Post by leafstar8 on Aug 30, 2016 8:04:14 GMT -5
It's a long and difficult story. I don't understand everyone's views, they don't show their emotions and when they do its to late, not suicide to late but to late as In tings have gone to hell, people are yelling and screaming, hurting themselves and fighting.
I have a boyfriend. He has a daughter, she's 2 on the 21st of next month. When I went into this relationship I knew there would be drama with his daughters mother, but I was willing to get threw it, I loved her, I am her step mother and she loves me!
His family. His family is great, they love me. But they are crazy, I thought it was a good crazy, everytime i was warned, but I didn't listen, I loved his family, till the bad crazy showed. Dont get me wrong I still love his family, but it isn't the same.. and it doesn't feel the same receiving the love..
His brother. His brother was a troubled child since he was little, due to his father dieing on bad terms.. His brother is nice and funny, I enjoy when he comes over.. Till he lost his job.. Now his brother is lazy, comes over all the time, dirties up the house, drinks all our drinks, and doesn't help at all, he just sits around and plays video games all day long. This story is about him.
I never had a problem with family or friends coming over, till lately. It has been hard keeping the house clean since school started for me.. He is ungrateful, he won't even walk across the street to the 7elevan to buy more soda when he drinks the most, he isn't even paying for it, and he doesn't even have to walk. But most of the time he wont. I find it ungrateful that he comes over, free WiFi, free consol, free food and drinks, and he can't even walk across the street to get more. Not only that but we are currently struggling with money, and when he comes over it just eats it up.
This story is about him. My boyfriend is also obsessed with the same game as his brother, for the longest time I wouldn't play it, till he made me an account and character. I've gotten into the game a lot, and I've gotten fairly good. But I have anxiety and I can't play around people, so I can only play when I am alone. Because of this I rarely get to play, for my boyfriend gets on once he comes home from work. Since his brother doesn't work.. He comes over when my boyfriend
Is at work and plays all day.. sometimes he stays for over a week and doesn't ever leave. This upsets me.. why have an account if you can't even play on it.
I began to fight with my boyfriend, when he carelessly tells his brother "sure you can come over" before consulting with me. We have gotten into 2 heated arguments about this, both I won. I just request one day. 1 day. To myself so I can play the game, catch up on things, do whatever I need to do in the short of amount of time that I have.. I find it unfair, unfair because both my boyfriend and his brother have max levels , and nearly every gun and armor in the game.. my boyfriend plays for the sake of farming for certain things for the new version of the game coming out soon. Which I find unfair, I can't do that because I still need those things for I haven't gotten all the armor and most defiantly don't have all the guns. But it is what it is on that case.
I don't know what his brother plays for. Maybe to escape from reality? Maybe. But he can't always do so. We have all tried to get him a new job, but he refused the interview. Since he lost his job, he had to get rid of his wifi, his tv, his consol and sometimes electricity. He lives with his mother still and he struggles everyday trying to support him. Since he was to lazy and careless to keep his, he now uses our consol constantly, this honestly p*sses me off..
My boyfriend is to afraid to tell his brother no. He cares for his brother to much to hurt him by saying no. But by not saying no, it hurts me. We have both thrown huge hints at his brother that he has exceeded his stay and should go home, but he ignores the hints. Finally one day I was upfront with his brother and told him in a friendly way that I can't play around people and that I wanted to delete my game because of him and ectopic. But he didn't care, he threw it over his shoulder and came over again. And again.
Me and his brother joke a lot, he has a good sense of humor. The big joke in the beginning was about me going to cut myself in some sort of way, because I have very very old scars. I am fine with these jokes because I've learned that it is in the past and that isn't me now. So it's all friendly. Now his brother jokes about him committing suicide, it was funny but also made me feel bad, he would always say that on the suicide letter that it would say that he killed himself because of me. In some sort of way. He never failed to make it seem like such a joke though, so I threw it over my shoulder. I've always none him as the guy that is carefree and jokes about everything. Till today.
Today I told my boyfriend I'm going to stay home. I stayed home from school yesterday but my boyfriend also stayed home from work, so he ended up playing the game instead of me. So I stayed home again, my bf (Sorry started to get lazy typing boyfriend out) told his brother on the phone this morning to tell mom I'm staying home (because she drives me to school) after telling him that, his brother then asks if he can come over. My bf said sure. I asked when? He couldn't answer, so I asked mom and she told me in the morning, which is basically at 630, my bf leaves the house at 540 ish, so I would only have a few minutes to play. This p*ssed me off.. but I stayed calm and asked mom if she could drop him off at the house later today, so I could have time to clean the house and then play. She says she has no say so in if he comes over now or later or at all. I find it Bulls hit because that is her son. But she has no control over her sons at all anymore, both being over 20 years of age.
So by asking that, it sprung into a huge argument. In the end. His brother says these things (one moment as I copy and paste from my mom's convo with me)
"(My bf) james should have told (his brother) Tj to wait to come over. I shouldn't have been the one to tell him to come home or when he can go. I agree. James should tell him. He only wanted to come till tomorrow morning. All his sees is you never wanting him to come over and always telling him to go kill himself. When I tell him he thinks its me because of you. James needs to tell him. He hit himself in the head repeatedly and cried. Im scared he is gonna do something stupid cuz of what happened and the fight we had cuz his really depressed. Now he said his not coming over today that you wont and have come between him his niece and brother"
I retaliated by telling her that I'm pretty sure he started the suicide jokes and that I haven't mentioned the jokes in ages, it's not like I tell him every day "dude, kill yourself" I dont.
Mom again " See this stupid game is tearing my family apart. Its not about the game for him anymore he said James is his brother and best friend and the only one who understands him and you took all he cares about away "
(I'm cutting out the parts were my mom is being selfish and saying you guys are hurting me, I wish you could see how I feel etc when this is not about her it's about tj :l )
This is what I said to him only wanting to come over to see his brother and neice "And that right there is what I dont understand, why does he want to come over now? He doesn't give a load of butterflies about me, and Madison will be asleep for most of the day?"
Back to mom whoo "He wanted to see her. That's all he said. He feels like you are keeping her away from him and trying to drive a wedge between him and james. He said if he went while James was at work he could have one on one time with her. He says you do this Everytime he wants to come over."
This also made me mad because it's only happened twice, I like it when he comes over for the most part ish
And quality time? Madison will be asleep! Plus he is always to busy playing his game than to give Madison attention, ugh!
I know this all sounds ridiculous, a fight over a video game. But it isn't just that, I have a house to maintain and I can't when he is over, I need to clean it today before it gets anyworse.. when he comes over no matter how much I clean in a few minutes it's back looking the same.
I have a boyfriend. He has a daughter, she's 2 on the 21st of next month. When I went into this relationship I knew there would be drama with his daughters mother, but I was willing to get threw it, I loved her, I am her step mother and she loves me!
His family. His family is great, they love me. But they are crazy, I thought it was a good crazy, everytime i was warned, but I didn't listen, I loved his family, till the bad crazy showed. Dont get me wrong I still love his family, but it isn't the same.. and it doesn't feel the same receiving the love..
His brother. His brother was a troubled child since he was little, due to his father dieing on bad terms.. His brother is nice and funny, I enjoy when he comes over.. Till he lost his job.. Now his brother is lazy, comes over all the time, dirties up the house, drinks all our drinks, and doesn't help at all, he just sits around and plays video games all day long. This story is about him.
I never had a problem with family or friends coming over, till lately. It has been hard keeping the house clean since school started for me.. He is ungrateful, he won't even walk across the street to the 7elevan to buy more soda when he drinks the most, he isn't even paying for it, and he doesn't even have to walk. But most of the time he wont. I find it ungrateful that he comes over, free WiFi, free consol, free food and drinks, and he can't even walk across the street to get more. Not only that but we are currently struggling with money, and when he comes over it just eats it up.
This story is about him. My boyfriend is also obsessed with the same game as his brother, for the longest time I wouldn't play it, till he made me an account and character. I've gotten into the game a lot, and I've gotten fairly good. But I have anxiety and I can't play around people, so I can only play when I am alone. Because of this I rarely get to play, for my boyfriend gets on once he comes home from work. Since his brother doesn't work.. He comes over when my boyfriend
Is at work and plays all day.. sometimes he stays for over a week and doesn't ever leave. This upsets me.. why have an account if you can't even play on it.
I began to fight with my boyfriend, when he carelessly tells his brother "sure you can come over" before consulting with me. We have gotten into 2 heated arguments about this, both I won. I just request one day. 1 day. To myself so I can play the game, catch up on things, do whatever I need to do in the short of amount of time that I have.. I find it unfair, unfair because both my boyfriend and his brother have max levels , and nearly every gun and armor in the game.. my boyfriend plays for the sake of farming for certain things for the new version of the game coming out soon. Which I find unfair, I can't do that because I still need those things for I haven't gotten all the armor and most defiantly don't have all the guns. But it is what it is on that case.
I don't know what his brother plays for. Maybe to escape from reality? Maybe. But he can't always do so. We have all tried to get him a new job, but he refused the interview. Since he lost his job, he had to get rid of his wifi, his tv, his consol and sometimes electricity. He lives with his mother still and he struggles everyday trying to support him. Since he was to lazy and careless to keep his, he now uses our consol constantly, this honestly p*sses me off..
My boyfriend is to afraid to tell his brother no. He cares for his brother to much to hurt him by saying no. But by not saying no, it hurts me. We have both thrown huge hints at his brother that he has exceeded his stay and should go home, but he ignores the hints. Finally one day I was upfront with his brother and told him in a friendly way that I can't play around people and that I wanted to delete my game because of him and ectopic. But he didn't care, he threw it over his shoulder and came over again. And again.
Me and his brother joke a lot, he has a good sense of humor. The big joke in the beginning was about me going to cut myself in some sort of way, because I have very very old scars. I am fine with these jokes because I've learned that it is in the past and that isn't me now. So it's all friendly. Now his brother jokes about him committing suicide, it was funny but also made me feel bad, he would always say that on the suicide letter that it would say that he killed himself because of me. In some sort of way. He never failed to make it seem like such a joke though, so I threw it over my shoulder. I've always none him as the guy that is carefree and jokes about everything. Till today.
Today I told my boyfriend I'm going to stay home. I stayed home from school yesterday but my boyfriend also stayed home from work, so he ended up playing the game instead of me. So I stayed home again, my bf (Sorry started to get lazy typing boyfriend out) told his brother on the phone this morning to tell mom I'm staying home (because she drives me to school) after telling him that, his brother then asks if he can come over. My bf said sure. I asked when? He couldn't answer, so I asked mom and she told me in the morning, which is basically at 630, my bf leaves the house at 540 ish, so I would only have a few minutes to play. This p*ssed me off.. but I stayed calm and asked mom if she could drop him off at the house later today, so I could have time to clean the house and then play. She says she has no say so in if he comes over now or later or at all. I find it Bulls hit because that is her son. But she has no control over her sons at all anymore, both being over 20 years of age.
So by asking that, it sprung into a huge argument. In the end. His brother says these things (one moment as I copy and paste from my mom's convo with me)
"(My bf) james should have told (his brother) Tj to wait to come over. I shouldn't have been the one to tell him to come home or when he can go. I agree. James should tell him. He only wanted to come till tomorrow morning. All his sees is you never wanting him to come over and always telling him to go kill himself. When I tell him he thinks its me because of you. James needs to tell him. He hit himself in the head repeatedly and cried. Im scared he is gonna do something stupid cuz of what happened and the fight we had cuz his really depressed. Now he said his not coming over today that you wont and have come between him his niece and brother"
I retaliated by telling her that I'm pretty sure he started the suicide jokes and that I haven't mentioned the jokes in ages, it's not like I tell him every day "dude, kill yourself" I dont.
Mom again " See this stupid game is tearing my family apart. Its not about the game for him anymore he said James is his brother and best friend and the only one who understands him and you took all he cares about away "
(I'm cutting out the parts were my mom is being selfish and saying you guys are hurting me, I wish you could see how I feel etc when this is not about her it's about tj :l )
This is what I said to him only wanting to come over to see his brother and neice "And that right there is what I dont understand, why does he want to come over now? He doesn't give a load of butterflies about me, and Madison will be asleep for most of the day?"
Back to mom whoo "He wanted to see her. That's all he said. He feels like you are keeping her away from him and trying to drive a wedge between him and james. He said if he went while James was at work he could have one on one time with her. He says you do this Everytime he wants to come over."
This also made me mad because it's only happened twice, I like it when he comes over for the most part ish
And quality time? Madison will be asleep! Plus he is always to busy playing his game than to give Madison attention, ugh!
I know this all sounds ridiculous, a fight over a video game. But it isn't just that, I have a house to maintain and I can't when he is over, I need to clean it today before it gets anyworse.. when he comes over no matter how much I clean in a few minutes it's back looking the same.