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Post by Ginz on Oct 13, 2016 23:35:37 GMT -5
So, my dad is refusing to give me my savings bond, I'm 18, and I have an opportunity to just take it. However, I don't know how to deal with the inevitable anger from the event.
Should I take it while he's out of town since it's in my name, or should I have my mom take him back to court so a lawyer makes him give it to me?
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Post by poppy. on Oct 13, 2016 23:38:45 GMT -5
Talk to your mother about it first and have her help you make a decision. Even as an adult, I find asking my parents (or any very reliable adult in my life) for advice tends to be the best initial option. You are always able to get more opinions on what to do in time, but definitely listen to what your mother has to say first about it.
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Post by Ginz on Oct 13, 2016 23:41:24 GMT -5
Talk to your mother about it first and have her help you make a decision. Even as an adult, I find asking my parents (or any very reliable adult in my life) for advice tends to be the best initial option. You are always able to get more opinions on what to do in time, but definitely listen to what your mother has to say first about it. It was actually her idea to just take it. That's why I'm seeking help from an outside party.
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Post by poppy. on Oct 13, 2016 23:43:02 GMT -5
Ah, I see. Well, since you are 18 and your mother did give you that advice, I would say that you are alright to take it. If your father pursues things in an aggressive manner, then perhaps it will lead to some future action being taken, but for now just do what is best for the situation. The bond is yours, after all.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 13, 2016 23:44:05 GMT -5
how often do u see ur dad?
i mean i dont know how he gets when he's angry, but if he discovers that you just took it, i dont want u to find urself in a potentially dangerous situation.
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Post by Ginz on Oct 13, 2016 23:44:57 GMT -5
how often do u see ur dad? i mean i dont know how he gets when he's angry, but if he discovers that you just took it, i dont want u to find urself in a potentially dangerous situation. i don't live with him anymore, so it'd just be texts and/or calls
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Post by Deleted on Oct 13, 2016 23:46:21 GMT -5
then i'd say take it.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 14, 2016 0:11:45 GMT -5
If you want my advice, I would advise you don't take out the savings bond intill it's fully matured, I know it'll take awhile depending on when it was put it and how long it takes to mature [usually 25-35 years] You can take it from your dad, but I would let it keep maturing, unless it's fully matured.
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Post by Ginz on Oct 14, 2016 0:20:31 GMT -5
If you want my advice, I would advise you don't take out the savings bond intill it's fully matured, I know it'll take awhile depending on when it was put it and how long it takes to mature [usually 25-35 years] You can take it from your dad, but I would let it keep maturing, unless it's fully matured. It was given to me from my late godfather, intended for educational purposes. I'm in college now, so I think it'd be appropriate for me to start using it. What started this all is the need for a new computer -- my current one is so old and can't update anymore, and my dad was determined to keep the bonds when I asked for some to buy a new computer for school. He told me, "Does that mean you're going to give back your iPad?" because he gave me an iPad Pro for Christmas for school. He either doesn't see why I need a desktop computer with my iPad, or is purposefully trying to wiggle his way out of sacrificing my bonds because he wants to use them for after I'm done at my community college despite my mom telling him that they don't count towards his agreed 10 semesters during the divorce.
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Post by Ginz on Oct 14, 2016 0:21:13 GMT -5
Oh yeah, and I'm hesitant to just follow my mom's advice because she has a trend of being rash.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 14, 2016 0:30:44 GMT -5
Legally you can get a lawyer involved because your names are on the bonds and they can't cash out the bonds now that you're 18 even tho they're your parents, but getting a lawyer involved will cost money. You're parents should have the paper bonds that say when they were made and when they expired and the type of savings bond [there's 3 types I think]they need to hand them over. It has your name on it and it belongs to you for your education. You can ask your mom where she/he keeps them and just take it. They can't force you to hand it over, because it's your and you can call the police's non emergency number and have them help you settle the dispute and be a witness and they can inform your parents of the legal formalities of the saving bonds I would ask if it would be appropriate to ask for a policeman to help settle the dispute when you call the non-emergency number. Some police stations might think it's a waste of resources. Where I live, it's a small town and the cops have nothing else better to do besides stalk the highway and make sure no one is speeding
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Post by Ginz on Oct 14, 2016 0:37:05 GMT -5
I'm in a decently sized city, so I don't know about police. I do know where the bonds are, and my mom found the key to my dad's fire box, their location, which is why she brought up the idea of taking them in the first place. I found the fire box when I went to my dad's house earlier, too.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 14, 2016 0:40:40 GMT -5
Just take it and don't tell them Most police stations don't mind sending an officer down to help with a dispute My mom used to do it all the time with my older brother she was also good friends with them, but she knows like the entire police force.
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