them- you just gotta wait for it to be over and sometimes too, there isn't anything that anyone else can do. When I get like that, I push people away and I get in a mood and just don't come near me and my friend who I tell legit everything, he knows I get like this and I get very mad at myself when I can't tell him everything but thankfully he is understanding and everything but I get you on the privacy- I mean, somethings you just need to keep to yourself- like you want to be able to talk about it, but it is easier said than done. Also...I don't know how this will make you feel, so I don't mean to make it sound any bad way, but Sam is actually one of my fav names- it's the name of one of my main characters a book I am writing and if I ever have kids, that name is top on my list
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Post by The Noble Dragon on Sept 17, 2016 22:18:08 GMT -5
Thanks Pic. I feel a lot better today. I got to see my best friend earlier and hung out with her. We've been friends for almost 10 years! Seeing her always seems to reset my mood to good and she's just so sweet and honest I love her so much xD But yeah I push people away all the time and my gf gets upset about it which I understand but it's really hard to just share so much with others and be compeltely open (Even though I seem to have no problem telling the internet my problems lol. Thats why i wanted to make this thread kinda) with her because I don't wanna worry her and I don't really wanna aknowledge it. I told her this morning what I had been thinking about yesterday and she was really supportive and nice about it and said that even if she doesn't understand since she's Cis she still loves me and supports me. But yeah I've never read or seen a bad Sam. Sam is like always the hero or good guy and I just wanna associate with that so much and it's one of my fav names too!
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Post by ๖ۣۜCrossroads on Sept 17, 2016 22:39:06 GMT -5
A little bummed today because I missed work and one of my best friends' birthday parties. My car battery died and no one was willing to carpool me to both events. Not really something I got super sad about, just a little something I needed to shove off right now.
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#a8d1ff
The Ancient One
Name Colour
pumpkin pie
what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
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Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 18, 2016 6:26:30 GMT -5
@deamon; Hanging with you friends is always great, especially the ones you have literally known forever! I have one friend like that and it's funny because we were actually baptized together too haha but ya, we have known each other forever and it's just really nice being able to hang out with your best friends lol like it really does make you happy! I'm glad you had a good time! Honestly, it is sometimes so much easier through the Internet than in person. I think it's like saying it out loud, things become more real but by holding it in we can kinda pretend that it's ok, even if it isn't- like whatever is happened, it's not actually happeneing to us, even though it is. It's great that she is so supportive though. It's nice to have someone who you can talk to in person who understand everything, even if it's not always easy telling them. Honestly though, that's true haha ๖ۣۜCrossroads; Oh gosh! I am sorry to hear that:/ That must have really stunk:/ and no one could give you a ride at all? Hmft. If you are anything like me, I get super anxious being late for something, Nevermind missing it all together because of car malfunctions! I'd be upset about it still- I mean, while who really wants to work, I'd be sad to have missed the party. Hopefully your car battery gets replaced so you don't have to deal with that anymore!
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Post by The Noble Dragon on Sept 19, 2016 0:08:33 GMT -5
Yeah I love her so much. I also love my gf so much. I just love everybody xD Ahhh the perks/disadvantages of being Pansexual xD
But hey guys I'm gonna change the Discussion of the week to Kindness now! I'll add my two cents to the discussion in a little but I have to do some homework first.
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