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Post by ratatouille on Oct 19, 2016 18:39:16 GMT -5
it feels so weird making this thread oh my god i guess i just really want to come out to my friends and my school? i don't think my family would have any problems with me being gay, but like i live in a really really really conservative and religious town and like i don't know a single person in my school who is openly gay or who is openly supportive of the lgbt+ community i don't think i'd get like bullied for it or anything, other than maybe like name calling and gossip or whatever, so i feel like it's a "safe environment" but i know i'd lose a lot of my friends and wouldn't get elected for student council next year and i don't even know if my close friends would be comfortable with it because they're extremely religious and they've been really negative/distant everytime that i've brought up lgbt+ rights and like last year during debate this girl gave a speech about why gay marriage should be illegal and everyone was like cheering her on and saying "adam and eve not adam and steve" and crap and i went to the teacher about it and he said he couldn't do anything about it because she had the right to free speech or whatever and i'm afraid that my other super religious teachers will be harder on me because of it and kids already call each other the f word and stuff and i'm just so so scared that's going to happen to me
i guess like the solution to all of this is just to not come out, especially because that means not being able to do student council for the rest of high school which i'd really like to put on college applications but it's gotten to the point where like i feel like i'm not even being myself anymore and i just want to say it already
so i guess does anyone have any advice or words of encouragement/discouragement or like their personal experiences? sorry for rambling idk why i'm doing this on a cat forum of all places but it's not like i know anyone in the lgbt+ community in real life lmao
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Post by Deleted on Oct 19, 2016 18:42:23 GMT -5
I would advise to not. I'm not trying to be rude, but it doesn't sound like the best idea right now. Untill you can find some supportive people and know that you have friends and that support I wouldn't risk it. People think they won't get bullied because the world seems so new an accepting, but it's not really like that. I'm not meaning to sound depressing but I would just wait awhile and take it slow unless you're really confident nothing bad will happen.
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Post by ratatouille on Oct 19, 2016 18:43:31 GMT -5
it's okay!! i totally agree to some extent, thank you so much for the advice
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Post by Deleted on Oct 19, 2016 18:45:28 GMT -5
i suggest only coming out if you're in a safe environment, whcih it sounds like you're not. :^( i'm really sorry you're surrounded by all that negativity. please stay safe my dude
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Post by Sanders on Oct 19, 2016 18:47:03 GMT -5
yeah pretty much what mouse said. and if you are going to tell a few people i would make sure they aren't going to blab about it because being forced to come out is not a fun experience either.
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Post by Saint Ambrosef on Oct 19, 2016 18:47:09 GMT -5
not LGBT, but maybe you could just tell your closer friends? and ask them not to tell anyone else because you're not ready for it to be public information.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 19, 2016 18:49:00 GMT -5
i understand how you feel, though. i live in a state and town that is basically 99% a certain religion and its hard to find anyone that doesn't talk negatively and rudely about LGBT, so im definitely probably never coming out. good luck and if you do decide to come out i hope it goes well
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Post by Deleted on Oct 19, 2016 18:49:49 GMT -5
You gotta do what's best for you, you know? If you're sure, then I have your back 100%. But I do want you to know that being in the closet doesn't equal being ashamed of yourself, that you don't have to prove that you're proud of your identity by coming out now, and that you'd be no less brave if you stayed closeted. Sometimes, you have to think about your safety rather than what you want, and it's a crappy position, but it has nothing to do with you or how strong and comfortable you are. You're already strong, right now.
I don't want to discourage you, but I think coming out could lead to some bad stuff for you, at least until you're in a better environment, and I don't want to see you get hurt. Good luck either way, though!
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Post by Deleted on Oct 19, 2016 18:50:39 GMT -5
I agree with everyone here, only come out if you have people who will support you.
My parent's found out [ I didn't tell them ] and my mother hated me like 100% more. I moved/got kicked out soon after, but that wasn't why, well I'm sure it contributed.
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Post by ❴ ғα∂ιηg ✦ яεαℓιтү ❵ on Oct 19, 2016 18:52:29 GMT -5
I kinda came out by making puns to pretty much everyone, doing it in a joking manner kind of takes off the edge for me but really its whatever you're comfortable with, stay safe!
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be cunning and full of tricks
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Post by sɪʟᴠᴇʀᴏᴡʟ ☾ on Oct 19, 2016 18:56:20 GMT -5
•♕• what the people above said. dont feel pressured to come out, especially if your school and town isnt safe. coming out doesnt make you any "less" or "more" lgbtq •♔•
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Post by Haleigh on Oct 19, 2016 19:40:28 GMT -5
This goes for anything you have difficulty talking about. Don't do it unless you feel comfortable and safe. Please.
(I make sure I do this when talking about things that are a touchy subject in my life.)
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