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Post by Deleted on Oct 24, 2016 22:31:47 GMT -5
I'm changing my last name. For 15 years I've put up with having my father's last name. My father is a terrible man. He has done terrible things to me, my mom, and even his own family. I hate him so much. I could right an essay on how much I hate him and why. He could drop dead tomorrow for all I care. I've severed all ties with him. Haven't spoken to him in months. For those of you who say I should talk to him, I think it would be best if I didn't. It would bring up way too many painful memories and I'd have an anxiety attack. I've made up my mind. My mom and the rest of my family aprove. I'm taking my mom's last name.
I'm actually excited. I'm sure it's nothing to get worked up about, but I'm going to be completely and totally free of my father for the first time.
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Post by ❴ ғα∂ιηg ✦ яεαℓιтү ❵ on Oct 24, 2016 22:33:52 GMT -5
I completely understand this feeling! Whenever I got rid of my bio dads name in favor of my adopted dads name I felt the same! Congrats on finally working up the courage to do so! And I'm glad you're doing what's best for you!
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Post by Deleted on Oct 24, 2016 22:35:28 GMT -5
I had mixed feelings changing my last name, even tho my bio parents did awful things I want to change my last name something that's not related the either families.
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Post by Ginz on Oct 24, 2016 22:42:19 GMT -5
good! change that name
i want to change my first name, but for other reasons
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Post by Deleted on Oct 24, 2016 23:03:06 GMT -5
I'm glad no ones like "Oh but you should try to reconcile!"
It's too late for that. I've run into so many people who say that. They have no idea what he's done.
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Post by ❴ ғα∂ιηg ✦ яεαℓιтү ❵ on Oct 24, 2016 23:04:15 GMT -5
I'm glad no ones like "Oh but you should try to reconcile!" It's too late for that. I've run into so many people who say that. They have no idea what he's done. yea, I've had people tell me that stuff too, but you just got to shrug it off because they don't know and so they don't inderstand
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Post by Deleted on Oct 24, 2016 23:38:03 GMT -5
I'm glad no ones like "Oh but you should try to reconcile!" It's too late for that. I've run into so many people who say that. They have no idea what he's done. yea, I've had people tell me that stuff too, but you just got to shrug it off because they don't know and so they don't inderstand Yeah. I always say that unless they have been in a similar situation, they can't possibly understand.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 25, 2016 0:34:09 GMT -5
Congratulations to you! I may do this myself when I move out. I recently discovered that my father.. doesn't quite control his emotions well, and he's terrible to his girlfriend, Stacy. I don't normally live with him since his ex (my mom, who isn't Stacy) broke up with him, but I do visit him once a month. Unfortunately, he ruined my birthday after I heard him abusing Stacy. I get that he had a bad day, but come on.. just before my birthday? And your own girlfriend?
I just.. I do believe that my dad loves his family, he just really needs to control his emotions. He was an ass to Stacy just the other day. I was so mad that night, even now I am still mad, that he clearly never learned. I mean, if you guys are going to fight and abuse each other, can you at least do it when I'm not around? Thanks.
I'm sorry if that was rather personal.. I needed to get that off my chest. If it wasn't for my friend RPing with me, I would have screamed my head off at him. My friend kept me sane. I was very angry that he never learned from his mistake back in July.
But kudos to you. It's good for you to move on. I would do the same, if I had the courage to say something to my dad, but sadly I don't. And I admire you that you're moving on. I can't have the courage to say anything to my dad right now. But I'm glad I don't visit him that often at all. It's more like once every 2 months or so. But I sure as hell won't come over anytime soon now..
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