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Aug 14, 2016 12:04:20 GMT -5
Post by Deleted on Aug 14, 2016 12:04:20 GMT -5
so i'm trying to explain something to a friend and they're rlly not listening to me yesterday i was invited to go out w some friends and i said no
bc yesterday was tisha b'av and i know that not many of u are jewish on here so let me explain tisha b'av is not a holiday really. it's a fast day. i didn't eat yesterday (but i drank water even tho you're not really supposed to drink bc we're having v v hot conditions and it's more important to take care of yourself-- it's also a mitzvah to take care of yourself; not just to fast. the sick person does a mitzvah by eating on a fast say; the healthy person does a mitzvah by fasting, etc) or rlly do much fun stuff bc tisha b'av is not a fun day. it commemorates Jewish tragedies essentially, especially the destruction of the First Temple and Second Temple on tisha b'av (if you're healthy enough to participate/able to) you're supposed to not eat or drink, not wash or bathe, not wear any cosmetics, not wear leather shoes, and not participate in intercourse
and when i explained it would be easier/better to be at home on tisha b'av bc it's not supposed to be a fun day my friend got rlly rlly mad and p rude about it and she's still mad at me for it now sigh
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Aug 14, 2016 14:03:32 GMT -5
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Post by Deleted on Aug 14, 2016 14:03:32 GMT -5
pls anyone have any advice beyond just trying to explain things bc she's rlly angry and thinks I just didn't wanna hang out and apparently tisha b'av is "an excuse"
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Aug 14, 2016 14:17:45 GMT -5
Post by Deleted on Aug 14, 2016 14:17:45 GMT -5
oh yikes, religious commitments/etc vs. friends wanting to do things with you is always such a Great Time
other than just explain about your fast day and why you couldn't really hang out, the only thing i could think of to do is talk it out with her and set up another day to hang out? let her know that you aren't making up excuses and do want to chill with her, but that your religion is important to you and so on, basically stuff you've probs already said.
if she remains mad about it, maybe a more serious discussion is in order because. idk man a friend that gets all uppity over not being able to do something ONE DAY because of something like religion may not be that fantastic of a friend.
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Aug 14, 2016 14:22:34 GMT -5
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Post by Deleted on Aug 14, 2016 14:22:34 GMT -5
oh yikes, religious commitments/etc vs. friends wanting to do things with you is always such a Great Time other than just explain about your fast day and why you couldn't really hang out, the only thing i could think of to do is talk it out with her and set up another day to hang out? let her know that you aren't making up excuses and do want to chill with her, but that your religion is important to you and so on, basically stuff you've probs already said. if she remains mad about it, maybe a more serious discussion is in order because. idk man a friend that gets all uppity over not being able to do something ONE DAY because of something like religion may not be that fantastic of a friend. thankfully I only experience it a couple times of year. like ok fasting days are weird bc you can hang out depending on which one it is but I prefer not to bc honestly it's easier to fast alone if I'm away from friends who can eat and often will in front of me :/ and thank u. I've tried to explain it to her that like I didn't spontaneously make the decision to not hang out w her; I knew for a while this day was coming up. and she asked me on the day of to hang out so I couldn't warn her beforehand. like. dude this is why you ask ppl stuff in advance so I could've gone "nope that's not a day to do fun stuff" and we'd be cool but I don't get her issue like this was a one time thing it has never happened before w her
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