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Post by Deleted on Aug 8, 2017 20:01:50 GMT -5
so - i learned my grandma and aunt and cousins are comin here on saturday and my mom could tell i wasn't excited. and now she's p mad bc we just got back from visiting my dad's side of the family and i was Super Excited about that but i'm not about her side coming over,, oops
- i was tellin a pal how i rlly want lox and bagels rn. which if u don't know lox is like rlly thinly sliced smoked salmon and eating it on a bagel (usually a plain one but my uncle does onion bagels) w cream cheese and sometimes tomato or onion or capers (i do onion and cream cheese w mine on a plain bagel). and it's just. an an Ashkenazi Jewish thing to eat ya know. idk why it is but it's a cultural thing. but my friend's making fun of it, telling me it's gross, etc when i know for a fact they wouldn't ,,idk tell a Chinese person or a Mexican person or someone else something they eat bc it's a cultural thing is gross but apparently it's ok to call my thing "gross" and ask how the hell i can eat it and stuff. it's dumb but i'm hurt by it
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Post by Deleted on Aug 8, 2017 20:24:21 GMT -5
I get it tbh. I really don't like my mother's side of the family (besides my uncle and grandfather) but I adore everyone on my father's side so it's like my mom always gets kind of disappointed when I turn down seeing her family but jump at the idea of seeing my father's there's nothing wrong with disliking one side of the family and I'm sure she'll understand that you can't get along with everyone
?? What's wrong with your friend like I wish people would... just let others enjoy things they like... There is nothing wrong with you eating it and you shouldn't feel back for enjoying it.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 8, 2017 20:24:35 GMT -5
tbh i think one of everyone's greatest fears is one of their parents learning that their side of the family isn't the favorite side of one of their kids,,,
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Post by Deleted on Aug 8, 2017 20:26:15 GMT -5
I get it tbh. I really don't like my mother's side of the family (besides my uncle and grandfather) but I adore everyone on my father's side so it's like my mom always gets kind of disappointed when I turn down seeing her family but jump at the idea of seeing my father's there's nothing wrong with disliking one side of the family and I'm sure she'll understand that you can't get along with everyone ?? What's wrong with your friend like I wish people would... just let others enjoy things they like... There is nothing wrong with you eating it and you shouldn't feel back for enjoying it. yeah it's just kinda. my mom doesn't get that i see her family way more than my dad's family and i personally don't like her sister. or her sister's husband. or their daughter. or their son. idk what's wrong w him. he's usually the kind of person who likes to be very. culturally aware isn't the word but i can't think of what it would be. he tends to be very "X thing is part of X culture so i can respect it" and he tries not to make fun of other cultures' things as "weird." except when it's mine apparently
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Post by Deleted on Aug 8, 2017 20:34:50 GMT -5
See, it's really weird for my family because I don't really get along with my dad's parents/we aren't close to them, but then again neither was he growing up?
He was adopted (these are his adoptive parents I'm talking about) and basically he said he realized right away they weren't his "real" parents once he was old enough. They're just very strict, and not very affectionate people so he never got close to them. They're also really rude most of the time and I don't even think they realize it?? So we all just kinda dread having to visit them/call them, but obviously we don't tell them that xD
On the other hand I'm super close with my mom's parents/side of the family and would tell thenm anything
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Post by Deleted on Aug 8, 2017 20:42:03 GMT -5
when i ate meat i ate capers salmon and cream cheese on bagels all the time. omg. i didnt realize it was a cultural thing the only ppl i know who do it, myself included, are Ashkenazi Jews and that's the side of the family i do it w so. even the name lox for the type of salmon used comes from Yiddish. it's v much a cultural thing. tho i imagine if u live somewhere w a lot of Ashkenazi Jews you could end up eating it w/o it being a cultural thing for u if it's just commonly available
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Post by Deleted on Aug 8, 2017 20:44:23 GMT -5
i can imagine that first thing being mad awkward. like, we're "supposed" to love our whole family but sometimes just, there are some people we're gonna be more excited to hang around. i hope the time with your mom's family goes alright tho and the food discussion is frustrating. sometimes i tease my friends for liking things i don't (like mayonnaise or olives or something) but... it's frustrating when people don't realize like, the cultural or other significance of eating something. did you mention to them how you feel about it? i can't say i don't love them but i see them too often for my liking and my aunt is A Lot and so are her kids. they're also not good guests to have because they always have to be doing something. like an afternoon around home just playing outside isn't good enough for them. i tried to explain it but i don't think he gets it. he's actually trying to argue back to me that things can't be culturally jewish bc that's a religion, not a culture. lmao boy is he wrong
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Post by silverbrook on Aug 8, 2017 20:44:28 GMT -5
when i ate meat i ate capers salmon and cream cheese on bagels all the time. omg. i didnt realize it was a cultural thing the only ppl i know who do it, myself included, are Ashkenazi Jews and that's the side of the family i do it w so. even the name lox for the type of salmon used comes from Yiddish. it's v much a cultural thing. tho i imagine if u live somewhere w a lot of Ashkenazi Jews you could end up eating it w/o it being a cultural thing for u if it's just commonly available nah my stepmom just made it for me. i live in florida and shes not even jewish. its tasty though so congrats on having a cool good food keep up the good work
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Post by Deleted on Aug 8, 2017 20:45:35 GMT -5
the only ppl i know who do it, myself included, are Ashkenazi Jews and that's the side of the family i do it w so. even the name lox for the type of salmon used comes from Yiddish. it's v much a cultural thing. tho i imagine if u live somewhere w a lot of Ashkenazi Jews you could end up eating it w/o it being a cultural thing for u if it's just commonly available nah my stepmom just made it for me. i live in florida and shes not even jewish. its tasty though so congrats on having a cool good food keep up the good work huh that's rlly interesting. i wonder how she came across it then bc it's not a combination i've heard of anyone else doing so i doubt someone on their own would just go "know what would go good w a bagel? salmon. and cream cheese." thanks
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Post by wadevvilson on Aug 8, 2017 20:55:36 GMT -5
tbh i think one of everyone's greatest fears is one of their parents learning that their side of the family isn't the favorite side of one of their kids,,, Not in my case. My dad understands why I don't like the majority of his side of the family, because he doesn't like them either. Honestly, my grandfather was one of the only things making having to see whoever remains from that side bearable. And also there's my aunt, though I haven't talked to her in years. And that's dumb for him to be mad about you eating certain things. I mean, I think eating pineapple and ham on pizza is dumb and gross, but I wouldn't seriously say that to someone's face because that'd be a jerk move. EDIT: also how is eating salmon and cream cheese on bagels an uncommon thing I literally do this all the time.
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Post by trickster ♥ on Aug 8, 2017 20:55:52 GMT -5
okay what the actual like it's already p messed up that someone would make fun of something you like but a FOOD preference, of all things is just...... not cool
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Post by falconfire on Aug 8, 2017 22:41:31 GMT -5
i can imagine that first thing being mad awkward. like, we're "supposed" to love our whole family but sometimes just, there are some people we're gonna be more excited to hang around. i hope the time with your mom's family goes alright tho and the food discussion is frustrating. sometimes i tease my friends for liking things i don't (like mayonnaise or olives or something) but... it's frustrating when people don't realize like, the cultural or other significance of eating something. did you mention to them how you feel about it? i can't say i don't love them but i see them too often for my liking and my aunt is A Lot and so are her kids. they're also not good guests to have because they always have to be doing something. like an afternoon around home just playing outside isn't good enough for them. i tried to explain it but i don't think he gets it. he's actually trying to argue back to me that things can't be culturally jewish bc that's a religion, not a culture. lmao boy is he wrong yeah! i might have said that wrong.. i didn't mean to imply you didn't love them or something. in any event i can see how that would get overwhelming huh... thats... weird. i don't know what else to say since obviously a religion can be tied in with culture? huh. hopefully he figures it out eventually aha. i hope you get your lox and bagels soon
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