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Post by 𝓣𝓲𝓷𝓾𝓿𝓲𝓮𝓵 on Jul 29, 2017 0:39:26 GMT -5
So, my sister yelled at her child at 1:00 in the morning just because he broke her iPhone charger. Okay, I get why she would be mad and my nephew isn't exactly the most responsible person, but she's taking it too far, like threatening to sell his Play Station or telling him "You better think of how to get me a new charger tonight" or "How about going outside and holding up a sign that says 'Feed me, feed me."
Here's a better idea—how about doing it yourself by GETTING A JOB!
Keep in mind that my nephew is only nine. I may never want kids of my own, but last I checked, that's bad parenting. Not to mention she yells at him alot in general and occasionally hits him, or at least threatens to. Then there are times where she just doesn't care what he does.
This counts as child abuse, right? Or am I just overreacting? Either way, my grandparents don't want to get involved, so what should I do?
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Post by Deleted on Jul 29, 2017 3:22:32 GMT -5
NOOOO that is NOT a blurry line!! That is abuse. Discipline would be telling him he should buy her a new one sometime or pay her back whatever money she spends to get herself one, or grounding him for a week or two from said playstation NOT threatening physical harm or neglect. Not to mention threatening to not feed him and kick him out on the street is illegal, he's 9, not 19 for pete's sake.
I LIVED this garbage and it's f-ked up, okay. No blurry lines here.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 29, 2017 3:25:14 GMT -5
Yelling alone isn't abuse, it's the context of WHAT she yelled that makes it abuse. Sometimes yelling is uncalled for but when it's 1 am and you're frustrated your charger broke, okay I get it volume control isn't what's on your mind so much but. >:\
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#a3c5e6
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Post by 𝓣𝓲𝓷𝓾𝓿𝓲𝓮𝓵 on Jul 29, 2017 4:20:20 GMT -5
✖ Ꮮꭼꭺꮲꮶꮖꭲ ✖That's what I thought. Honestly, at this point, I've become tempted to report her. I don't care if she's my sister or not, she's still harming a child and is clearly unfit to be a mother. As for the content, long story short, she curses at him whenever she's yelling at him. Sometimes she'll even say, "get out of my face because I'm going to hit you" or something along those lines. I'm assuming the reason she's like this due to having had lead poison as a child due to apparently licking the walls (so says my mother). No excuse, of course, but it would at least probably explain her short temper (again, or so my mother says, anyway). We try to calm her down whenever she yells (the walls aren't exactly thick), but of course she doesn't want to hear it. My nephew may be a pain sometimes, but he doesn't deserve it. Mistakes happen, and kids are kids. I'm thinking of taking him out to get some ice cream tomorrow to cheer him up.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 29, 2017 4:27:39 GMT -5
I wouldn't go so far as to report her lest he get taken away unless there's an arrangement where you or your mom could take care of him. I'd suggest if anything they both could use some counseling and behavioral therapy.
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Post by 𝓣𝓲𝓷𝓾𝓿𝓲𝓮𝓵 on Jul 29, 2017 4:34:48 GMT -5
I wouldn't go so far as to report her lest he get taken away unless there's an arrangement where you or your mom could take care of him. I'd suggest if anything they both could use some counseling and behavioral therapy. I've actually also taken that into consideration and so has my mother. I'll see what I can do. My mom's supposed to be coming by tomorrow, so she might also be able to help me look into it.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 29, 2017 5:01:01 GMT -5
I hope everything works out okay. I'm sorry you're having so many family problems Moth. :c
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#a3c5e6
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Post by 𝓣𝓲𝓷𝓾𝓿𝓲𝓮𝓵 on Jul 29, 2017 5:38:03 GMT -5
I hope everything works out okay. I'm sorry you're having so many family problems Moth. :c Thanks, Rescue.
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#a3c5e6
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𝓣𝓲𝓷𝓾𝓿𝓲𝓮𝓵
Warrior Fanatic
All hail me, the flower-flushing queen of Prague
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Post by 𝓣𝓲𝓷𝓾𝓿𝓲𝓮𝓵 on Jul 29, 2017 14:27:13 GMT -5
A bit of an update: I've already spoken to my mother about getting my sister to see a therapist, and she's even spoken to her about it (apparently she's been trying to get my sister to see a therapist for years now), so I'm hoping it happens soon. I'll also try to get my grandparents more involved.
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Post by ✲ριкαƒυєу✲ on Jul 29, 2017 14:48:27 GMT -5
That's definitely emotional abuse. I grew up a victim of it, and that screams it.
It's one thing to yell at your kid, but she took it too far. Beyond the usual discipline. And if she screams at him often like this, then it is not discipline at this point.
I think someone needs to intervene. This isn't right, and very damaging to your nephew's mental health.
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