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Post by Cheyenne on Oct 5, 2016 18:01:20 GMT -5
Yeah it hurts a lot. Even if I am just a teenager it still hurts to be rejected, especially by someone your so close to. Not only is he a close friend but he literally said just a week ago that he cared about my emotions just...randomly so it led me to believe that he liked me. Unfortunately...I was very wrong. He just calmly said that he didn't feel the same way and just acted normal the rest of the day. I mean...I didn't really show any reaction at the time because I hate crying in front of people but it really hurts. He probably doesn't know how upset I am but I wanna keep it that way because even though he's my friend he can be a jerk sometimes and become defensive. I really need someone to talk to right now...
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Post by trickster ♥ on Oct 5, 2016 18:21:48 GMT -5
CheyenneI'm so sorry. I haven't had something like this happen to me so I can't really offer advice but that sounds awful, I can't imagine how bad that must feel if you need to talk about it or just chat I'm here
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Post by Cheyenne on Oct 5, 2016 18:33:52 GMT -5
Thanks for your sympathy, but I don't know how long it's gonna take but it's going to be rough...
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Post by Cheyenne on Oct 5, 2016 20:48:44 GMT -5
Try not to. I made one mistake (slight warning) and I just wanna crawl into a hole and die.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 5, 2016 20:51:51 GMT -5
I'm really sorry about that ): it's awful when people basically betray you like that. *sends hugs*
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Post by Cheyenne on Oct 5, 2016 21:02:45 GMT -5
I'm really sorry about that ): it's awful when people basically betray you like that. *sends hugs* Yeah... (Hugs back) I'm going to tell him that the way he said it stung a little but he's pretty unpredictable. He'll either feel really bad about it or get all defensive so that's going to be tough. He seems to still consider me as a friend but he has no idea he hurt me. Probably because I do too much of a good job of hiding my feelings.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 5, 2016 21:24:14 GMT -5
I hope that all works out ok for you. ^^' just try to do it in a respectful and calm manner, of course, and hopefully things won't be too bad. I know we can't control how other people react though. And same; hiding feelings is my specialty.
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Post by Gengar on Oct 5, 2016 22:20:37 GMT -5
➳ on the one hand, I feel you. It's horrible to have your hopes crushed like that On the other hand, sometimes people just don't feel the same way. Maybe he still wants to be best friends tho!
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Rejected
Oct 6, 2016 14:01:44 GMT -5
via mobile
Post by Deleted on Oct 6, 2016 14:01:44 GMT -5
silverstar, you'll live. if your crush rejected you, I'd be better than him faking to love you. You'll appreciate it one day
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Post by Cheyenne on Oct 6, 2016 14:07:57 GMT -5
Gengar @thewolfsshadow Bleak trickster ♥ He does still want to be friends, and I'm sure he's flattered (I mean....I am pretty descent when it comes to looks but my personality needs work.) In geography he made a terrible joke and I said, "I'm ashamed to call you my crush," (which was also a joke) and he rest his head on my shoulder for a spit second. He's confusing...and has more mood swings then a teenage girl. Even though he changes his mind about his crush way more often then he should. (probably from getting to know them more and disliking their personalities) I'm sure he'll always see me as just a friend. Am I upset, yes. Am I going to be ok...I don't know but for now all I can do is be strong.
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Rejected
Oct 6, 2016 14:16:35 GMT -5
via mobile
Post by Deleted on Oct 6, 2016 14:16:35 GMT -5
aww sorry about that :c im too afraid to ask my crush out bc i don't want everyone in the school finding out but you should be proud that you had the guts to do it!
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Post by Deleted on Oct 6, 2016 14:28:17 GMT -5
From my experience, it's better to be rejected and act like nothing happened than to be led on only to find out he doesn't care for you in that way. I mean, yes, it hurts. But you can't exactly blame him for not returning those feelings. My ex and I were together 8 months. We broke up, but I still held on to hope, because he only said we had to work on our own issues. Well... we talked one night a few days ago. He said while he thinks me a friend, he lost feeling a few months before we officially broke up. He continued acting like everything was fine, probably to spare my feelings. But it hurts worse when they lead you on. He's started acting like a jerk to me. Probably to try and get rid of me, but I'm not leaving till he actually tells me to go away. He's hurt me really bad, and while I may not be the most mature, I'm a believer in payback. So I'm staying in his life and annoying him until he admits I am nothing. Because, until he does, he might care for me and just not know how to express it.
Sorry I went off babbling. But point is, there are worse things than rejection. Keep your chin up, you'll get through this, and you'll meet someone who does like you that way *hugs*
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Post by Cheyenne on Oct 6, 2016 14:47:20 GMT -5
From my experience, it's better to be rejected and act like nothing happened than to be led on only to find out he doesn't care for you in that way. I mean, yes, it hurts. But you can't exactly blame him for not returning those feelings. My ex and I were together 8 months. We broke up, but I still held on to hope, because he only said we had to work on our own issues. Well... we talked one night a few days ago. He said while he thinks me a friend, he lost feeling a few months before we officially broke up. He continued acting like everything was fine, probably to spare my feelings. But it hurts worse when they lead you on. He's started acting like a jerk to me. Probably to try and get rid of me, but I'm not leaving till he actually tells me to go away. He's hurt me really bad, and while I may not be the most mature, I'm a believer in payback. So I'm staying in his life and annoying him until he admits I am nothing. Because, until he does, he might care for me and just not know how to express it. Sorry I went off babbling. But point is, there are worse things than rejection. Keep your chin up, you'll get through this, and you'll meet someone who does like you that way *hugs* *hugs back* I mostly blame myself...but why should I? He doesn't like me so...I guess that's fine. I'm his friend and I guess that's the only thing that matters. Not to mention he's flattered so at least I have him there. Also, I'm sorry about your relationship. I had something similar to that happen to me but my ex still acted like nothing happened and we are acquaintances to this day. It seems like your ex isn't very good with break ups...and it doesn't make sense to try to spare someone's feelings then suddenly act like a jerk. I'm sorry you've experienced something like that because it doesn't sound fun.
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Rejected
Oct 6, 2016 15:20:54 GMT -5
via mobile
Post by Deleted on Oct 6, 2016 15:20:54 GMT -5
Eh. Life is life. He admits he's a Jack wagon. But he makes Ho attempt to fix himself. He had the nerve to say "why do you act like we're still together?" I would have slapped him if we were face to face. But it was through text. I asked why he refused to accept my facebook request (he blocked me because of this other girl he's talking to told him to) and he unblocked me when I demanded him to. Like, I don't want to be a controlling dog, especially when we aren't getting back together. But he claims he wants to be in my life. So I'm not letting him go until he admits he doesn't want ne. I'm not going to back down, I'm a fiery red head who won't take this. I know I'm immature, but if I back down first, I'm going to feel even more worthless because of what could have been. I am an outside the box thinker. I guess a part of me hopes he will change... but I think the majority is fear to be alone. As long as I can hold out, I'll stay in his life. Because I have no other friends except one other girl in my town, but sadly, she works every day of her life at three different jobs. I rarely get a chance to talk to her... I do value the time we do get though. So my ex I'd basically the only person I'm able to talk to... even if he doesn't truly want me, I like to pretend. And I will leave him alone if he asks me too... but until then I just can't let go it's too hard, because he was my first real love. I had relationships, yes, but those were puppycrushes at best. John (my idiotic ex) was my first actual love. Some days I wish I never met him, but other times I'm glad I got to experience love, for once... I guess I'm just in denial. One day I'll meet another man who will treat me like a Princess. And I'll treat him like a Prince. My online friends are constantly telling me to get over his sorry butt, but I need to do it in my own time... it's harder than it seems when you gave him everything... Sorry I rambled again lol but I have faith you will find someone who genuinely loves you. Maybe I will too. Only time will tell who our potential spouses will be one day. Though I am sorry for venting out to you. I just keep these emotions and thought bottled up, then my heart starts hurting so I have to let loose. I hope you dont mind :'(
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Post by Cheyenne on Oct 6, 2016 16:59:04 GMT -5
Sorry I rambled again lol but I have faith you will find someone who genuinely loves you. Maybe I will too. Only time will tell who our potential spouses will be one day. Though I am sorry for venting out to you. I just keep these emotions and thought bottled up, then my heart starts hurting so I have to let loose. I hope you dont mind :'( Of course I don't mind! The forums are a safe place!
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Post by Cheyenne on Oct 7, 2016 15:28:28 GMT -5
silverstar, you'll live. if your crush rejected you, I'd be better than him faking to love you. You'll appreciate it one day Aww thanks. He does love me though, but in a platonic way. He just doesn't see me being in a romantic relationship with him. Possibly because I have a few mental health issues that need to be sorted out I guess. I mean, I'd rather have him as a friend then to date him only to lose him. Either that or he just doesn't see me like that. Either way it's understandable...just upsetting.
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