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Post by Deleted on Aug 1, 2017 20:31:24 GMT -5
we haven't seen eachother for 10 days?? i havent added his phone number to my phone because i'm confused about my sexuality, but i know for a fact i don't love him. i want to just not contact him ever again but i know that isnt fair. help. also id appreciate doing it without coming out
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Post by Deleted on Aug 1, 2017 20:35:55 GMT -5
also there is no way i am able to go to his house so ill have to do it over text/meet up
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Post by Deleted on Aug 1, 2017 20:36:08 GMT -5
it'd be kinder on him if you did it in person. like i can't tell you how bad a breakup over the phone, especially text is. doing that would tell him he's not even worth the effort to physically see. so tell him face-to-face
here are some good reasons you could use: 1. you'd rather focus on school only (works if you're a good student, etc.; plenty of my friends used this in hs actually) 2. you're not ready for a relationship (if he doesn't respect this one, he's a p crumby person) 3. your parents said you can't date yet (admittedly doesn't work if you've already dated someone and/or you can foresee yourself dating someone else soon) 4. tell him what you said about not loving him. tell him it wouldn't be fair to him for you to be in this relationship bc you don't feel you could be a good partner to him. putting it that way honestly is p nice ya know
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Post by December on Aug 1, 2017 20:36:55 GMT -5
Just tell him it doesn't feel right. It's generic, but it also manages to be true without being outright hurtful or putting you at risk of outing yourself. ~If it's not right, it's not right~ Also, you're right that never speaking to him again would be rude, but you can always tell him that you need some space from everything. If he doesn't respect your boundaries, he wasn't worth it in the first place.
Best of luck. Breakups are super hard even when you're not worried about your sexuality.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 1, 2017 20:39:54 GMT -5
4. tell him what you said about not loving him. tell him it wouldn't be fair to him for you to be in this relationship bc you don't feel you could be a good partner to him. putting it that way honestly is p nice ya know ^^^ this when i still wanted to pursue a relationship with my ex and she didn't (and i didn't realize it), she essentially told me that while she loved me, she didn't want a future with me. i appreciate her honesty to this day. you're going to hurt this person no matter what, so you may as well lay it cleanly out for him.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 1, 2017 20:40:00 GMT -5
i'll try and find his number then i'll try and meet up. thank y'all for the advice, i just had no idea what to do
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