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Post by Deleted on Nov 10, 2016 17:11:16 GMT -5
What's going on?
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Post by Deleted on Nov 10, 2016 17:17:31 GMT -5
She's says she's a horrible person ( she didn't even tel me she just posted it on her Instagram) She says she hates herself I'll pray for her.
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Post by *Spottedpelt* on Nov 10, 2016 17:33:16 GMT -5
Tell her that she's not a horrible person, but don't just stop there tell her why she isn't a horrible person. Tell her every good thing she has done, every good thing about her, even the little things count because even a little can go a long way, every reason why she isn't horrible, tell her how important she is and how much she means to you and how you are there for her.
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Post by mEmE on Nov 10, 2016 17:43:37 GMT -5
Keep in mind that words are not enough.
Don't just say the old "youre not a horrible person" a person with self hate or depression is usually unable to fix their emotions themselves. Talk to her personally, spend time with her. If you aren't not next to her atm, and have to communicate online, don't do the text messages, use face and voice chat instead of text, it usually work out better
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Post by *Spottedpelt* on Nov 10, 2016 17:47:17 GMT -5
I agree with Tallstar, just keep talking to her and possibly meet up together somewhere if that is possible to take a walk or get some lunch or something. Or like Tallstar suggested talk face to face online. I'm really sorry that this is happening and I know it's hard but I'm glad that you are there for her and that you are doing your best.
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Post by mEmE on Nov 10, 2016 18:01:23 GMT -5
*Spottedpelt*She loves like hours away from me and Dosent like to voice chat Then that might be the issue, just cherish the time when you are actually with her. Because again, texts online may show gratitude at best but can hardly make an impact. Just when you are in her presence make et feel like she's needed and not alone. I am contradicting myself, but if it is pretty bad, text her occasionally just to make sure she is okay, it might not fixe her problems but should garner some reassurance in her
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Post by mEmE on Nov 10, 2016 18:06:55 GMT -5
She's litterally my only friend She says she's okay now That's very nice, I wished you and her the best
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Post by Deleted on Nov 10, 2016 18:18:33 GMT -5
Just because she says she's okay doesn't mean she's actually okay, just like when the grief never fully fades when someone you love passes away. You still need to be by her side and showing her that she's important to you. Tell her that even though she might have been bad in the past (if that is the case), she can become a good person in the present.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 10, 2016 18:37:06 GMT -5
@mongrel She just feels guilty that she couldn't go to our youth group and that really got to her Tell her that it's going to be okay. God still adores her and values her life. There is no reason for anyone to think of her as a bad person. She is no worse of a person for being absent one time, nor would she be bad if she were to miss even 10 times. What matters is that she does good in life.
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