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Post by Saint Ambrosef on Sept 5, 2017 11:31:31 GMT -5
I have 0 sense of emotional support. It's just not in my personality. Even with close friends, when they vent to me privately about a problem, my immediate response is "here's how you can fix this." I'm not good at comforting for people I truly care about, nevermind complete strangers on the internet.
Even when I know the forumer in question, I avoid vent threads. It's not a personal offense. It's not that I don't care. It's that me getting involved will solve nothing and likely only worsen the situation on both sides (trust me, I've tried in the past).
Also, to be equally blunt: OTD is not a therapist's office. The board is not your personal rant bucket for whenever you need to blow off steam. Sure, it's okay to do it every once and a while. But it gets exasperating to come online and see 1/4 of the new threads are complaining about life. I come to online communities to escape RL drama, not wade in more of it. There are other people on this board and it's high time that some OTDers remember that.
Additionally, maybe if a certain few OTDers actually participated in normal discussion from time to time rather than only seeming to post here to vent, perhaps then I'd be a little more invested in their emotional lives.
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Post by ℜust ℜed ℜose on Sept 5, 2017 12:02:38 GMT -5
While I am absolutely dreadful with advice, I do try to always post when I see those kinds of threads. I do care about how everyone on this forum is doing, and I do want to offer support, even though sometimes I'm just as socially inept.
For those who need to vent, I'm always willing to listen, so don't feel OTD's the only place to go. Even if you don't know me or have never talked to me on these forums before, feel free to shoot me a PM whenever.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 5, 2017 12:06:08 GMT -5
also gonna add as someone who posts a lot of rant topics that i don't expect ppl to respond. yea sometimes it's nice especially when someone can go "i was in a similar situation and it turned out ok" but like tbh 99% of the reason i post that stuff here is bc ppl who know me irl know my other accounts. i can't post this to twitter or tumblr. ppl will contact me. sometimes you just gotta throw something out and say it and it doesn't matter if other ppl respond. tbh i don't think it makes you a better or worse person for responding or not to vent topics so.
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Post by veronica on Sept 5, 2017 14:30:11 GMT -5
most people posting vent threads are looking for attention I vent a lot on other places and forums and sometimes on here, and everyone either ignores it and if they don't, they laugh at me and say I'm looking for attention.
Makes me feel worthless.
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Post by ✶Jaysong✶ on Sept 5, 2017 14:53:33 GMT -5
I completely understand why some of you guys don't want to post on vent threads. They're all really valid points. Both sides of this matter, it all really depends on who you are and if you have your own things, so the following opinion is just that: purely mine. This is how I feel and it's not objective on the topic.
I have to partially agree with Aqua. As a person who posts vent threads occasionally (at least from my perspective) and as a person who's not good at giving advice to other people, I don't go on vent threads to offer advice and I don't create vent threads to get advice. Most of the time, I make the threads hoping that somebody will read it and and acknowledge it. I'm not asking for a two page response on what I post, I just need to know that during a bad time that there are people out there that, maybe don't understand, but care. So if you reply to my vent thread with one line, or one paragraph, maybe even just saying that "I'm sorry, that sounds bad. I wish you the best", that works fine too. I'm not asking for an answer I just need to know that there's somebody out there that listened. Because sometimes being listened to is one of the best things.
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Post by 🎃❅❖.Şp໐໐kฯຟiຖ໓.❖❅🎃 on Sept 5, 2017 15:11:47 GMT -5
I find myself agreeing with what you're saying.
But at the same time I can get why others might not post. It's not something obligatory to do. It's not something required. I do wish there were more people who would be capable of helping others. But honestly, this is a site to just have fun on.
When I see a vent go untouched I do feel bad for it. Sometimes there really is nothing that I myself can say though.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 5, 2017 16:05:51 GMT -5
dunno if anyone's suggested this yet, but there are always vent apps and hotlines that are there if you absolutely need a response. i know its not ideal but its better than nothing
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Post by Alpha on Sept 5, 2017 17:37:33 GMT -5
I think this behavior is fairly natural, to be honest. However, only if you think of them like fads.
At the beginning, new fads will be active and plentiful. However, as it continues, it will start to die out as people lose energy to respond and make the threads. In this case, the thread creation will not slow down, but the rate of reply will.
Not to mention, there are other factors affecting it. The "fad effect" isn't going to touch everything equally.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 5, 2017 17:43:25 GMT -5
also it's completely natural to vent like telling people their problems and asking for help is just what people do and it's weird to act like it's bad because it's "for attention" like Yea if you're feeling bad and you have a problem ofc you want attention it's normal to want attention are you saying you never do anything for attention? you don't post threads for attention? bc you want ppl to talk to you which is attention? you're not obligated to respond if you're honestly bothered by vent threads because they're "just for attention" then just ignore them. it's easy.
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