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Post by Deleted on Jan 13, 2020 17:36:05 GMT -5
So, my sister is going on ANOTHER date night. Apparently, you're supposed to go on a date night once a week, but it doesn't seem to be doing her and her husband any good, because they still fight every single day. I swear if there was ever a day that they didn't fight, I'd probably die from shock. Like, I'd be happy if they didn't have a kid, they could go on all the day nights they want, it'd get them out of my hair for a little while. But they do have a kid, and guess who's stuck watching him while they go on all their date nights? That's right me. To make matters worse, I've already had to watch him two extra days this week, because my sister picked up extra shifts. I really wish she'd start making her baby a priority instead of her husband and his wants and stuff.
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Post by 𝚜𝚙𝚊𝚛𝚔𝚜𝚌𝚊𝚝𝚝𝚎𝚛 on Jan 13, 2020 18:38:49 GMT -5
Oh no :/ that's too bad! You're really doing a lot for them, and deserve to be treated better.
I know you've said you've talked to her before, but perhaps you should force her hand. Tell her that you refuse to watch the child, that you have other plans and do not want to be saddled with it, and leave? I know you worry about his health, but this really isn't fair to you. You shouldn't be used as a go to babysitter whenever she wants to do something. As an adult, you really need to learn to take responsibility for your choices. Her's being the child she went and birthed lol And I know you said you didn't want to call CPS, but if you leave and she still leaves him, expecting you to step up, that would give you a solid reason to.
If he would get no love nor attention without you, that could very likely qualify as neglect.
It's hard to do that to someone you love, but you need to prioritize your happiness and well being over someones own free time and child. It's also really important to remember that you shouldn't have to do this. He is NOT your child, nor your responsibility. Of course once in a while he could be a responsibility, but only if you accept the job and are happy to do so.
I'm sorry if this is a bit much! I know I've commented on your posts before, and I hope this isn't overstepping or anything ^^; I just want you to be happier. And it seems that while you're stuck with a child like this you won't ever get that.
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Post by Leapkit on Jan 13, 2020 19:58:37 GMT -5
Your sister gives me secondhand migraines on your behalf.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 13, 2020 20:05:55 GMT -5
Your sister gives me secondhand migraines on your behalf. Same, like, she isn't that bad, but she is extremely stubborn and doesn't like to look at any other perspectives or whatever
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Post by Deleted on Jan 14, 2020 20:17:46 GMT -5
Oh no :/ that's too bad! You're really doing a lot for them, and deserve to be treated better.
I know you've said you've talked to her before, but perhaps you should force her hand. Tell her that you refuse to watch the child, that you have other plans and do not want to be saddled with it, and leave? I know you worry about his health, but this really isn't fair to you. You shouldn't be used as a go to babysitter whenever she wants to do something. As an adult, you really need to learn to take responsibility for your choices. Her's being the child she went and birthed lol And I know you said you didn't want to call CPS, but if you leave and she still leaves him, expecting you to step up, that would give you a solid reason to.
If he would get no love nor attention without you, that could very likely qualify as neglect.
It's hard to do that to someone you love, but you need to prioritize your happiness and well being over someones own free time and child. It's also really important to remember that you shouldn't have to do this. He is NOT your child, nor your responsibility. Of course once in a while he could be a responsibility, but only if you accept the job and are happy to do so.
I'm sorry if this is a bit much! I know I've commented on your posts before, and I hope this isn't overstepping or anything ^^; I just want you to be happier. And it seems that while you're stuck with a child like this you won't ever get that. It's her husband's fault mostly, he's the one who doesn't want him going with them, my sister always says she wishes she could take him. I wish she'd just stand up to her husband, but she won't, because she "Doesn't like listening to him complain." She knows I never have plans lol I just want to die already I'm so sick and tired of all this crap She doesn't understand how stressful all of this is for me, even if it is just a baby You're really nice by the way, and I appreciate your kindness I wish it was a job, then I'd be getting paid lol
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Post by Deleted on Jan 14, 2020 20:20:45 GMT -5
This might be a little mean, but I'm mad, because they're going to hang out with their friend, after I've been watching him for 14 hours, and he's been SUPER cranky and super clingy. Anyway, I told my sister, that I hope he says his first word, and that they're not here to hear it.
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Post by Saint Ambrosef on Jan 15, 2020 1:15:14 GMT -5
her husband sounds like a grade A asshole but have you tried putting your foot down with him?
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Post by Leapkit on Jan 15, 2020 1:44:43 GMT -5
or better yet, putting you foot up in him.
*boot*
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Post by Deleted on Jan 15, 2020 7:37:35 GMT -5
Saint AmbrosefEveryone has, even his dad has called him out on his attitude, he was a little better for about a week, but then he went back to his regular ways LeapkitHahaha
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