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Post by Lórien on Sept 1, 2016 17:49:23 GMT -5
Hm, I don't have much to let out right now, but I'm book marking this for when it comes.
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what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
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Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 1, 2016 18:52:09 GMT -5
Hey Echo(: Please do!
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what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
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Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 1, 2016 20:34:26 GMT -5
i have a weird problem that if one of my hw assignments isn't done i hold on to it, even though i know i won't have time it finish it(because my algebra teacher assigns hw every night!). my parents don't understand and they just add on to the stress of school when they tell me to do everything in one night. and when i explain it they just don't understand that most HW assignments are 50-70 problems with at least 20 of them having 5 different parts. also, this has been brewing in my head for a while, swim suits are basically just under garments and when you walk around in your swim suits its ok, but when you are in your underwear, and walk around, it's just wrong? [ Do you hold onto them and finish them later? Or just hold onto them and not do anything with them? That is a lot of questions though. And I assume there is probably homework for other classes as well which you cannot ignore? Maybe you could try and have your parents email the teacher and let them know that you don't have time to finish the problems, given the amount. In middle school/high school, the workload is definitely not small, where all the teachers try to pile on an hour + of homework per class, which honestly leaves you staying up way later than you should. It's a vicious cycle. But at the same time, the workload does prepare you for later in life, if you know what I mean. If you were at work for instance and had to bring something home to finish, you gotta just do it, you can't leave it unfinished, ya know? But I do totally get where you are coming from. The reason your parents are probably hounding you is because they just want to make sure that you will be successful later on in life and maybe they don't realize the stress that they are putting you under, as that only makes things worse. I say, just try your best though, that is all you can really do! I'd say talk to your parents again and hear what they have to say as well, so you can understand both sides. Best luck! EDIT: On your second part; I have honestly wondered about that a lot myself. It is really strange to think about? Because a swimsuit is basically the same as your 'under garments' but it is totally acceptable to wear around in public...And sometimes, they are even more scandalous so it just makes no sense. Who even came up with that? ]
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The Ancient One
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what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
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Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 1, 2016 20:48:42 GMT -5
[ So you do finish them at some point? At least you finish them! Are you able to get credit as well? Even if late? Tips to break the cycle? I mean, honestly, it all comes down to time management. There is nothing that is going to stop the teachers from assigning all the work to you, but 1. Try and start with the homework assignments that will take you the least amount of time and will be the easiest, that way you can get them done first and out of the way. If there are any problems that you are having trouble with, maybe skip them, do the rest and go back to them at the end. 2. Try to start your hmwk as soon as you get home from school. I am not sure how you do it now, but if you start as soon as you get home, that will give you the most time to finish it and then, you might have free time after, or if not, at least you will have been able to get most done. 3. Do you have an agenda book of sorts? I find it extremely helpful to write down everything I need to do, dates things need to be done by ect and cross it off when I am done so that I can make sure I am getting it all done in a timely fashion. With that being said, try to order the hmwk so you know which ones are due first, so you can get those done first. I hope this helps! ]
[ Literally. It's honestly the same thing. You could literally walk to a beach in your under garments and people could mistake it for a bikini? so?? Idk. It's just weird haha ]
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what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
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Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 1, 2016 20:59:59 GMT -5
[ What is GATE? That's good though; I've always found them super super helpful when it comes to organizing all of my school work ]
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The Ancient One
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pumpkin pie
what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
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Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 1, 2016 21:05:10 GMT -5
[ Ahh gotcha! I take it that it is a good thing? Talented and gifted sounds like it would be good! ]
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Post by The Noble Dragon on Sept 1, 2016 23:22:35 GMT -5
Hello all! I have returned from class! I added a link to the front page to a thread I posted a while ago on friendships and how to tell the difference between a good friend and a bad friend. If you aren't sure how some of your relationships are then I strongly suggest you check it out. Or if you have some advice for those who still need to learn the difference please post your own experiences with good and bad friends/relationships.
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what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
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Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 2, 2016 9:07:21 GMT -5
[ Good Morning! I'll actually have a look at that myself!
Omg that just gave me an idea though- like what if every once and a while, we had a topic and it was like discuss your own experiences ect and we could post it up on the front, the topic and we could all discuss and everything idk lol Sounds fun haha
I'm gonna see if I have any experiences though! I'll post it later! ]
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Post by The Noble Dragon on Sept 2, 2016 13:56:11 GMT -5
I like that idea! Like a weekly discussion to keep the chat new and fresh and to share experiences and teach everyone about different topics and expereinces.
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what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
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Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 2, 2016 14:14:11 GMT -5
^^ Mhmh! And we could maybe put responses on the front at as well? Or what we could do is keep just discussions and then we can put all the responses on a post on one of these pages and just say- see this page for responses, so that it doesn't clutter the front
it could be on one of the save posts!
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Post by The Noble Dragon on Sept 2, 2016 14:22:59 GMT -5
I like the latter option! Or we can archive all the posts and responses on a seperate thread and put the link to it on the front so people can always see and discuss them as needed?
And yeah Discussion of the Week(?) should be one of the save posts!
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Post by Lórien on Sept 2, 2016 14:23:54 GMT -5
Oh my gosh I wish I could stay right now I have so many emotions to let out... Urgh why do I let people push me around so much... *Cries*
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Post by The Noble Dragon on Sept 2, 2016 14:34:50 GMT -5
Hey Echo, The good news is we are always here for you to let out your emotions, even if you aren't able to right now. I'm sure you aren't letting people push you around. It's harder to realize what's going on when it comes to those sorts of things than people let on. It's even harder to stop it or prevent it. Everyone wants to make other's happy, sometimes at the cost of our own happiness and we don't realize how much of a toll that takes until we are practically at our breaking point. And it is soooo hard to stop and change it after you've already gotten used to it.
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Post by Lórien on Sept 2, 2016 15:35:50 GMT -5
I would make this longer, or maybe I'll be able to put all the details. I don't know, considering I only a few feet away from her.... There is probably going to be some typos because I won't have time to fix it. So my friend, let's call her Emily, the one that abandoned me while I was in tears multiple times, is a really bad friend. Me and my other friend(Let's call her Megan) both know that, along with many other things about Emily. So we have been trying to separate from Emily, but it's so hard. Today, Megan completely lost it with Emily. Emily had been talking with her other group of friend, about how they have hurt their self. One person was like "I was stabbing my skin with my pencil and peeling then my skin of." And Emily was like "Spsh, amateurs. I burned my shoulder on purpose." Megan pulled me over and said she was going to talk to Emily about them being friends. At this point, I was shaking and about to burst in tears. One of thing that completely breaks me, confronting people. It doesn't matter about what, but I break down when I have to do that. Even online, even making phone calls... So Megan goes over to Emily and pulls her from her group, and I pretended I didn't know what was going on, asking if I could come with them. Megan talked with Emily, with me tagging along and trying to stay neartul because it would hurt to much to cut Emily out of my life. I waited for Emily to lash out, but because we were at recess she couldn't. luckily for us, recess ended. While I was silently crying, we had to go to the next class. Unfortunately I'm at Emily's house, as we had planned a sleepover the other day. I stayed at home as the long as I could, but I had to go to her house. I was to scared to tell her I didn't want to come, so here I am. Some other stuff happened that included tears but...
This might not sound like much, but it really hurts. Some other stuff has happened with her, and it's starting to pile up to high.
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#a8d1ff
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pumpkin pie
what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
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Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 2, 2016 16:35:12 GMT -5
I like the latter option! Or we can archive all the posts and responses on a seperate thread and put the link to it on the front so people can always see and discuss them as needed? And yeah Discussion of the Week(?) should be one of the save posts! [ I like that! We could have an archive for all the old responses and we can link that there! And ya, we should do that! ]
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#a8d1ff
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pumpkin pie
what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
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Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 2, 2016 17:17:08 GMT -5
I would make this longer, or maybe I'll be able to put all the details. I don't know, considering I only a few feet away from her.... There is probably going to be some typos because I won't have time to fix it. So my friend, let's call her Emily, the one that abandoned me while I was in tears multiple times, is a really bad friend. Me and my other friend(Let's call her Megan) both know that, along with many other things about Emily. So we have been trying to separate from Emily, but it's so hard. Today, Megan completely lost it with Emily. Emily had been talking with her other group of friend, about how they have hurt their self. One person was like "I was stabbing my skin with my pencil and peeling then my skin of." And Emily was like "Spsh, amateurs. I burned my shoulder on purpose." Megan pulled me over and said she was going to talk to Emily about them being friends. At this point, I was shaking and about to burst in tears. One of thing that completely breaks me, confronting people. It doesn't matter about what, but I break down when I have to do that. Even online, even making phone calls... So Megan goes over to Emily and pulls her from her group, and I pretended I didn't know what was going on, asking if I could come with them. Megan talked with Emily, with me tagging along and trying to stay neartul because it would hurt to much to cut Emily out of my life. I waited for Emily to lash out, but because we were at recess she couldn't. luckily for us, recess ended. While I was silently crying, we had to go to the next class. Unfortunately I'm at Emily's house, as we had planned a sleepover the other day. I stayed at home as the long as I could, but I had to go to her house. I was to scared to tell her I didn't want to come, so here I am. Some other stuff happened that included tears but... This might not sound like much, but it really hurts. Some other stuff has happened with her, and it's starting to pile up to high. [ Oh gosh! That sounds terrible! For tonight, I'd say just to make the best of things because you don't want to make things worse, ya know? I can't say I have ever confronted any friends about not wanting to be friends anymore, so I really don't know what I can do in that aspect. I have lost contact with friends though- I mean, this is natural, some friendships come and go while others last. You guys might just be drifting apart and it really isn't neither of your faults. When I lost contact with my friends it was more of, we just stopped talking, stopped hanging out, I mean, we still say hi, here and there if we are passing, but we don't hang out anymore, which is ok because like I said, some friendships don't last, you gotta move on from them. And if that is what is happening here, maybe it was meant to be like that. I'd say at least remain friendly towards her, and if you must, just let her know that you don't feel as close anymore. The worst thing to do is to leave off on a bad note with any hard feelings or fighting. I know confrontations are hard, I have a hard time with that myself, but if things are not going well between you guys, maybe you should talk to your parents and have them talk to her parents or something to make things a bit easier for you, ya know? I mean, the thing is, you are still young- drama with friends happen all the time, and new friends will come and go and it can be painful at the time, but for whatever reason things happened, they happened for a reason and when you are older, it will all make sense why. I hope things go best for you! ]
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Post by Deleted on Sept 2, 2016 17:27:11 GMT -5
Thank you so much for this. I will keep this place in mind for the future! Hopefully you will be able to keep this a judge-free zone because I definitely think we need one of these.
I'd like to express my thoughts on a certain subject, but I'm gonna hold off on that for now given that a major flame-war was started over it just a half-hour ago.
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Post by Lórien on Sept 2, 2016 17:32:13 GMT -5
I would make this longer, or maybe I'll be able to put all the details. I don't know, considering I only a few feet away from her.... There is probably going to be some typos because I won't have time to fix it. So my friend, let's call her Emily, the one that abandoned me while I was in tears multiple times, is a really bad friend. Me and my other friend(Let's call her Megan) both know that, along with many other things about Emily. So we have been trying to separate from Emily, but it's so hard. Today, Megan completely lost it with Emily. Emily had been talking with her other group of friend, about how they have hurt their self. One person was like "I was stabbing my skin with my pencil and peeling then my skin of." And Emily was like "Spsh, amateurs. I burned my shoulder on purpose." Megan pulled me over and said she was going to talk to Emily about them being friends. At this point, I was shaking and about to burst in tears. One of thing that completely breaks me, confronting people. It doesn't matter about what, but I break down when I have to do that. Even online, even making phone calls... So Megan goes over to Emily and pulls her from her group, and I pretended I didn't know what was going on, asking if I could come with them. Megan talked with Emily, with me tagging along and trying to stay neartul because it would hurt to much to cut Emily out of my life. I waited for Emily to lash out, but because we were at recess she couldn't. luckily for us, recess ended. While I was silently crying, we had to go to the next class. Unfortunately I'm at Emily's house, as we had planned a sleepover the other day. I stayed at home as the long as I could, but I had to go to her house. I was to scared to tell her I didn't want to come, so here I am. Some other stuff happened that included tears but... This might not sound like much, but it really hurts. Some other stuff has happened with her, and it's starting to pile up to high. [ Oh gosh! That sounds terrible! For tonight, I'd say just to make the best of things because you don't want to make things worse, ya know? I can't say I have ever confronted any friends about not wanting to be friends anymore, so I really don't know what I can do in that aspect. I have lost contact with friends though- I mean, this is natural, some friendships come and go while others last. You guys might just be drifting apart and it really isn't neither of your faults. When I lost contact with my friends it was more of, we just stopped talking, stopped hanging out, I mean, we still say hi, here and there if we are passing, but we don't hang out anymore, which is ok because like I said, some friendships don't last, you gotta move on from them. And if that is what is happening here, maybe it was meant to be like that. I'd say at least remain friendly towards her, and if you must, just let her know that you don't feel as close anymore. The worst thing to do is to leave off on a bad note with any hard feelings or fighting. I know confrontations are hard, I have a hard time with that myself, but if things are not going well between you guys, maybe you should talk to your parents and have them talk to her parents or something to make things a bit easier for you, ya know? I mean, the thing is, you are still young- drama with friends happen all the time, and new friends will come and go and it can be painful at the time, but for whatever reason things happened, they happened for a reason and when you are older, it will all make sense why. I hope things go best for you! ] Yah, I should try... It's just so awkward.... the thing is, it's not like our friendship is not just drifting away in that sense. She bullies me, but at the same time puts a smile on minutes later and she some how makes me forget about it. It's just so stupid, and I'm sick of it. We've only known each other for the few months I've lived here, so it's not like a friendship that drifts away after years. Honestly, I would much rather talk to her directly than send parents. That's the last thing I would want to do... My mom doesn't really know about it, and if I told her what's happening we would never have any chance to be friends again. I know I'm young, it's just... I thought she was a real friend, and it did start out like this.
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pumpkin pie
what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
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Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 2, 2016 17:35:46 GMT -5
Thank you so much for this. I will keep this place in mind for the future! Hopefully you will be able to keep this a judge-free zone because I definitely think we need one of these.
I'd like to express my thoughts on a certain subject, but I'm gonna hold off on that for now given that a major flame-war was started over it just a half-hour ago. [ No problem! That is the hope with this! Whenever you need to talk, don't hesitate! And that's fine! You can pm us if you wish to as well if you are afraid of starting any fights, and we will listen and respond if you want us to. (And if you just want to pm us and have us not respond, that is fine too!)
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#a8d1ff
The Ancient One
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pumpkin pie
what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
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Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 2, 2016 17:44:19 GMT -5
Lórien I know. It always is awkward which is why it tends to be so hard. To be honest, I feel like a bit of a hypocrite at times because what I say to you, is something that I am too afraid to do myself. And a lot of times, it is exactly like that. We know what we have to do, but it is hard for us to do those things. Ahh, see now that puts things in a whole different perspective. In that case, parents are not always the best options because that can make things worse which is never good. If you can deal with things by yourself first, I'd do that. Maybe just give it some time too? I mean, considering you have been friends for a short time? Although, time really isn't much a factor. You could just meet someone and be best friends and have known someone for years and not be friends at all. The thing that is troubling, is that it doesn't seem like a very healthy friendship- because she should not be bullying you. That is not what friends are for. And even if she makes you smile at points, that doesn't take away the bad, ya know? I mean, small disagreements that you get over are different, but bullying is a whole different ball game. I would definitely talk to her and tell her how you are feeling. And if you can get your other friend to do it with you, or even speak for you, but go with her, I think you should. Because by saying nothing, the problem won't get resolved. But keep in mind, if you do, make sure that you all stay calm about it as not to start any fights, ya know? Like in the beginning, I'd say that you just want to talk, not meaning to start any fights. And even if you can't do it in person, at least maybe if you have her number and text her or something? I know it isn't easy, I really do, but if you are willing to either preserve or end this friendship, you have to say something.
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Post by Kenshin on Sept 2, 2016 18:32:41 GMT -5
tw: suicidesome jerk toyed with my friend's emotions which already makes me angry but the way she did it was disgusting basically, this girl was rehearsing for a play as usual, when she gets a text/call/something saying that someone close to her had comitted suicide she runs out of the place, crying, and she's given comfort by just about everyone but uh oh spaghetti-os, nobody's dead, nobody got hurt, she just wanted some fricking attention i know what it feels like to want to be popular; i fully understand what it's like to want recognition and fame because honestly, don't we all?? sometimes we do stupid things for attention (sometimes i do stupid things for attention) but what she did was disgusting suicide isn't a joke and people need to understand that someone my friend knew committed suicide, someone i met nearly went through with it, i have friends with suicidal thoughts and tendencies and i'm always afraid for them, and these are only the cases that i personally know of suicide isn't funny, it's not a tool, it's not a way to get popular. how fricking dare you act like it is how fricking dare you hurt my friend like this
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what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
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Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 2, 2016 18:39:05 GMT -5
Kenshin Gosh! That sounds terrible! I myself do not know anyone personally, but in my school, there have been cases like such and it honestly is not a joke at all. That is not ok that that girl did that. Especially messing with your friend like that? This is a serious thing. That person needs to know that. I totally get where you are coming from with the whole 'wanting attention', but there are by far much better ways to go about achieving that. Has someone talked to her and told her that what she did isn't right?
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Post by Kenshin on Sept 2, 2016 18:41:01 GMT -5
Kenshin Gosh! That sounds terrible! I myself do not know anyone personally, but in my school, there have been cases like such and it honestly is not a joke at all. That is not ok that that girl did that. Especially messing with your friend like that? This is a serious thing. That person needs to know that. I totally get where you are coming from with the whole 'wanting attention', but there are by far much better ways to go about achieving that. Has someone talked to her and told her that what she did isn't right? i imagine so. i'm not staying updated on the situation since a - my friend doesn't really want to talk about it and b - i'm trying not to get updates on the situation in case anything gets worse i just want to stay away from it for now but it def feels good to vent
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#a8d1ff
The Ancient One
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pumpkin pie
what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
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Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 2, 2016 18:46:36 GMT -5
Kenshin That makes sense. Especially if your friend doesn't want to talk about it because that might make matters worse. Hopefully, it will at least pass by, the situation doesn't worsen and the girl realizes her mistake though. I'll pray for the best for you all! And honestly, I'm glad you are able to vent a bit because even if there isn't much I can do to help, it does feel good to get it off your chest and have someone hear it- it just builds up otherwise and that is never a good thing!
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Post by ͠ɴ͠ɪ͠ɢ͠ʜ͠ᴛ͠ᴍ͠ɪ͠s͠ᴛ515 on Sept 2, 2016 21:06:20 GMT -5
some BODY hiya just popped in to say this IS a wonderful idea for a forum and I might post some of my own personal problems maybe. Idk. But I will use this sometime. (@pic sorry I haven't posted on pretzels in a while!! Just haven't really had anything to talk about + school )
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