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Post by Deleted on Aug 22, 2016 22:43:00 GMT -5
Your feelings are totally valid- in fact, I feel similar things sometimes. I definitely understand feelings of inadequacy and anxiety, and I don't want you to feel that way. For most of the summer, being on the forums was triggering me as well, causing me to feel upset and grouchy and such- I had to mostly stay off the forums for a while because of it, so if you think taking a hiatus would help you in any way, then please do it. I promise no one will be upset. But if that's not the problem, don't do it because I said so.
Perfectionism is something I personally struggle with a lot, and I'm sorry you have to deal with it as well. You have to, have to cut off the negative thoughts at the roots. Even just saying aloud "I am good enough" and other affirmations can help if you do it consistently. It's hard to get out of that negative mindset- it's so so hard, but you can't let them control you. You can't compare yourself to other people, because there is only one you. Maybe it's silly for me to tell you this when I still struggle with this, but it's the best I can do.
I promise--I promise a million times over--you are none of those things. None of them. I have never once thought those things about you. They are lies. All of it. You're a wonderful friend and person. Could you come to me or someone you know in real life and tell them the things you're telling yourself? Would you hurt them like that? Please don't hurt yourself either with things that just aren't true. I don't want you to be sad.
This isn't true either. I know I've said this a lot, but I have felt similar things to this as well. Things look so different from within your own head. You do have skills. As for art, I think you're very talented- so what if you're not as experienced as other artists? They had to work hard to get there, and they're not you. And you're certainly very lovely and nice to be around on the forums, so don't think any differently.
I don't know if I'm even helping here, but it's terrible to me that such an amazing person has to deal with this. If there was a way I could keep you from feeling these things, I would. I want you to remember that I (and I'm sure many others) care about you a lot, and that I will always be here if you're struggling.
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Post by Windsong on Aug 22, 2016 22:45:02 GMT -5
It was... more in general, so you're welcome to post too. And thank you. *hugs How can you guys give such good advice. Awrk, I want to reply to every bit of it, but I think sleep is something I need right now. Thank you so much <3 I know you do mean it and I'm sorry I keep dumping posts like this on you guys... I feel guilty. Right. Didn't want to bug in or anything, you know? Hey, that's okay. Sleep is important. I hope you have a good night and feel much better. And it's completely okay. We understand and would do as much as we can to make you feel better. Don't ever feel bad about ranting/venting and stuff, okay? You know I never mind talking to you (: Thanks. I'm going to try. Ack, thank you... just thank you. Hopefully I'll come back tomorrow and feel somewhat better. I'll be around for a couple minutes and then log out for the night. Thank you again. |
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Post by Windsong on Aug 22, 2016 22:50:58 GMT -5
Your feelings are totally valid- in fact, I feel similar things sometimes. I definitely understand feelings of inadequacy and anxiety, and I don't want you to feel that way. For most of the summer, being on the forums was triggering me as well, causing me to feel upset and grouchy and such- I had to mostly stay off the forums for a while because of it, so if you think taking a hiatus would help you in any way, then please do it. I promise no one will be upset. But if that's not the problem, don't do it because I said so. Perfectionism is something I personally struggle with a lot, and I'm sorry you have to deal with it as well. You have to, have to cut off the negative thoughts at the roots. Even just saying aloud "I am good enough" and other affirmations can help if you do it consistently. It's hard to get out of that negative mindset- it's so so hard, but you can't let them control you. You can't compare yourself to other people, because there is only one you. Maybe it's silly for me to tell you this when I still struggle with this, but it's the best I can do. I promise--I promise a million times over--you are none of those things. None of them. I have never once thought those things about you. They are lies. All of it. You're a wonderful friend and person. Could you come to me or someone you know in real life and tell them the things you're telling yourself? Would you hurt them like that? Please don't hurt yourself either with things that just aren't true. I don't want you to be sad. This isn't true either. I know I've said this a lot, but I have felt similar things to this as well. Things look so different from within your own head. You do have skills. As for art, I think you're very talented- so what if you're not as experienced as other artists? They had to work hard to get there, and they're not you. And you're certainly very lovely and nice to be around on the forums, so don't think any differently. I don't know if I'm even helping here, but it's terrible to me that such an amazing person has to deal with this. If there was a way I could keep you from feeling these things, I would. I want you to remember that I (and I'm sure many others) care about you a lot, and that I will always be here if you're struggling. *hugs* it's really hard for me to explain how much this post just helped me for several reasons, not the least of them being I'll get all emotional. Thank you so much for understanding, and for being so reassuring. I want to write more but I'm literally having trouble focusing on my keyboard I'm so tired. Just know that you and Swann just helped me a bunch. To both Tans and Swann: thank you so much. Love you guys - goodnight. I hope I get to chat with both of you soon. |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 22, 2016 22:54:04 GMT -5
Okeechobee. ^^
What about her bursting into popcorn
(He doesn't deserve it.)
Thank you. And have sweet dreams!
Because if she was real, I'd marry her.
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Aure: W-what? That's the stupidest thing I've ever heard. Look at him. What a nerd. So tall and nerdy. Definitely not my type.
(I typed definitely not my toe)
Boreas: That seems to be a very accurate observance.
Three syllables is hardly big.
Aure: Reading is boring?? Who hurt you
(For real though indoors is where it's at Owen)
Boreas: A clever nickname for one.
Zephyrus: Four eyes is what you call people with glasses, you know.
Aure: I'm not just any car. I'd either be a Lamborghini or a monster truck.
Boreas: It doesn't make sense.
(It's pronounced Oar pfft run it through Google Translate - but ar isn't bad either)
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Post by Deleted on Aug 22, 2016 22:55:30 GMT -5
Your feelings are totally valid- in fact, I feel similar things sometimes. I definitely understand feelings of inadequacy and anxiety, and I don't want you to feel that way. For most of the summer, being on the forums was triggering me as well, causing me to feel upset and grouchy and such- I had to mostly stay off the forums for a while because of it, so if you think taking a hiatus would help you in any way, then please do it. I promise no one will be upset. But if that's not the problem, don't do it because I said so. Perfectionism is something I personally struggle with a lot, and I'm sorry you have to deal with it as well. You have to, have to cut off the negative thoughts at the roots. Even just saying aloud "I am good enough" and other affirmations can help if you do it consistently. It's hard to get out of that negative mindset- it's so so hard, but you can't let them control you. You can't compare yourself to other people, because there is only one you. Maybe it's silly for me to tell you this when I still struggle with this, but it's the best I can do. I promise--I promise a million times over--you are none of those things. None of them. I have never once thought those things about you. They are lies. All of it. You're a wonderful friend and person. Could you come to me or someone you know in real life and tell them the things you're telling yourself? Would you hurt them like that? Please don't hurt yourself either with things that just aren't true. I don't want you to be sad. This isn't true either. I know I've said this a lot, but I have felt similar things to this as well. Things look so different from within your own head. You do have skills. As for art, I think you're very talented- so what if you're not as experienced as other artists? They had to work hard to get there, and they're not you. And you're certainly very lovely and nice to be around on the forums, so don't think any differently. I don't know if I'm even helping here, but it's terrible to me that such an amazing person has to deal with this. If there was a way I could keep you from feeling these things, I would. I want you to remember that I (and I'm sure many others) care about you a lot, and that I will always be here if you're struggling. *hugs* it's really hard for me to explain how much this post just helped me for several reasons, not the least of them being I'll get all emotional. Thank you so much for understanding, and for being so reassuring. I want to write more but I'm literally having trouble focusing on my keyboard I'm so tired. Just know that you and Swann just helped me a bunch. To both Tans and Swann: thank you so much. Love you guys - goodnight. I hope I get to chat with both of you soon. *hugs back* I'm so glad I could help you, really. It's my pleasure- I want to help you feel better. ^^ I hope you have a wonderful night, get lots of rest, and feel better in the morning. See you soon! |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 23, 2016 15:45:57 GMT -5
Hey, all! Might be poofy.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 24, 2016 12:11:30 GMT -5
Hey, if anyone's here.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 24, 2016 12:17:11 GMT -5
Hi, Tans! Might be poofy, but I'm here. How's it going?
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Post by Deleted on Aug 24, 2016 12:24:03 GMT -5
Hey! Thanks for letting me know. ^^ It's going good, thank you. And you?
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Post by Deleted on Aug 24, 2016 12:25:02 GMT -5
No worries! I'm glad to hear that.
I'm not bad, thank you, though not sure what to do with writing.
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Post by Windsong on Aug 24, 2016 12:38:45 GMT -5
*falls in* heyo. I noticed that there are real, live humans here and I've come to observe your behaviours so I may attempt to replicate them!
(I may be pretty poofy.)
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Post by Deleted on Aug 24, 2016 12:40:56 GMT -5
Hi, Windy! How's life?
(That's okay!)
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Post by Windsong on Aug 24, 2016 12:46:14 GMT -5
Life is okayish xD how about you?
Thanks c:
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Post by Deleted on Aug 24, 2016 12:47:58 GMT -5
Life is okayish xD how about you? Thanks c: Glad to hear it's not bad. Mine's okay too, thank you! |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 24, 2016 12:54:19 GMT -5
Lore: Sorry I poofed, oops.
Thanks.
What are you stuck on?
Winders: Hey, hey, hey! Good to see you. ^^ What's up?
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Post by Deleted on Aug 24, 2016 12:56:12 GMT -5
Lore: Sorry I poofed, oops. Thanks. What are you stuck on? Winders: Hey, hey, hey! Good to see you. ^^ What's up? It's all right! It happens. You remember the whole thing with Castor, right? I'm not sure I should leave the segment in, so I'm trying to think it over. |
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Post by Windsong on Aug 24, 2016 12:58:32 GMT -5
Lore: I guess we're all-around okay, then c:
Tans: hey, nice to see you too! I'm okay. Just found out I need to go out and actually do something, though xD how frustrating.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 24, 2016 13:02:52 GMT -5
Lore: What exactly happened with Castor, if you don't mind me asking?
Winders: Ah, gotta love it when that happens. XD I hope it's not too painful for you.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 24, 2016 13:04:08 GMT -5
Windy: It's better than not being kind of down, though, right?
Tans: Long story short, Krys freaked. Not sure where to go from there, though.
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Post by Windsong on Aug 24, 2016 13:07:22 GMT -5
Tans: I believe that parts of it will be extremely painful. But I think I may enjoy some of this irritating interruption, too, so it's not all bad. Yet. [Oh, I responded to the message c;]
Lore: very true! I should warn you, as well, I will shortly be poofing because I must venture into the world to actually do things xP
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Post by Deleted on Aug 24, 2016 13:09:27 GMT -5
Hey, it's all right, Windy! Have fun with what you're doing.
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Post by Windsong on Aug 24, 2016 13:13:57 GMT -5
Thanks xD I hope I will. I think I've got just a few minutes left before I need to get myself ready.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 24, 2016 13:19:01 GMT -5
All right. I'd be happy to chat until you have to go!
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Post by Windsong on Aug 24, 2016 13:20:37 GMT -5
Okay then, thanks (:
...now, to find something to chat about.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 24, 2016 13:25:16 GMT -5
You got any ideas?
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Post by Windsong on Aug 24, 2016 13:26:39 GMT -5
...the usual suspects. Writing, characters, books. e.e
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Post by Deleted on Aug 24, 2016 13:29:54 GMT -5
Lore: How does she calm down? Is she even able to? How does Castor react- is he offended, or does he understand?
Winders: Well then, I'm glad it will be somewhat enjoyable then. cx (Oh great, I'll try to reply soon. ^^)
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Post by Deleted on Aug 24, 2016 13:34:14 GMT -5
That's why I'm having a bit of a problem. I'm not certain that she can. I'm sure he understands, but I'm not certain.
Do you ever have any issues like that?
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Post by Windsong on Aug 24, 2016 13:34:15 GMT -5
Or hopefully so xD (No rush, I just wanted to make sure you knew.) Care to CC until I must leave? (You too, Lore, if you see this.)
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Post by Deleted on Aug 24, 2016 13:34:31 GMT -5
...the usual suspects. Writing, characters, books. e.e That's fine with me! |
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