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Post by Sand on Dec 8, 2022 18:11:15 GMT -5
I feel like someone hit a giant pause button on my life at age 13-14 because mental illness and trauma stole my teenage years from me and obliterated all of middle school and most of high school. In the last year or so I finally hit "resume" and picked up where I left off and despite entering my twenties I still feel/act like a young teen. Meanwhile other people my age are living independently, holding down a job, and are halfway through or finished with college. I'm still growing and healing and I try my best to not compare myself to others, but there are days when I'm afraid I'll never catch up. This is coming from someone who was consistently praised by adults and teachers for being so mature and intelligent for my age when I was young btw. Now I think I'm going backwards  I don’t know why I feel that this could’ve been me who wrote this. My life went on pause once I turned 12 and I’ve only been able to hit play several times. Graduating high school and graduating from college are two times I remember hitting play. People my age (at least the ones I grew up with) have a job, have romantic, intimate, or friendship experiences. They don’t require a caretaker. They’re completely independent and can focus on something other than their health. They’ve got privacy and they’re not disabled by a medical condition that’s killed their own independence. I was always told I was mature for my age :/. I don’t know if I consider that a bad or good compliment. |
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Post by 𝕊’𝕞𝕠𝕣𝕖 on Dec 8, 2022 18:17:28 GMT -5
Being an author is so hard, nobody really cares about your book, not even your friends, it’s a constant struggle to get anyone invested enough to read it, and the fact that I’m not really well liked anywhere doesn’t help either. It feels like a constant, uphill battle that I’m probably gonna fail at and prove everyone who doubted me right. Sure I love my story and I’m honestly writing it mostly for me, but I’m beginning to worry that nobody else cares and it’s all hopeless in the end.
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Post by Twilight Sparkle on Dec 8, 2022 19:02:29 GMT -5
Being an author is so hard, nobody really cares about your book, not even your friends, it’s a constant struggle to get anyone invested enough to read it, and the fact that I’m not really well liked anywhere doesn’t help either. It feels like a constant, uphill battle that I’m probably gonna fail at and prove everyone who doubted me right. Sure I love my story and I’m honestly writing it mostly for me, but I’m beginning to worry that nobody else cares and it’s all hopeless in the end. Oof, on the same boat as you. I know the feeling. You pour the contents of your heart out into a book and then no one seems to care or think of it as a big deal. It's especially hard to advertise if you're an introvert. What things have you done to promote your book? I might be able to help/offer suggestions. |
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Post by 𝕊’𝕞𝕠𝕣𝕖 on Dec 8, 2022 23:03:55 GMT -5
Being an author is so hard, nobody really cares about your book, not even your friends, it’s a constant struggle to get anyone invested enough to read it, and the fact that I’m not really well liked anywhere doesn’t help either. It feels like a constant, uphill battle that I’m probably gonna fail at and prove everyone who doubted me right. Sure I love my story and I’m honestly writing it mostly for me, but I’m beginning to worry that nobody else cares and it’s all hopeless in the end. Oof, on the same boat as you. I know the feeling. You pour the contents of your heart out into a book and then no one seems to care or think of it as a big deal. It's especially hard to advertise if you're an introvert. What things have you done to promote your book? I might be able to help/offer suggestions. I'm on facebook, instagram, tiktok, tumblr, and twitter (but I rarely use it) and I pst updates and have just been kind of trying to gain a following Part of my problem is that my book is out on Kindle Vella, which not a lot of people know about (Amazon has sucked at promoting it) and people don't seen very willing to read a series in an episodic format |
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Post by Twilight Sparkle on Dec 9, 2022 6:57:22 GMT -5
Oof, on the same boat as you. I know the feeling. You pour the contents of your heart out into a book and then no one seems to care or think of it as a big deal. It's especially hard to advertise if you're an introvert. What things have you done to promote your book? I might be able to help/offer suggestions. I'm on facebook, instagram, tiktok, tumblr, and twitter (but I rarely use it) and I pst updates and have just been kind of trying to gain a following Part of my problem is that my book is out on Kindle Vella, which not a lot of people know about (Amazon has sucked at promoting it) and people don't seen very willing to read a series in an episodic format DM'd you. |
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Post by Quill on Dec 9, 2022 10:48:01 GMT -5
I hate the fact that I might not be able to get married to my partner because of their chronic illness. Why do we have to choose between getting disability payments and getting married?!
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Post by Dark Sun on Dec 9, 2022 11:57:20 GMT -5
How the heck have I been awake for 9 hours? All I did today was game for a couple hours, dealt with laundry, had a snack, and vacuumed. Where did the 5 or 6 other hours go? Am I losing it? I swear this is happening every day, where 5-6 hours just slip away from me.
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Being a theater kid
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Post by 🅃🄴🄼🄿🄾 on Dec 10, 2022 0:13:19 GMT -5
I can't tell if my mom doesn't really knows what's going on with me, or just won't take me seriously. Here's why.
I have trouble breathing A LOT of the time. Most of the time it's that I feel like I'm suffocating and can't take a deep enough breath, other times it's during/after physical activity. I have complained to my mom about it several times, but she always says "that's just how you're body is". Meanwhile, she takes my brother to the doctor for the same thing and he has asthma. Like, you can't seriously think that I might not have the same thing! It could possibly be genetic!
I've also been struggling with stress and anxiety a lot lately. I had a whole week where I would skip dance because I was so burnt out. My mom automatically assumes I have depression, I would honestly like an official opinion, but she would most likely say something along the lines of, "I looked it up, I know you have it". Sorry Mom, but the internet doesn't know everything.
I know I complain about my mother a lot, and yes this is another paragraph where I will complain about her. So, I feel sick after eating and drinking anything, water isn't as bad. I especially start feeling sick after eating dairy. I have told my mom quite a few times about me feeling sick after eating and drinking, but she just brushes it off and doesn't care. I've honestly learned to kinda deal with it.
At this point, I should really learn not to tell my mom about stuff like this. But I just keep running back like a puppy, just begging for its owner to show them love. I bet if this stuff were happening to my brother, she'd take him to get checked out.
If anybody actually reads this, could you maybe give me some insight on what to do or how to deal with it? It would help me out a bunch! (P.S. Sorry for the long paragraphs!)
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Post by Leapkit on Dec 10, 2022 0:32:04 GMT -5
Pretty sure this counts as medical neglect and you can report it. It definitely sounds like athsma, and athsma can run in families. Idk what to do about possible depression or not, but I understand wanting a formal opinion. Same for the stomach issues, though it could be lactose intolerance or IBS and even if you can't be diagnosed what you can figure out is what foods make you feel the worst by process of elimination and try to avoid them and avoid dairy. Just try a little bit of something and wait an hour or two and see if it makes you feel sick or bubbly. Write those foods down. Especially avoid anything thats super greasy cause grease is like the #1 offender for stomach issues in general. |
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Post by 🅃🄴🄼🄿🄾 on Dec 10, 2022 1:31:51 GMT -5
Leapkit Thank you so much for the advice! I don't think I would really report my mom for medical neglect unless it got a lot worse than this. Besides, even after neglecting me at times, both medically and non-medically, I love her. I know it may seem strange sine I complain about her a lot, but it's kinda an instinct for me to love her. So glad that somebody actually tried to help me out and that I could tell other people about this so I could get a little weight off my shoulders.
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Post by Leapkit on Dec 10, 2022 2:15:17 GMT -5
Leapkit Thank you so much for the advice! I don't think I would really report my mom for medical neglect unless it got a lot worse than this. Besides, even after neglecting me at times, both medically and non-medically, I love her. I know it may seem strange sine I complain about her a lot, but it's kinda an instinct for me to love her. So glad that somebody actually tried to help me out and that I could tell other people about this so I could get a little weight off my shoulders. Of course, though if your breathing gets any worse PLEASE PLEASE tell someone else, a school nurse, another adult, something. I don't mean to panic you but athsma attacks can kill someone if they are very severe and aren't helped. |
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Post by Quill on Dec 10, 2022 12:45:50 GMT -5
🅃🄴🄼🄿🄾It sounds like your mom might not be the right person to go to. If you have access to a school nurse or any other community healthcare providers, I would reach out to them. In the meantime, try to avoid physical activity or other triggers. Breathing problems/asthma are not something you want to mess with!
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Post by Dark Sun on Dec 10, 2022 21:25:39 GMT -5
1) I am the one cooking, and I have prepared this meal many times before for myself. I know how I like it. Every time someone walks by, they never fail to adjust the dials on the oven. Leave me to it please. When I ask you to not touch anything, I mean don't touch anything. 2) I once again had to hear my mother go on about why Ramen and other forms of noodles are "unhealthy". I asked her why out of curiosity, and her response was something about Chinese people that I won't repeat here. (Not to mention she got the country and its people wrong.) That aside even, she also believes that common dishes like mashed potatoes are "unhealthy". Meanwhile she frequently serves just bland white rice with no sauce or anything.  |
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Post by Dark Sun on Dec 10, 2022 21:30:17 GMT -5
Here comes my favorite time of the year. Spending time with my family. (Insert sarcasm here.) My sister and my father are alright, but I always look forward to hanging out with someone who acts like she's 5 years old a lot of the time and who regularly spouts racist or Christian extremist nonsense. (Not saying all Christians fall into this group.) Oh boy, this is going to be a fun rest of the month for me. Why can I just be left alone? I don't even mean to sound broody, I just genuinely don't connect with her, and I don't particularly want to either. Oh but if I say no she'll get verbally abusive and then turn it on me calling me a "big meanie". (Seriously, she uses that word for every situation where something doesn't go her way.) |
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Post by Quill on Dec 12, 2022 17:55:58 GMT -5
Slowly but surely dragging myself across the finish line for the semester. Usually the end of the semester is a breeze because I work ahead during the semester and have everything almost done. This semester, though, I have procrastinated and am paying the price. I'm so humiliated at how lazy and unproductive I've become.
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Post by *Ravenpaw* on Dec 12, 2022 17:57:41 GMT -5
Tired of being sick. It's been since last Thursday.
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Arcane Season 2 has got me in a chokehold once again (do not send help)
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Post by Dɾҽαɱƈʅσυԃ on Dec 13, 2022 16:04:19 GMT -5
That moment when a video game somehow manages to ruin my laptop screen settings because the system its running on is outdated and my PC just cannot handle it. Like, can you not Sims Medieval?! Guess I'm never playing that game ever again...
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Post by Dɾҽαɱƈʅσυԃ on Dec 13, 2022 16:12:16 GMT -5
I feel like someone hit a giant pause button on my life at age 13-14 because mental illness and trauma stole my teenage years from me and obliterated all of middle school and most of high school. In the last year or so I finally hit "resume" and picked up where I left off and despite entering my twenties I still feel/act like a young teen. Meanwhile other people my age are living independently, holding down a job, and are halfway through or finished with college. I'm still growing and healing and I try my best to not compare myself to others, but there are days when I'm afraid I'll never catch up. This is coming from someone who was consistently praised by adults and teachers for being so mature and intelligent for my age when I was young btw. Now I think I'm going backwards This sounds extremely familiar. Oh wait, it's me as well. Things started going downhill for me at the age of 13 too. Previously, I'd been praised by my parents, teachers and other adults for being so eloquent with words and great at writing as well as mature for my age, at the time. Nowadays, I don't feel like any of those things were ever true or at the very least aren't anymore which just sucks. Depression, feeling pressured in school, getting bullied and so on all but ruined my teenage experience. Not even therapy really helped me back then as much as I had hoped for but ever since stopping that, I'm now trying to get another chance at getting one by next year. |
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Post by Tealraven on Dec 13, 2022 21:07:32 GMT -5
I hate shopping for my Dad.
I get him something and, even if he previously said he wanted it, he complains or throws it away.
I don't get him anything and he complains because he feels left out.
I can't win.
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Post by Leapkit on Dec 13, 2022 22:26:16 GMT -5
I hate shopping for my Dad. I get him something and, even if he previously said he wanted it, he complains or throws it away. I don't get him anything and he complains because he feels left out. I can't win. Have him write it down or write down what he says in front of him, that way if he tries it again you can pull out the piece of paper and be like but you said you wanted it, see, i even wrote it down. |
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Post by Tealraven on Dec 13, 2022 22:42:40 GMT -5
That would just make him more annoyed, I think.
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Post by rob lucci's wife on Dec 14, 2022 7:23:32 GMT -5
edit burnout is happening when i need my creativity the most  |
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Post by Deleted on Dec 14, 2022 17:42:14 GMT -5
I've been dealing with lonliness a lot. I don't have any friends and its hard to make any when the first thing people think fo you is that you're weird. I've been writing stories a lot and want to do something great a collab with friends on a story, but that's kinda hard when you don't have friends and people you know don't exactly like you once you tell them you have one restriction on your writing that you don't wanna do.
I tell myself everyday that someone out there has it worse and I should be grateful and I am, but it still hurts and I think it's getting worse. (Mainly sense I have a serious case of imposter sydrome)
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Post by Deleted on Dec 14, 2022 17:48:11 GMT -5
It's ok! I feel that way all the time about my stories. I am in no way to give advice but I also have been struggling with this with the past few days and its terrible. But it'll get better, everything does at one point!
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Post by Chicken on Dec 16, 2022 13:28:28 GMT -5
I've been dealing with lonliness a lot. I don't have any friends and its hard to make any when the first thing people think fo you is that you're weird. I've been writing stories a lot and want to do something great a collab with friends on a story, but that's kinda hard when you don't have friends and people you know don't exactly like you once you tell them you have one restriction on your writing that you don't wanna do. I tell myself everyday that someone out there has it worse and I should be grateful and I am, but it still hurts and I think it's getting worse. (Mainly sense I have a serious case of imposter sydrome) Don't tell yourself that other people have it worse, that just makes you more miserable, not only are you pushing down your feelings, that DO matter, just because someone has problems doesn't make yours invalid and it doesn't help ANYONE to say that, everyone matters, even you, but you're also maybe making yourself feel worse by thinking about all these other people's problems Making friends is hard, some people are judgmental a-holes, but there are people out there who will accept you and maybe even write a story with you I joined this place when I was 19, I really didn't have many friends before then, but now a few years later, I have some friends who I can go weeks without talking to, and we're still friends because that's just how good our friendship got The same thing could happen for you too, and I believe that it will What kind of story are you interested in writing? |
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Post by Deleted on Dec 16, 2022 13:36:53 GMT -5
Thanks, reading this made me really happy!
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Post by Chicken on Dec 16, 2022 15:29:12 GMT -5
Thanks, reading this made me really happy! No prob, I'm glad to hear that! |
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Post by Leapkit on Dec 16, 2022 16:10:34 GMT -5
I agree with everything Chicken said.
Making friends can be hard and doesn't always come naturally and it can feel awkward to make a friendship happen.
I miss the days where id just ask some random girl on the playground ive never met if she wanted to be friends and then wed never see each other again. man. those friendships were easy.
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Post by Tealraven on Dec 18, 2022 14:20:25 GMT -5
let it be known that i really
REALLY
deeply hate white elephant gift exchanges for reasons i can’t quite put into words
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Post by Quill on Dec 18, 2022 14:49:14 GMT -5
I hate that the gifts in white elephant gift exchanges are usually super useless. Like, why do we make an event of giving people things that we know they probably don't want or can't use?
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