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Post by Deleted on Oct 15, 2016 18:44:23 GMT -5
My mother is very protective. Verrrrry. She's even more so since my sister died (Two years ago. It's alright now.). I'm seventeen now and I need to start doing things with my friends. It got to the point where I convinced myself that I'm reclusive just because I didn't want to face that fact that I wasn't allowed to see any of my friends. I have been at my house for two years straight. The only time I go out is to the store with my mother or to see family. Public school was the only way I got social interaction and I have no plans on going back there.
So, now I need to know some ways that I could persuade my mom into letting me go places with my friends. A big problem is that most of them are a few years older than me. My main group of friends being a 22 year old, 20 year old, and a handful of 19 year olds I knew from public school. This makes my mom very uncomfortable. She doesn't like the fact that they're so much older than I am.
She doesn't seem to know that I'm not incompetent, though? All of my friends are huge nerds and she shouldn't be so nervous about me being around them. I don't even befriend people who smoke weed, yet she's terrified that I'm going to be out drinking and doing drugs. Like, mom, please... all I want to do is talk about World of Warcraft while eating ice cream with a nerd.
This is probably a mess but yes discuss
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Post by Deleted on Oct 15, 2016 19:03:54 GMT -5
Hmmm... well, whenever my mom was protective, me and my siblings would mention so-and-so who my mom knew had protective parents too- and say that they were doing this or that too. We had to tell the truth most of the time though, since she kept in touch with the parents so we couldn't fib all that often.
But yea, when Sherlock became popular and we couldn't watch it, we'd remind out mom that a bunch of other people were also watching it.
That method would usually get her to say yes about 60-70% of the time. Not perfect but it worked more times than not. The obvious down-side being that we couldn't use that excuse of other protective parents were also disallowing it- and it could even backfire and actually hurt our cause if my mom found out that.
But yeah, that's just one idea I have. Not much other than that, sorry :C I feel ya, I have pretty protective parents too. Hang in there, and make sure to go slow. Talk with your friends and see if they're up to compromising with your mom at first. Over time hopefully as your friends gain your mom's trust, she might let you do more activities with them.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 15, 2016 19:30:21 GMT -5
-Talk with her and tell her everything (or a lot) of what you just told us.
-start with really small things like going to a pool or walking in the mall. The mall is great because it's fun and really big, plus it's safe. Tell her it's in a public place and that there's tons of people around. Really advertise the safety of the place you want to go.
-do some trust boosters with her, do what ever you must to really make her trust you. Also make sure she full heartedly believes you are responsible. This means you may possibly have to pay for more of your own things (if you don't do this already).
-clean room. I really can not make this clearer. It's a must.
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