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Post by -` percy ´- .✫ 🌊 on Aug 30, 2017 21:17:37 GMT -5
i'm in love, okay? A lot of people call it stupid and say i'm young but it isn't much of a problem. It's almost been a year now since these feelings for this one guy have been here, and i can't stop thinking about him and such. But, that is all beside the point. I was in the car with him about 20 to 30 minute ago, he was dropping me off after church and such. What's been happening this week is he's been in a LOT of pain. And when i say a lot, i really mean it. He has so many physical things wrong with him, it makes me feel so useless when i can't help or take his pain away. Heres the thing. He never cries, not unless the pain he's in is so severe that he needs to go to the hospital. So, I'm extremely worried, and almost sobbed my heart out in the car, when i saw him crying in the car. Guys, I feel so useless, i just want to take his pain away and help him. But i don't know what to do. He constantly tells me just being there is enough, but i feel like it isn't. I just want to help. But i cant... someone talk to me please ;w; i'm an emotional wreck and i need him to get better...
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Post by Deleted on Aug 30, 2017 21:32:01 GMT -5
i'm sorry to hear this but i'm gonna tell you as another person who deals w health issues and is always in pain and does not remember what it's like to not be in pain not to tell him this ok you can say you wanna help him feel better in whatever way you can even if it's little (like for example i sometimes need my neck or shoulders massaged, my roommate who has rheumatoid arthritis sometimes needs me to help her up. stuff like that) but don't give him the whole "i'm useless!!!" speech because you're gonna make him feel even worse i had a friend give me that whole spiel and it made me feel Awful because not only do i feel bad but it's negatively effecting the emotions of people i care about so let him know you care, want to help, etc but keep the whole feelin useless thing to yourself
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Post by -` percy ´- .✫ 🌊 on Aug 30, 2017 21:36:11 GMT -5
i'm sorry to hear this but i'm gonna tell you as another person who deals w health issues and is always in pain and does not remember what it's like to not be in pain not to tell him this ok you can say you wanna help him feel better in whatever way you can even if it's little (like for example i sometimes need my neck or shoulders massaged, my roommate who has rheumatoid arthritis sometimes needs me to help her up. stuff like that) but don't give him the whole "i'm useless!!!" speech because you're gonna make him feel even worse i had a friend give me that whole spiel and it made me feel Awful because not only do i feel bad but it's negatively effecting the emotions of people i care about so let him know you care, want to help, etc but keep the whole feelin useless thing to yourself i know i know, and i won't ever explain exactly the usless feeling i get. All i really tell him, and the most i can tell him is that "i wish i could take the pain away from you," and that "you don't deserve to go through this. You're too much of an amazing person". He'd give me a long speech about me being the most help to him than anyone else in his life, if i ever said that i felt useless. I'm also sorry you have to deal with the pain. You're so strong, considering you're still here. I quite admire those that go through more physical pain than most of the human race, if that makes sense.
Anyways; thank you. I promise i won't tell him. Best i can do is assure him that i'll always be there, through thick and thin. because honestly, he's my heart and soul.
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