Why do people hate Bumblestripe??

Bumblestripe isn't ready for a mate after the way he acted in SS. Inconsistent writing or not, he still harrassed her for wanting kits. Dovewing told him no in the scene and he told her to just "think about it". Yeah, I agree with Moth, he needs to be on his own for now until he learns how to respect others' feelings.

I'm just going to speak from personal experience. I'll be as unbiased as possible.

After getting hurt by someone you loved, you have to give yourself time to heal. Bumblestripe is still clinging onto Dovewing. I'm not speaking for her sake, but his, too. He was still begging to get back together with her, and to have his kits. His behavior is not healthy. Do I agree that Dovewing treated him right? No. Do I think Dovewing should have handled this better? Absolutely. She isn't innocent, but Bumblestripe isn't, either. Face it, both cats handled this poorly. After a break up, you need to give yourself time to heal before dashing onto another relationship. It isn't fair to lead someone else on just because you're hurt and don't want to be alone. I just had a break up a few months ago and I'm still hurt from what my ex as done to me. I'm giving myself time to heal. I'm trying not to think about this person anymore. Am I still hurt? Yes. I don't feel ready to be in a relationship, because I need to learn to be independent on my own. Bumblestripe needs to do this also, because at this point he's harrassing her. Bombarding someone about getting back together isn't right. He was nosy, and clingy. Bumblestripe never dealt with this in a healthy way. He isn't ready, and needs to learn to love himself. Everyone needs to love themselves.

I respect everyone's opinions, but at this point I'll just agree to disagree. Not going farther than this.

Ah, I'm not sure if you missed my reply or not? But I did say that I do think Bumblestripe needs time to heal over his rejection. I'm not saying he should immediately jump into another relationship because then he'd be using his new mate as a rebound as Dovewing did him to get over Tigerheart at one point. Some of us want him to be happy, and if he wants to have his own family because that would make him happy, then we don't see a problem with that. However, if he wants to stay single, that's fine too. But I personally don't think he's incapable of being in a perfectly normal relationship. And considering how strained his relationship was with Dovewing, and lack of communication from her side, yeah, his actions can come off as "Creepy" narrative-wise, but that's opinionated. And if you think that, then I respect your opinion even if I disagree.

I'm a firm believer, that your first love isn't your last love, and you're capable of finding happiness, whether it's in a relationship with another person, platonically or romantically, or discovering your own self-love. There's all types of love, not just limited to those few, etc. People that want Bumblestripe to have a new mate, usually just mean that in a way, that hopefully eventually, he'll find someone that makes him happy, if that's what he wants in life. Not he should immediately jump into another relationship to get over Dovewing, if that makes sense? And most likely, we won't get to see him much, because he's a background character, so there's a good chance there will be a time skip, and then he'll just show up with another mate and eventualy kits. Meaning any time he spends "healing" over his rejection with Dovewing will be, and understandably, off screen.

Yeah, but that same argument could be said for Dovewing, too, which is what I had hoped she would do. I would have liked her single and determined to be a loyal ThunderClan cat. She needed to learn to be happy on her own for a while as well, but instead she went back to Tigerheart as soon as she had a chance -- and even before that, they blatantly showed affection for one another and practically shouted to everyone that they were mates when Rowanstar, Tawnypelt, and Tigerheart were in the hollow. Everyone already knew, which was why they weren't surprised when she came back with Tigerheart's kits. It was like an open secret.

I'm tired, so I'm not going to post anymore. Everyone can think what they want, it's your opinion, but I stand by mine.