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Post by Deleted on Jul 21, 2017 21:48:11 GMT -5
ignore the original title, it was not a suicide reference, I'm okay in that department, it's a song lyric. (Check out the song Last of Me, by VocaCircus. that's where the reference is from)
however, this is kind of a vent about other things
I feel like absolute crap
I've had so many awful friends and I never realized that I was being completely manipulated in most, pretty much all of my IRL friendships, and some of my online friendships. I feel like a clueless idiot, and I'm so mad about how I was so easily toyed with
am I really that pathetic?!
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Post by Northstar3213 on Jul 21, 2017 21:57:38 GMT -5
I have a similar problem. It's not because you're pathetic. For me it was because I was just too nice and forgiving. But here I am now without anyone I actually call a "friend" and unable to trust anyone even within the family.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 21, 2017 22:02:10 GMT -5
same
I'm just way too trusting, and Idk how to stop caring
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Post by tiger beetle on Jul 21, 2017 22:03:03 GMT -5
you're not pathetic
people who take advantage of others' good nature are pathetic
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Post by vakarian on Jul 21, 2017 22:03:31 GMT -5
hey, pal speaking from the same experience(s) here 👋
i completely understand how you're feeling. since i'm a very empathetic person, the person was able to play on those feelings and constantly find ways to make me suffer and feel humiliated because of it. i felt like i was pathetic, a pushover. i don't know if you feel the same way about yourself (being empathetic/very emotionally attached, i mean), but that is never a bad thing. i can't stress this enough. it is not a weakness. finding out you've been manipulated by people says nothing about you, but it says a lot about them.
i'm sorry you're feeling this way, if there's any way i can help i'm here. i know i'm just a rando on the internet, but this subject makes me,,, very passionate haha
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Post by Deleted on Jul 21, 2017 22:03:37 GMT -5
You're not pathetic Lyoko.
Sometimes people are just trash and try and take advantage of good/kind people. I've had many fake friends over the span of my life so I can relate. It's a blessing and a curse because it hurts when they betray or mistreat you but it also helps shape your opinion to only trust the people you truly respect/appreciate, y'know?
I hope you get to make some actual genuine friends soon though.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 21, 2017 22:04:22 GMT -5
not pathetic just look at me for comparison you're good ok
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Post by Northstar3213 on Jul 21, 2017 22:04:34 GMT -5
I know that feeling. Eventually I just accepted the fact I was happier alone.
But it makes it impossible to go anywhere or talk to anyone.
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Post by Starflight on Jul 22, 2017 0:23:10 GMT -5
stick to the people you know you can trust and don't get close to anyone who you haven't been friends with for a couple of years. i naturally fully trust everyone i meet, but i'm too anti social to have made enough friends to get more than one fake friend. however, i almost ended up dying because of that one friend.
being too trusting doesn't make you pathetic, it just means you're too much of a good person to be in a terrible world like this. keep making friends though, even though there are many terrible people you can't trust. being all by yourself in a place like this is lonely.
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Post by Redfleck on Jul 22, 2017 1:57:22 GMT -5
I have the exact opposite problem; I always end up exploiting the good natures of other people. I used to lie to my parents all the time and, looking back, I was probably abusive to a couple of my friends (one of them isn't my friend anymore lmao).
Depending on how old you are, the people who end up manipulating you may or may not be doing it by accident. I want to say to just stand up for yourself, but that's easier said than done. There's no reason to stop making friends though. You're a human, and humans need social contact; it's in our biology. You're not pathetic for being trusting and kind—it just means you're like an innocent child (and I don't mean that in an offensive way at all). Just so you know, people like you are special and rare and are the things that cause hope in mankind.
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