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Post by 𝒇𝓲𝓭𝓸 🐾 on Oct 25, 2016 23:38:47 GMT -5
Hey, as the title states, I'm asking for advice on losing a dog. Last sunday I made the hardest decision, to let my 10 month old cattle dog puppy go after he came down with parvo and didn't have much of a chance for survival. I'm having a really hard time accepting that he's gone, I can't even think about it without wanting to vomit. He's the first dog that I've lost since I was a little kid, and I don't have much recollection of the death of my family dog. He's also the first dog I've had to euthanize, and I had to do it alone. Now I've seen cattle pass away, especially calves, I've even assisted the mobile vet around here in euthanizing them, but it's nothing compared to losing a dog that meant the world to you. I haven't ever had to euthanize a companion animal, not even any of my cats. I still have one that I've had since I was one years old, and he's still going strong. This is just hitting me hard and I really need advice. I'm kind of kicking myself in the teeth and feeling like it's my fault, but deep down I know it's not. I did everything in my power to prevent this from happening, but because of someone else's irresponsible actions with their dog, I've lost my best friend. I almost don't want to get another dog ever again because of this, but I know I will eventually with as much as I love them.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 25, 2016 23:57:32 GMT -5
𝒇𝓲𝓭𝓸 🐾 My dog was put down a couple years ago. I can't really give any advice other than to let it out. Since I still lived with family at the time I went into the shower, turned the water on, and cried there, to be completely honest. I kept it quiet enough so no one would hear. At first it's easy to dwell on the fact that you just lost a friend. And that's what crying is for. But as time goes on remember any good memories you had of him. Funny memories, memories of sleeping with him, or petting him, or getting kisses from him. Especially if there's anything that stands out, like if he did anything kinda dumb or risky, to remember that as a positive memory. For example, I remember when my dog jumped into my sled once as a kid while i was going down a hill and we both ate it. Do you have any pictures of Moony?
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𝒇𝓲𝓭𝓸 🐾
am I not a fly like thee?
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Post by 𝒇𝓲𝓭𝓸 🐾 on Oct 26, 2016 0:11:30 GMT -5
Thanks dude, I'll admit I've done some serious crying. I hardly ever cry, I'm pretty tough and sometimes I might come across as unfeeling to some people, as I hardly ever show emotion. But, this hit me hard.
I had a bunch of them on my camera, but while I was in town back in early September, I left in out in the open in my car, with my window slightly ajar. I came back out to my window all the way down, my door unlocked, and my camera gone. I filed a police report, but that got me nowhere without evidence or video footage. There were also some on my old phone, but it took a swim in the toilet and now it's fried. I do have a few on my new phone, like his last picture at the vet.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 26, 2016 0:14:22 GMT -5
My cat died of cancer recently, and my brother was crushed. He didn't go to school for a week and just sat in his room all day. It got better after a couple weeks, and he started seeing a grief counselor, which has really, really helped. They're not just for human losses, that might be an option for you. I also suggest holding a memorial service, and making a scrapbook with photos of your dog, even if it's really small, and just sitting down with a friend or relative and talking about the animal. It's a really hard thing, and most people don't understand just how hard it is, I'm sorry you have to go through that, especially with such a young dog.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 26, 2016 0:24:56 GMT -5
Thanks dude, I'll admit I've done some serious crying. I hardly ever cry, I'm pretty tough and sometimes I might come across as unfeeling to some people, as I hardly ever show emotion. But, this hit me hard.
I had a bunch of them on my camera, but while I was in town back in early September, I left in out in the open in my car, with my window slightly ajar. I came back out to my window all the way down, my door unlocked, and my camera gone. I filed a police report, but that got me nowhere without evidence or video footage. There were also some on my old phone, but it took a swim in the toilet and now it's fried. I do have a few on my new phone, like his last picture at the vet. There's nothing wrong with crying. At all. Someone had a quote in the signature here before that said something like, "It's not that people who cry are weak. It's that they've been strong for too long." If you still have the phone you could try bringing it to a shop to see if they can recover anything. I don't know how that works honestly. But it's something to look into if you can. If you feel comfortable you can always share some of his pics on here. It's hard, but eventually I hope you only remember the good about Moony.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 26, 2016 3:22:41 GMT -5
Ohh, I'm so sorry to hear :'( I've lost a couple dogs before their time. I lost a puppy after he got hit by a car, died on his way to the vet. Another dog, a purebred border collie who was going to be a service dog, also got loose and got hit, paralyzed him, so we decided it more merciful to put him down since even with surgery, he'd probably never be able to even walk without pain. And most recently we lost two dogs at once in a huge house fire. Honestly, out of everything we lost, they were the most precious to lose... But do you see a pattern? Every time we lose a dog, we get another. We love dogs, and even now we have another purebred border collie named Houdini. And I couldn't imagine life without him. Yes, I do still miss our two boys we lost I'm the fire. Nothing will replace them, ever. But a new dog or puppy can fill that void in your heart. Of course, take your time. There's no hurry in getting a new dog. But don't shut down the idea, you seem to genuinely care for dogs, and I bet you'd make a great owner. So give a dog, who could otherwise be homeless, a chance to have a home. That's the way I see it after I lose a dog. When one door closes, another opens. Take your time and grieve, first, of course but everything will be okay. I'm sure your pup is on Rainbow Bridge now, playing with new friends and waiting for you to join him <3
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Post by ❴ ғα∂ιηg ✦ яεαℓιтү ❵ on Oct 26, 2016 7:49:09 GMT -5
Just remember time does not heal wounds unlike the saying goes, it only makes them easier to bare.
Its a lesson I learned the hard way, I just recently lost my dog as well so if you ever need to vent you can always message me and we can be sad together and exchange stories about our old happy puppies or just cry and angry talk about how its not fair.
All are stages of grief and so its okay to have those thoughts and feelings and let them take their course.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 26, 2016 8:09:02 GMT -5
there will never be a time when you won't not miss your dog, but there will come a time when you won't be crying about him anymore and thinking about it every second.
in june 2014 i lost my 14 year old collie mix, Jade. we had her since she was about 8, and i loved her so much. she was the sweetest thing. but, because of old age, she started getting reallyyyy bad arthritis, and was in constant pain and couldn't walk properly, so we had to make the worst desicion - to put her down. i was devastated, and grieved for a long time after it. i still get upset about it now, over two years later, and i know i always will be upset about it. but it's not as bad as it was when i first lost her.
you can always PM me about it, ive lost many pet companions before so i know what you're going through. you can also go online and read other stories about others losing pets, so you know you're not alone.
also, there's nothing wrong about getting another dog. obviously you're not going to want to go out and get another one right now, because you're still in the stages of grief, but there's nothing wrong about adopting one some time later. even though no dog can replace the companion you have just lost, there is always space in your heart for another friend. think about all the dogs & puppies in shelters who need homes. maybe one day you can give one of them a home.
it'll get better, i promise <3 :c
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