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Post by tiger beetle on Nov 11, 2016 22:04:42 GMT -5
avoidance is not an option
I have tried to focus on flaws but it did not work
I cannot dislike this person
dating other people might have been an option if I were a different person but I'm me
it's been going on for four years I thought it would be over by now but it's not
I need to not be clingy but I am
edit: I'm being over dramatic it doesn't have to be a problem it'll go away I'm sorry
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Post by startail23 on Nov 11, 2016 22:14:07 GMT -5
Wellllll psychologically speaking, the average crush supposedly lasts 4 months. Anything longer could be considered love. And that's not exactly something that can easily be "gotten rid of." :/ avoidance might be your best bet (which is very hard to do but possible if you're serious about getting over the person).
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Post by Deleted on Nov 11, 2016 22:16:32 GMT -5
imagine him in a fedora. if that doesnt work nothing will
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Post by tiger beetle on Nov 11, 2016 22:20:16 GMT -5
Wellllll psychologically speaking, the average crush supposedly lasts 4 months. Anything longer could be considered love. And that's not exactly something that can easily be "gotten rid of." :/ avoidance might be your best bet (which is very hard to do but possible if you're serious about getting over the person). thank you for the help but unfortunately this person is my best friend and we have 5 classes together every day (and sit next to each other in 4 of them) and um I'm not sure how exactly to say the warning for this but it includes a type of self harm she has some self destructive habits...
she avoids any kind of confrontation so she dropped out of one club because she didn't want to face the teacher in order to pay dues
she didn't join another club because she didn't want to tell her parents she wanted to join a club
she's currently dating someone she doesn't like because he asked her out and she didn't want to say no
she chews her fingers apart and they bleed almost every day I can't just cut her off
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Post by tiger beetle on Nov 11, 2016 22:21:22 GMT -5
imagine him in a fedora. if that doesnt work nothing will well that's something haha
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Post by tiger beetle on Nov 11, 2016 22:25:02 GMT -5
•✒• confess your love to senpai and then either a. you get in a happy relationship or b. you can both laugh it off and it's cool
right this second I'm in a text conversation with her and she just said she can't tell the guy she just went on a date with that she doesn't reciprocate his feelings because he'll hate her forever I'm worried about overloading her because two at once just but do you still think I should?
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Post by ๖ۣۜCrossroads on Nov 11, 2016 22:25:29 GMT -5
avoidance is not an option I have tried to focus on flaws but it did not work I cannot dislike this person dating other people might have been an option if I were a different person but I'm me it's been going on for four years I thought it would be over by now but it's not I need to not be clingy but I am this is my situation atm omg
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Post by tiger beetle on Nov 11, 2016 22:26:10 GMT -5
avoidance is not an option I have tried to focus on flaws but it did not work I cannot dislike this person dating other people might have been an option if I were a different person but I'm me it's been going on for four years I thought it would be over by now but it's not I need to not be clingy but I am this is my situation atm omg aw I'm sorry to hear that...it is Not Fun
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Post by startail23 on Nov 11, 2016 22:26:12 GMT -5
Wellllll psychologically speaking, the average crush supposedly lasts 4 months. Anything longer could be considered love. And that's not exactly something that can easily be "gotten rid of." :/ avoidance might be your best bet (which is very hard to do but possible if you're serious about getting over the person). thank you for the help but unfortunately this person is my best friend and we have 5 classes together every day (and sit next to each other in 4 of them) and um I'm not sure how exactly to say the warning for this but it includes a type of self harm she has some self destructive habits...
she avoids any kind of confrontation so she dropped out of one club because she didn't want to face the teacher in order to pay dues
she didn't join another club because she didn't want to tell her parents she wanted to join a club
she's currently dating someone she doesn't like because he asked her out and she didn't want to say no
she chews her fingers apart and they bleed almost every day I can't just cut her off Oh that is a VERY different story then. Try being there for her when you can. But don't be afraid to tell someone if you think she's going to do more than that. And if it gets toxic and you've done everything you could to help, I'd say it'd be time to cut her off. (Coming from a person that used to do similar things your friend does). :c I hope she gets the help she needs and wish you both the best.
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Post by tiger beetle on Nov 11, 2016 22:28:00 GMT -5
thank you for the help but unfortunately this person is my best friend and we have 5 classes together every day (and sit next to each other in 4 of them) and um I'm not sure how exactly to say the warning for this but it includes a type of self harm she has some self destructive habits...
she avoids any kind of confrontation so she dropped out of one club because she didn't want to face the teacher in order to pay dues
she didn't join another club because she didn't want to tell her parents she wanted to join a club
she's currently dating someone she doesn't like because he asked her out and she didn't want to say no
she chews her fingers apart and they bleed almost every day I can't just cut her off Oh that is a VERY different story then. Try being there for her when you can. But don't be afraid to tell someone if you think she's going to do more than that. And if it gets toxic and you've done everything you could to help, I'd say it'd be time to cut her off. (Coming from a person that used to do similar things your friend does). :c I hope she gets the help she needs and wish you both the best. oh it's not toxic at least not from her to me!!! my clinginess is definitely not helpful but I am trying to work on that I just think that since I'm the only person she ever confides in that I don't want to take that away and...even besides the crush I really like her...I don't want to lose that
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Post by ๖ۣۜCrossroads on Nov 11, 2016 22:29:44 GMT -5
this is my situation atm omg aw I'm sorry to hear that...it is Not Fun the thing is, i'm p sure she doesn't like me back in a romantic way, but we're great friends. there's no way i can ignore her though, i always have the feeling that she's the right one. idk then there's this other girl who i sorta like, and she likes me back, but she has a boyfriend that she really likes and he's perfectly fine with her dating me because he just wants her to be happy, but she's staying with him because she knows that if she screws something up, he'll get really upset and possibly commit suicide because his last relationship with a girl really screwed him up
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Post by tiger beetle on Nov 11, 2016 22:31:29 GMT -5
aw I'm sorry to hear that...it is Not Fun the thing is, i'm p sure she doesn't like me back in a romantic way, but we're great friends. there's no way i can ignore her though, i always have the feeling that she's the right one. idk then there's this other girl who i sorta like, and she likes me back, but she has a boyfriend that she really likes and he's perfectly fine with her dating me because he just wants her to be happy, but she's staying with him because she knows that if she screws something up, he'll get really upset and possibly commit suicide because his last relationship with a girl really screwed him up well, good luck to you and the other people...that relationship sounds like maybe not the greatest thing but I don't really know what to say...I hope that things work oit
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Post by ๖ۣۜCrossroads on Nov 11, 2016 22:32:45 GMT -5
the thing is, i'm p sure she doesn't like me back in a romantic way, but we're great friends. there's no way i can ignore her though, i always have the feeling that she's the right one. idk then there's this other girl who i sorta like, and she likes me back, but she has a boyfriend that she really likes and he's perfectly fine with her dating me because he just wants her to be happy, but she's staying with him because she knows that if she screws something up, he'll get really upset and possibly commit suicide because his last relationship with a girl really screwed him up well, good luck to you and the other people...that relationship sounds like maybe not the greatest thing but I don't really know what to say...I hope that things work oit yep yep, very confusing thanks though
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Post by tiger beetle on Nov 11, 2016 22:34:05 GMT -5
well, good luck to you and the other people...that relationship sounds like maybe not the greatest thing but I don't really know what to say...I hope that things work oit yep yep, very confusing thanks though you're welcome...I wish I could help but I am hopeless with advice
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Post by ๖ۣۜCrossroads on Nov 11, 2016 22:35:23 GMT -5
yep yep, very confusing thanks though you're welcome...I wish I could help but I am hopeless with advice it's alright, i have talked to about four people about it, including the girl
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Post by tiger beetle on Nov 11, 2016 22:35:51 GMT -5
you're welcome...I wish I could help but I am hopeless with advice it's alright, i have talked to about four people about it, including the girl that's at least a good start; good luck again
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Post by kiddo on Nov 11, 2016 22:40:59 GMT -5
•✒• confess your love to senpai and then either a. you get in a happy relationship or b. you can both laugh it off and it's cool
right this second I'm in a text conversation with her and she just said she can't tell the guy she just went on a date with that she doesn't reciprocate his feelings because he'll hate her forever I'm worried about overloading her because two at once just but do you still think I should? •✒• i think you should, actually or do what i did, offer to fake ask her out so the other guy will leave her alone
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Post by Deleted on Nov 11, 2016 22:44:50 GMT -5
When I got over my crush, I just simply talked to other people and did things with them. Perhaps you can do other things to keep your crush out of your mind, like reading, watching TV, just some hobby you enjoy doing. Whenever you think about your crush, snap yourself out of it and don't think about him/her. The moment you snap out of it, try to do something to distract yourself from the thought about them.
I only liked people from online. I have never had a real life crush, but this is the best advice I can give you that isn't just avoiding them all the time. If possible, however, avoiding may be the only thing that will help you get over this crush entirely.
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Post by Ginz on Nov 11, 2016 22:49:55 GMT -5
im having similar issues except for the fact that i have 0 chance even if they wanted a relationship lmao
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Post by Deleted on Nov 11, 2016 22:55:29 GMT -5
Sadly I like this kid one grade older than me and he is going to gradute.
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Post by tiger beetle on Nov 11, 2016 23:00:34 GMT -5
angsty teen: okay I will…I do want to make sure I mention, though, that this guy isn't a creep…he's not great at taking a hint but it's genuine obliviousness and she has been going along with things so I don't blame him for this…also there is zero chance of a relationship between us for several reasons (but I'm not arguing I'm just explaining more about the situation)
Velvet: I have been trying but I can do that more
Chat Noir: 1. same 2. sorry to hear that
Daryl Dixon: aw that doesn't sound fun either
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Post by tiger beetle on Nov 11, 2016 23:03:02 GMT -5
shaking so much now this can't. En good
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Post by tiger beetle on Nov 11, 2016 23:14:04 GMT -5
we won be so close next year is it really a good idea what if she feels betrayed we do so much together we went on vacation together and I liked her during that what if she thinks I only like her as a crush and not a friend it isn't true but it would be a reasonable assumption and it would scare her and she wouldn't know what to do
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Post by Deleted on Nov 11, 2016 23:16:32 GMT -5
Ikr, but I will ask for his phone number lol. tiger beetle
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Post by tiger beetle on Nov 11, 2016 23:31:38 GMT -5
well good luck
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Post by tiger beetle on Nov 11, 2016 23:54:53 GMT -5
and asking in advance: what do I do if she gets guilty about this? I don't want to make her feel guilty
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Post by tiger beetle on Nov 12, 2016 0:01:55 GMT -5
edit: the post to which this was intended as a response is now gone flaws... she cancels plans because she just doesn't feel like doing things, but that's largely because of the depression that demotivates her and the anxiety that makes her unable to face people
she can't say no, which ends up creating bad situations but again is mostly due to the anxiety...and her inability to say no isn't even a reflection on her it's just scary
poor memory is inconvenient but not a character flaw
she pretends to be asleep when she doesn't want to text back um...
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Post by tiger beetle on Nov 12, 2016 0:14:17 GMT -5
see I could tell her...or I could just make myself like Jaggedtuft again...I liked him before I could like him again
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Post by The Noble Dragon on Nov 12, 2016 0:21:56 GMT -5
CRUSH THEM
lol idk.
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