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Post by Bᴜᴍʙʟᴇʙᴇᴇ on Nov 1, 2016 11:19:04 GMT -5
I don't usually rant about stuff and this is super stupid but whatever anyway so like it's after math right and me and my friend go to the courtyard on my college campus cause she had to leave soon, and there is this boy there that compliments my shirt ( its a animu sweater really ) and we talk about anime for a bit and how I went through a anime in one sitting
And then my friend out of no where blurta out "Well she doesn't really work that much, her job isn't really a job" and I'm like "the frick???" ( i saod something else peeps ) but like idk it just got me on edge she would suddenly blurt it out when we were talking about anime.
So when she leaves i talk to said boy for a while and he's funny and stuff but i was still a bit sour because o don't really talk that much to people you know? I sometimes have the courage to say hi or something but I try a little harder when another person starts the convo. Back on topic, my friend then texts meabiut how she calls dibson the cute boy and idk it aggravates me. Me andher are best friends but like when it comes to talking to cute boys she just turns mean or shady. Or whatever. She trys to look better by making me seemlazy and stuff. And like it makes me upset that I'm used like that and how she acts all high and mighty. There are a few other incidents including some crushes and stuff but i dont think anyone has the time for that
Idk it just upsets me this probs stupid anyway
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Post by Deleted on Nov 1, 2016 11:38:33 GMT -5
You have every reason to be bothered by that and its definitely not stupid. She’s being rude and selfish and its never fun to be on the other end of that. Nobody can blame you for being annoyed by it.
‘Dibs’ is a stupid concept; if you like someone, go for it. It doesnt matter who your friend says is hers. You might be worried about losing a best friend but that also means you have a chance to meet another really good one?? If she does this all the time (and you tried talking to her about it) you may need to give her some space for a while.
I totally get that former best friends are the worst because they know your secrets and can blackmail you and stuff. Its important to be careful about it (cause even if she hurt your feelings it won’t makes things better by hurting hers) She’s not really your friend if shes gonna say rude things to take people away from you. If you put a little distance between you you may get the chance to meet more people and hang out with others who aren’t gonna talk trash for the sake of a guy.
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Post by Bᴜᴍʙʟᴇʙᴇᴇ on Nov 1, 2016 12:01:34 GMT -5
Yeah it's just idk. I try a lot to be apart from her sometimes. Idk it's just frustrating and to me it sounds dumb cause it's just one dude this time arouns but idk
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Post by 🎃❅❖.Şp໐໐kฯຟiຖ໓.❖❅🎃 on Nov 1, 2016 12:04:32 GMT -5
Your friend needs to mind her own business. No boy is gonna like her with a conniving attitude like that. Best friends should support, not drag each other down. :/
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Post by Deleted on Nov 1, 2016 12:26:53 GMT -5
If its happened before it isnt just 'one dude' though right? If you meet another guy you really want to be friends with it would suck if she ruined that. Talk to her (cause depending on if she's that kind of person it might help) if you haven't yet. Often times people doing that kind of stuff dont realize its bothering you at all.
and again you're not the one thats being unreasonable or anything so don't think about it like that. Its not dumb. If something is important to you it will never be dumb.
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Post by Bᴜᴍʙʟᴇʙᴇᴇ on Nov 1, 2016 12:31:50 GMT -5
And that's what I want from her, just support and stuff considering that part of her attitude makes me a bit scared to tell her I'm pan cause idk how would she take it then? If she uses my pansexuality as bad thing or urg idk how to explain
And i have spoken to her about it but she seems to think I'm joking?? Like idk if it's from my normal sarcasm she hears or whatever. I'll have to talk to her again thou
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Post by Deleted on Nov 1, 2016 12:38:41 GMT -5
Her behavior is absolutely ridiculous, especially for someone that's in college. I don't know if I should recommend cutting her off, since she's not a bad friend beyond that, but... Any toxic behavior can really hurt you, especially since you said you aren't very outgoing.. yeah. I really, really hope you figure out a course of action you're comfortable with! Good luck!
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Post by Deleted on Nov 1, 2016 12:48:07 GMT -5
If you think she’ll have a problem with it or use it against you they you totally don’t have to tell her. I get it if you’re worried because teasing or because she might stop talking with you, but she’s the kind of person who wouldn’t take that well then LEAVE HER. She is not a good friend for you. Anyone who thinks about it as a bad thing (even if she tells them or something) is not a good friend. If you do want to tell her though maybe wait until things are a bit more settled so that it doesn’t accidentally make more conflict?
I know its might be really obvious but have you tried saying ‘I’m not joking’? I know that doesn’t always work and maybe you said it already but sometimes it help makes thing more serious. Saying it flat does help. 'I am not joking, I'm being serious. Please listen because I'm not trying to be funny. I want to talk with you.' Something like that I don't know.
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Post by Bᴜᴍʙʟᴇʙᴇᴇ on Nov 1, 2016 14:24:57 GMT -5
Thanks for all the advice guys, I just sometimes get really frustrated with her and about how she tries so hard to be noticed by these guys. I don't want to ditch her or cut her out cause this is just one bad quality with her that I can talk to her about, she has a lot of good in her too and I know she is really sweet. I plan on talking to her in the morning about how she acted around the boy and how she doesn't need to call dibs anymore since we aren't in high school and really there isn't a need for it. I have to let her understand that it's not okay for her to really do that 1) because she doesn't need to be so darn aggressive when it comes to talking to boys when I'm not gonna try and take someone she really likes and 2) it's degrading to me as a friend for her to stoop so low when she doesn't need to. And I really want to make sure she understands this before I tell her anything too touchy.
Thanks for all the advice guys it really helps~
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