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Post by mymerlincat on Sept 26, 2016 12:45:34 GMT -5
This Saturday, my dad got married. It was only a little over year after my parents initially split, so I felt pretty upset leading into this. I was my father's best man. I had never attended a wedding before, let alone been in one, so this was an interesting and new experience for me. My dad's new wife is Danish, born in Denmark and all of her family except her children live there still.
I felt absolutely terrible and dazed at the beginning of the reception because there were a lot of mixed feelings. I was happy for dad and happy to gain a new family, but I felt terrible for my mother. It happened too soon after their split for her, and my mom has been going pretty downhill, (charged with felonies, etc.) After the first 45 minutes, I had a lot of fun, and I love my new family a lot.
I'm very concerned because my family is very nice to me, but I feel like I care way more about them than do me. I love my step siblings a lot because I am an only child and my whole life I've wanted brothers and sisters so I already love them to death, but I'm only a teenager and they are all in their 20s. It's very important to me that I can get close to them. I told them as we were leaving that I couldnt have asked for a better set of siblings, but it came out awkward and I don't know how they think. I feel like it is easy for me to get close to and accept them because I am my dad's only living blood relative, but it will be very hard for them to accept me, and I'm not sure if it will ever happen as much as I hope and want it to happen. I also feel like it is not right to my mother that I get close to them, even though she tells me that it is nonsense and she is very happy I have them.
Any suggestions?
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Post by Saint Ambrosef on Sept 26, 2016 15:49:04 GMT -5
Are you the same one who talked about your father's/step-mother's conversion confusion on Christianland?
I would suggest just honestly telling them that you have always wanted siblings, and that you only hope the age gap won't put a damper on your relationship.
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Post by mymerlincat on Sept 26, 2016 16:30:07 GMT -5
Are you the same one who talked about your father's/step-mother's conversion confusion on Christianland?
I would suggest just honestly telling them that you have always wanted siblings, and that you only hope the age gap won't put a damper on your relationship. I am! Thanks for your input.
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Post by poppy. on Sept 26, 2016 16:38:36 GMT -5
Perhaps express your concerns to your father, but do not do so in a defensive way. Be polite and wary of his feelings on everything, as well, and seek his advice as to how to handle your step-mother and your step-siblings. As well, I would advise continuing to be polite to your new step-siblings, as it is important for them to know you care. Perhaps they are just as nervous as you are about your new family, though they express it in different ways. Once you have some insight from your father, then find a way to talk politely with your new siblings about everything.
Civilly expressing concerns is the best approach to this situation before moving forward.
I wish you the best!
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