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Post by The Noble Dragon on Sept 5, 2016 14:02:00 GMT -5
That is totally something worth venting for. We put a lot of time, effort and emotions into media like anime, books, TV, movies and video games. We get attached and sometimes even see ourselves reflected in the characters. It should be completely normal that we get upset and angry at the things that happen that we don't want to happen/disagree with. So of course it's something worth venting about! I'm sorry to hear about the show! I feel similarly about Supernatural and some of the characters they've killed off.
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Post by qυeeɴ oғ ɢнoѕтlιɴɢѕ on Sept 5, 2016 14:07:11 GMT -5
I want to vent about something but I can't figure out how to word it....
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The Ancient One
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pumpkin pie
what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
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Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 5, 2016 14:10:11 GMT -5
Yeah I feel ya. It sucks and it makes me angry that people love to point out my "flaws" like that. I've even had some people try to "trick" me into revealing my "real" gender like it's some kind of game. And most of the time when I'm at work it's guys that point it out or bring attention to it. I've never had a girl say something, always men. Seriously? That is just messed honestly That is weird now that you point that out because although my dad will never say this to anyone's face, he will make those type of remarks but when he makes them, they are not necessarily meant to be rude, but he speaks his mind a lot without thinking before he says something.
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#a8d1ff
The Ancient One
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pumpkin pie
what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
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Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 5, 2016 14:12:53 GMT -5
qυeeɴ oғ ɢнoѕтlιɴɢѕ; I totally get you on that. Sometimes it is hard to get out exactly what we want to say. Even if what you say if confusing, just get it out anyway- it'll feel like you've lifted something off your chest at least having something out (:
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Post by The Noble Dragon on Sept 5, 2016 14:16:48 GMT -5
Take your time Ghostling. It's hard to express your feelings to other people, because sometimes it seems there aren't any words that are right to express. So take your time, we'll be here when you can word it the way you want!
Yeah. It's fine now though, I told them it wasn't okay to do that and they stopped. Some people just don't understand how much it hurts when they act like that.
I think men are just raised to be able to speak whatever they want to say because in society their opinion is valued higher or at least that what it seems. Girls don't want to be confrontational most of the time but guys aren't raised to care... I think. That's what I've noticed at least.
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Post by Auransky on Sept 5, 2016 14:19:07 GMT -5
The Noble DragonFeeling a lot better, xD Just felt the need to really let it out. It was frustrating to see a character who supported the main character for this long; just suddenly hit lights out. It was upsetting, but the show was hinting it from the start of this episode too. r.i.p Nonetheless; I'm watching Detective Conan. ^.^ The long awaited Zombie episode is finally out! Months of waiting xD Time to watch it, re watch it once it's subbed then wait for part two.
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#a8d1ff
The Ancient One
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pumpkin pie
what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
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Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 5, 2016 14:19:39 GMT -5
@deamon; That's good! And hmh. I feel like until people are in a given situation that renders them to be put in someone else's shoes, they don't quite get what it feels like. Ya, no. I've noticed much the same too!
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Post by qυeeɴ oғ ɢнoѕтlιɴɢѕ on Sept 5, 2016 14:20:10 GMT -5
I have a lot of things actually. mainly I am just upset with myself. I have a habit of falling too easily and every time I just get rejected and each time it hurts more and more. I am afraid it will happen again and I don't know if I should try to protect myself or not. I'm barely keeping myself together as it is and I am starting to lose hope that ill ever find someone. I just feel like I'm a little girl again who always hid in her closet away from everything, which now explains a lot. I just don't know what to do and I hate it. I want to know what to do and I want to be able to live without feeling like I need a relationship but I feel like everything would be better if I was. I just feel miserable sometimes and it feels like that is the missing piece.
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#a8d1ff
The Ancient One
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pumpkin pie
what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
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Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 5, 2016 14:36:31 GMT -5
I have a lot of things actually. mainly I am just upset with myself. I have a habit of falling too easily and every time I just get rejected and each time it hurts more and more. I am afraid it will happen again and I don't know if I should try to protect myself or not. I'm barely keeping myself together as it is and I am starting to lose hope that ill ever find someone. I just feel like I'm a little girl again who always hid in her closet away from everything, which now explains a lot. I just don't know what to do and I hate it. I want to know what to do and I want to be able to live without feeling like I need a relationship but I feel like everything would be better if I was. I just feel miserable sometimes and it feels like that is the missing piece. First off I will say, never lose hope that you won't find someone. I don't know your age, and you don't have to tell me your age, but until you do find that someone, there will be many heartbreaks and relationships you think will work out that don't. Some people find their relationship when they are young, while others find it when they are older and maybe not even looking at the time. Things like this can pop up at any time, often without us even searching. Don't give up though, because there is someone out there for you, you have just yet to find them. I do know what this is like though. It can get a bit frustrating. I myself have never been in a relationship and I do not have many friends who I am close with and it seems at times I will never find someone myself. But, last yr, I actually met my best friend through the forums and the relationship that we have together was very unexpected, but I wouldn't trade it for the world. That being said, things like this just happen. And I am sure when you are least expecting, you will get that too. But second, do you have any really close friends or family (siblings, cousins, anyone really)? I mean, just someone who you can consider a best friend of sorts, who you can tell everything too? Because maybe, that is what you really need, ya know? Someone to fill a void who you can tell everything too, even if they are not someone who you would go into a relationship with, but just someone who you can tell everything to and go to when you need someone to talk to. I will say, you are not alone in the way that you are feeling though. It is a lonely feeling and a longing for something that isn't there, but that you so desperately want to be. And it is wanting to be cared for and loved and accepted for who you are, while feeling the same way back towards the other person. I felt this way for the longest time myself. But you will find someone!
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Post by qυeeɴ oғ ɢнoѕтlιɴɢѕ on Sept 5, 2016 14:45:53 GMT -5
usually I lose my friends. My friends rarely stick around and by then I they do its all me and they don't give anything back. I don't have a good relationship with my parents and I'm an only child. I tried the not looking but when I tried not to think of finding someone I got super depressed and I just felt all my hope vanish. its like my glue the hope I'll find a relationship. I have someone I'm talking to now who I'm really close with sorta at least I feel but the fear of losing them makes me worry. I feel like I need something permanent and that a relationship is what I need for that feeling of completion.
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The Ancient One
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pumpkin pie
what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
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Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 5, 2016 15:01:10 GMT -5
qυeeɴ oғ ɢнoѕтlιɴɢѕ; I've come to realize for me at least, that friendships don't quite work out. It isn't something that I am happy about, but after all the years of trying to make friends and failing, or friends leaving me, I just realize that it isn't really meant to be for me at least. That sounds kind of harsh, making friends isn't easy for some people which stinks because then we are left with that feeling of being alone and wishing we had someone that we could hold on to, when in reality, it just doesn't work out for us no matter what we try. Are you a typically outgoing or shy person? I have one good friend who although I don't see much, we are still pretty close and if I needed her, she would be there. Aside, I just have mostly 'acquaintances' who I don't really hang out with, but I know them and they know me and we might be together on occasions and we are comfortable around each other, but there is really no discussion, just the 'hi, how are you' type convos. My fear too is losing someone, which could be a reason that making and keeping friends is so hard. I am a shy person to being with, but I also don't really get too close to people because in the past, I have lost so many friends and people that I kinda shield myself off from getting too close, which is what you were saying earlier. Then I found my best friend who I am so desperately afraid to lose every day, but I know that he won't leave me because he feels the same way. And that bit, is reassuring because even in times of doubt, if you can just know that someone will be there for you, it helps. What is always scary is the thought of 'permanent' because you have to make sure that you and the other person are feeling the same way, and won't give up on each other. It takes commitment from both sides which is never easy and is quite scary to think about. But finding that, makes it all worth it. You say you have this friend that you are close to but afraid of losing? I say, tell them that. Tell them how you feel and see if they feel the same way. Get that reassurance that you have someone that won't leave you because that will make things feel a whole lot better. Also, do you have any pets? I know pets are not the same as relationships or friendships, but sometimes they can really help because they will always be there for you even if they don't say anything, you at least know they won't leave you! It is comforting to at least have that! I think I just rambled a bit, but I hope this helped a little?
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Post by qυeeɴ oғ ɢнoѕтlιɴɢѕ on Sept 5, 2016 15:15:35 GMT -5
this does help and I do have a dog and I like talking to her but I like hearing back from the other person. I really like this so thank you I'll keep this in mind
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#a8d1ff
The Ancient One
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pumpkin pie
what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
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Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 5, 2016 15:17:12 GMT -5
qυeeɴ oғ ɢнoѕтlιɴɢѕ; I'm glad and no problem! (:
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Post by qυeeɴ oғ ɢнoѕтlιɴɢѕ on Sept 5, 2016 15:43:26 GMT -5
also anyone here ever play dnd or dm before? i'm starting a forum group and we need a dm and players
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Post by The Noble Dragon on Sept 5, 2016 15:47:09 GMT -5
I've never played DnD and at this point i'm too scared to try it xD
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Post by qυeeɴ oғ ɢнoѕтlιɴɢѕ on Sept 5, 2016 15:55:17 GMT -5
why its super fun. my character tries to make friends by seduction cause who doesn't love an elf who grew up in an ethnocentric community?
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Post by The Noble Dragon on Sept 5, 2016 16:36:33 GMT -5
Okay! And if you don't feel comfortable sharing publicly but still want others to see you can PM me or Pic! We can either make a post on your behalf anonymously or we can just talk there!
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#a8d1ff
The Ancient One
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pumpkin pie
what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
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Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 5, 2016 16:38:09 GMT -5
Bleak; Hey! If you ever wanna chat, we are here! I'd be glad to talk about anything with ya! And if you don't feel comfortable chatting here, you can pm either Deamon or myself(:
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#a8d1ff
The Ancient One
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pumpkin pie
what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
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Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 5, 2016 16:38:49 GMT -5
Haha what Deamon said ^^ lol
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#a8d1ff
The Ancient One
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pumpkin pie
what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
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Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 5, 2016 16:39:22 GMT -5
why its super fun. my character tries to make friends by seduction cause who doesn't love an elf who grew up in an ethnocentric community? Haha Whats the site?
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Post by qυeeɴ oғ ɢнoѕтlιɴɢѕ on Sept 5, 2016 16:41:39 GMT -5
well its dnd so usually there is no site but cause the group is on the forums we are going to use roll20. I have a thread on the otd
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Post by Lórien on Sept 5, 2016 16:44:04 GMT -5
How have I not noticed this thread earlier!? I have problems. School (freshman in college) and siblings issues. I really don't feel like sharing right now...but I'm sure I will later I don't know. That's to bad. When you have calmed down enough, remember I'm always here, so I can talk with you.
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The Ancient One
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what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
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Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 5, 2016 16:46:37 GMT -5
@bleak; Take as much time as you need(:
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#a8d1ff
The Ancient One
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pumpkin pie
what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
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Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 5, 2016 16:47:59 GMT -5
well its dnd so usually there is no site but cause the group is on the forums we are going to use roll20. I have a thread on the otd Oh ok, gotcha! I can't say I am familiar with that game!
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Post by qυeeɴ oғ ɢнoѕтlιɴɢѕ on Sept 5, 2016 16:59:44 GMT -5
its the ultimate nerd game its really fun. I'm also going to be teaching people as much as I can so if you ever want to learn and the game happens you are more than welcomed to join
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Bleak
FINAL SEMESTER, LET'S GOOOOOO
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Post by Bleak on Sept 5, 2016 17:00:00 GMT -5
Okay, I'll see if this makes any sense.
I have two older siblings. One male, one female. Let's call them Earth (male) and Fire (female), mmkay? Growing up, I was very close to Earth, and he was a good brother, always protecting me. Fire and I fought all the time, as our personalities clashed.
Fire grew up and had rocky relationships and eventually had a kid. Fire suffers from health issues and it makes it hard for the rest of the family to be around her. She had always been the "popular" one of us three. And in truth, I was always jealous of her. She seemed to get everything I didn't. The good looks, the tall, slim body, everything. I don't envy her anymore, I don't even pity her as she dug herself into the mess she's in now.
And Earth? He always seemed to be the most logical of us, and it turned he wasn't. He didn't grow up with many friends and when he got some in college, I think he got bigheaded. He broke away from the family like Fire had done years ago, and wanted nothing to to with the family. That was two years ago in January. Earth also inherited the good looks, and is tall and slim, but I was never jealous of him. He broke my heart on January 1, 2015.
I'm in college now, and am acquainted with two very sweet men, and I can't help but think of my brother. I don't think I could go through another "break up" like that. I've never had a boyfriend, so I'm not sure what to expect..
I think I'm done
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#a8d1ff
The Ancient One
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pumpkin pie
what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
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Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 5, 2016 17:32:55 GMT -5
its the ultimate nerd game its really fun. I'm also going to be teaching people as much as I can so if you ever want to learn and the game happens you are more than welcomed to join Nice! If I have free time at some point, I'll take you up on the offer!
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#a8d1ff
The Ancient One
Name Colour
pumpkin pie
what if i fall? but my dear, what if you fly?
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Post by pumpkin pie on Sept 5, 2016 17:47:44 GMT -5
@bleak; oh gosh! I am sorry to hear that! Being that they are your older siblings, you must have looked up to them and it must have been so hard when they left you! (Even with your sister, despite you two having not gotten along well) Nevermind the fact that older siblings tend to be sort of role models and just family in general, are role models. The good I think that came out of that, is that you will hopefully not make the same mistakes because you have seen what it has done. Are either of the boys looking for a relationship? I'd say at least try and stay friends with them because it is sure nice to have friends(: I understand your being afraid to have them leave on you though!
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