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Post by sphagnosidum on Sept 6, 2016 11:29:58 GMT -5
I need some opinions for homework. Tell me your demographics that your comfortable sharing. Like gender, age, what kind of school are you going to (high school, college?), country (if usa, what part of the country), race, ethnicity, religion, orientation etc. WHATEVER you feel comfortable sharing, go ahead.
Then tell me what do you think are the three most important things in a romantic relationship.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 6, 2016 11:34:10 GMT -5
Gender: NB (male/agender) Age: 18 School: College Country: USA (Texas) Race: White Religion: Pagan Orientation: Bi
I think the three most important things in a relationship are respect, trust, and communication. emphasis on the communication.
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Post by sphagnosidum on Sept 6, 2016 11:41:54 GMT -5
thanks gojira. I have a few follow up questions if you don't mind. edit: and snoeweystream!
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Post by Deleted on Sept 6, 2016 11:43:49 GMT -5
what are your follow up questions? :0
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Post by sphagnosidum on Sept 6, 2016 11:46:04 GMT -5
Would you be able to date someone very religious?
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Post by Deleted on Sept 6, 2016 11:48:11 GMT -5
Would you be able to date someone very religious? that depends. i myself am very religious, so i have no problem with it but if i dated someone who was, say, a very devout Christian that constantly told me i was a sinner that would go to hell then i don't think it would work out.
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Post by sphagnosidum on Sept 6, 2016 11:52:15 GMT -5
Ah, so no shoving religion in the face? Understandable, plays into the respect part.
Next question: Would you date someone over 300 pounds than you?
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Post by qυeeɴ oғ ɢнoѕтlιɴɢѕ on Sept 6, 2016 11:56:25 GMT -5
Gender: Female Age: 19 School: College Location: Florida Race: Mostly White, Half Hispanic Religion: Between Pagan and Wicca Orientation: Homoromantic Bisexual(I date women do things with both) Mental things: Diagnosed ADHD, probably have depression and other things that weren't diagnosed because I refused to be honest and upfront with any of my therapists. Events that happened to me that should make me feel one way like most have actually affected me differently and therefore I'm pretty twisted.
The three most important things in a relationship for me are trust, mutuality, and the ability to accept the things about the other within a certain degree that have occurred in the past and help the other overcome their regrets by letting them know you are there for them. That's the best way I can explain it.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 6, 2016 11:59:12 GMT -5
Ah, so no shoving religion in the face? Understandable, plays into the respect part. Next question: Would you date someone over 300 pounds than you? yes. i care more about personality than looks, and have no qualms with people being overweight (i'm a bit chubby myself, but i can blame meds for that lol.) HOWEVER i would encourage that person to try their hardest to lose weight, because there is a point where it's not just "being overweight," it's morbid obesity which is very unhealthy and i wouldn't want to lose my partner to something like that.
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Post by cal ✩ on Sept 6, 2016 12:00:35 GMT -5
Gender: Cis Female Age: 17 School: University Country: Canada (Ontario) Race: Caucasian Religion: Agnostic Orientation: Hetero
Trust Honesty Understanding
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Post by Sanders on Sept 6, 2016 12:05:39 GMT -5
Gender: boy Age: 20 Location: midwest usa Race: white Religion: idk. im not really religious at all Orientation: Aromantic. im only sexually attracted to girls/people who present in a more feminine way.
Top three things in a relationship. 1. COMMUNICATION. this is so important that it's not even funny. like if you want your relationship to go well, this is what you have to be able to do. 2. OPENNESS. this goes along with the communication thing. you have to be able to talk about things that make you uncomfortable. you have to tell your partner things that you aren't going to tell everyone else. especially when it comes to things that do hurt you or whatever. they can't read your mind so you have to be able to tell them things that you're not used to talking about. 3. RESPECT. you gotta respect them to make their own decisions and also respect their boundaries and respect everything they tell you from the first one. if they tell you something you can't just be rude abt it because they share things with you that they normally wouldn't. so ye.
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Post by sphagnosidum on Sept 6, 2016 12:07:36 GMT -5
Thanks for responding everyone. If you wish, you can answer the other questions.
Here are another question: How is it important for your partner to have money?
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Post by sphagnosidum on Sept 6, 2016 12:13:27 GMT -5
These are probably going to be the last questions because I'm tired of asking questions.
Would you date someone who does drugs? An serious illness? Do you believe opposites attract?
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Post by qυeeɴ oғ ɢнoѕтlιɴɢѕ on Sept 6, 2016 12:21:43 GMT -5
for me the last three are important.
I don't want to date anyone that does drugs especially that involve smoke because my lungs are sensitive but in this day and age its so common that I feel like you would never find anyone of you look for those that down smoke or do drugs. I would try to get them to stop but I feel like it wouldn't be avoidable. I would depending. If someone had something like PTSD or severe depression I would because while I might not have PTSD I have experienced things that can relate and I feel like I could help them just like with depression cause I know how it is to have it. I would be able to deal with it better than something else. I do believe opposites attract cause I usually fall for the really mean, to me, girls who are straight or are just straight while most people say I'm the nicest person they have ever met. I tend to act different in person, I'm really quiet and it depends how many people I'm with if I'm childish or serious but generally I like girls who are down to earth and take charge. I most like older woman too, the oldest crush I've had being 24 currently. I like the idea that we would balance each other out. Its like height difference for your personalities
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Post by Sanders on Sept 6, 2016 12:27:11 GMT -5
Would you be able to date someone very religious? as long as they are okay with me not being religious and are okay with the fact that my entire family is not religious and i don't really want to go to a place of worship with them. but im also trans and sometimes very religious people don't even agree with my existence so that's another thing to consider so like. i have to be careful of the one i pick to date. because they could just be like "well. i hope that in the future you're not trans" or something or try to get me to be not trans. who knows.
Would you date someone over 300 pounds than you? well then they would be very overweight. i mean im overweight and if someone was 300 pounds heavier than me i would be concerned. but sure. altho if they're taller than me then im not really into it ):
How is it important for your partner to have money? it's kind of what im banking on :/ jk. but it's not really that important. obviously i don't want them to be a deadbeat and expect me to make all the money and not do anything with their life. but they don't have to be rich or anything. just enough for us to get by comfortably. we're probs not having kids tho so
Would you date someone who does drugs? honestly i would prefer them to not do drugs. i don't do any kind of drugs and i don't really want a partner who would do them around me. because it makes me uncomfortable. especially if they continually try to get me to do it with them. alcohol is a different story tho. when i turn 21 anyway.
An serious illness? what kind of illness are we talking abt? like physical/mental illness? because i mean yes to both.
Do you believe opposites attract? yes/no? i don't think you can be totally opposite and get along. you have to have something in common in order to like someone imo. obviously you can have different tastes in things. i like trashy pop music my girlfriend likes german rap. my girlfriend likes horror movies all i want to watch are trashy disney cartoons. so like yes. you can get along. but you still need some common ground to stand on. but it's also nice to have another person bring new things to the table. i showed my gf some really good cartoons that she probably wouldn't have watched on her own. she's played me some good music i actually like (which is rare) so like. there's a balance to it.
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Post by sphagnosidum on Sept 6, 2016 12:33:17 GMT -5
for me the last three are important. I don't want to date anyone that does drugs especially that involve smoke because my lungs are sensitive but in this day and age its so common that I feel like you would never find anyone of you look for those that down smoke or do drugs. I would try to get them to stop but I feel like it wouldn't be avoidable. I would depending. If someone had something like PTSD or severe depression I would because while I might not have PTSD I have experienced things that can relate and I feel like I could help them just like with depression cause I know how it is to have it. I would be able to deal with it better than something else. I do believe opposites attract cause I usually fall for the really mean, to me, girls who are straight or are just straight while most people say I'm the nicest person they have ever met. I tend to act different in person, I'm really quiet and it depends how many people I'm with if I'm childish or serious but generally I like girls who are down to earth and take charge. I most like older woman too, the oldest crush I've had being 24 currently. I like the idea that we would balance each other out. Its like height difference for your personalities This is a very interesting answer. You might date someone with a serious illness because you might relate to them, but you say opposite attract.
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Post by ~TopmødeFlyinglark~ on Sept 6, 2016 12:35:11 GMT -5
Gender: Male/Agender Age: 14 School: Secondary Country: United Kingdom Race/Ethnicity: White British Religion: Agnostic Pantheist Orientation: Homosexual 1. Openness 2. Respect 3. Equality Would you be able to date someone very religious? If they were accepting of other viewpoints and people who went against their religion, yes. Would you date someone over 300 pounds than you? If I liked their personality, maybe. How is it important for your partner to have money? I would rather me and my partner both worked, if possible, and shared the money we earnt.Would you date someone who does drugs? If it involved smoking, I'd rather they didn't do it in front of me. An serious illness? Yes. Do you believe opposites attract? No, I think opposites drive away.
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Post by qυeeɴ oғ ɢнoѕтlιɴɢѕ on Sept 6, 2016 12:38:10 GMT -5
I mean people deal with their issues differently. I cut myself off from feeling things and that's how I manage not to have an anxiety or stress issue and I don't seem to have ADHD because it heightens my senses which is what distracts me and I learned how to channel my movements in order to focus. I also cut myself off from what's around me with music and writing. Someone else might deal differently in an opposite manner. that's how I feel at least
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Post by Deleted on Sept 6, 2016 12:40:40 GMT -5
Female 16 (17 in three days yooo) Catholic Grammar School (High school, for you yanks) Northern Ireland Irish White not very religious but interested in Wiccan Lesbian
Trust, friendship, dependability
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Post by sphagnosidum on Sept 6, 2016 12:48:18 GMT -5
Sorry for the delayed response sanders (writing stuff down). Do you think you are more or less attracted to your girlfriend because she has different interests?
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Post by Sanders on Sept 6, 2016 12:57:21 GMT -5
Sorry for the delayed response sanders (writing stuff down). Do you think you are more or less attracted to your girlfriend because she has different interests? well that's a little bit tough to answer. because like, im aromantic. so like. she's like my friend that we just put a label on it. but i don't like her any more/less than other friends of mine in a romantic sense ?? and most of my attraction to her and why we are actually dating with a label on it is because we are sexually attracted to each other. and my sexual attraction to her isn't affected by her different interests. because whether or not she listens to german rap does not make her any less attractive. i mean the only way it would really affect it is if she was like acting differently while she was listening. i.e. being cuter because she was happy to be listening to it. however i will admit that some of it does annoy me. but that doesn't mean i like her any less, i guess. and also that's part of my personality. im very not into new music when i listen for the first time. especially if it's not like stuff i listen to on a normal basis. as for horror movies. we just don't watch them together and we get along just fine. and it doesn't really affect us at all? and i mean honestly, i wouldn't not watch horror movies. i just would really rather not watch them. and she knows that.
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Post by sphagnosidum on Sept 6, 2016 12:59:28 GMT -5
Thanks everybody. All of your answers are very interesting, and I'm glad this community is so open. I have to stop for now because my hand hurts.
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Post by Kenshin on Sept 6, 2016 13:19:29 GMT -5
Gender - Trans Male School - High School Country - USA, Arizona Race - Mayonnaise Demon Ethnicity - English, German, Swedish Religion - Agnostic
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