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𝓣𝓲𝓷𝓾𝓿𝓲𝓮𝓵
Warrior Fanatic
All hail me, the flower-flushing queen of Prague
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Post by 𝓣𝓲𝓷𝓾𝓿𝓲𝓮𝓵 on Jun 7, 2017 20:20:16 GMT -5
It isn't because she's going to be busy that day or anything. Let's just say that my family has been tense for two years now due to an incident involving the husbands of my sisters and things haven't improved since.
My oldest sister, I'll call her Applefur, refuses to come to my graduation and didn't even come to my talent show today just because she and my other sister, I'll call her Cloudpelt, refuse to speak with each other. It also doesn't help that our brother, I'll call him, Kestrelwing, has sided with Cloudpelt. What's even more shameful is that he's the oldest one, and I'm here trying to stay neutral. Some of my other relatives have chosen sides, too.
I get why they're angry with each other, but there's really no need for everyone else to get involved. It's gotten ridiculous by this point!
And Applefur is a little disappointed with me because I reached out to them when they don't do the same, and she's the one to help with me with things like what I need for college. But the only reason I've reached out to her at all is because she currently lives with my grandparents and me!
I get why they're upset with each other. Really, I do. But it still disappoints me that she won't be coming to my graduation just because of her feud with my other sister.
This issue with my family is partially the reason why I want to move to another country altogether, preferably Switzerland (and because of a certain president, plus I've always wanted to get out of the country anyway).
UPDATE: Well, sort of. She still isn't going, but apparently another reason she isn't is because she wants to prove to me that since I'm the only one of my mother's children to finish high school and go to college—a decision that I still feel wary about, by the way—she thinks that my other siblings are going to take advantage of me.
I really don't get my sister's logic, but I do get her concern. Still, I don't see that as a reason to not come to my graduation. It's not like my siblings are going to be the only ones there anyway, and they don't really seem like the type of people to take advantage of their little sister, either. Besides, I wasn't even planning on doing any of them any favors anyway.
SECOND UPDATE: So, I guess she changed her mind since she told me she'd want to go if she could, but she got fell down the stairs the other day due to the hallway and staircase being wet and my building's super didn't put a warning sign, so she still might not go because of that. She can still walk thankfully, but her body still hurts, so now she wants to file a lawsuit.
THIRD UPDATE: So, she actually did end up going, but I'm still kind of annoyed that she didn't want to at first. Ironically, it was Cloudpelt who didn't attend, though.
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Post by breadcat on Jun 7, 2017 20:23:25 GMT -5
can you try to talk to her? tell how much it would mean to you. Maybe you could have her come and she could sit somewhere away from your other sister?
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Post by Saint Ambrosef on Jun 7, 2017 20:23:33 GMT -5
switzerland is a very nice land of capitalist prime, def recommend. but you'll need to learn german, italian, or french.
that sucks though, i'm sorry. :[ my oldest brother didn't come to my graduation because he had a wedding to go to on the same day, and was part of the wedding ceremony, so he couldn't just not show up
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#a3c5e6
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𝓣𝓲𝓷𝓾𝓿𝓲𝓮𝓵
Warrior Fanatic
All hail me, the flower-flushing queen of Prague
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Post by 𝓣𝓲𝓷𝓾𝓿𝓲𝓮𝓵 on Jun 7, 2017 20:24:14 GMT -5
can you try to talk to her? tell how much it would mean to you. Maybe you could have her come and she could sit somewhere away from your other sister? I've tried, but she still refuses.
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Post by breadcat on Jun 7, 2017 20:26:13 GMT -5
can you try to talk to her? tell how much it would mean to you. Maybe you could have her come and she could sit somewhere away from your other sister? I've tried, but she still refuses. aw, I'm sorry.
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Post by lazy penguin on Jun 7, 2017 20:27:20 GMT -5
Aww man that totally sucks. is there a way for you to spend time with both? Maybe one of them actually goes to your graduation, but you make plans to hang out with the other one to celebrate or something?
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#a3c5e6
Name Colour
𝓣𝓲𝓷𝓾𝓿𝓲𝓮𝓵
Warrior Fanatic
All hail me, the flower-flushing queen of Prague
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Post by 𝓣𝓲𝓷𝓾𝓿𝓲𝓮𝓵 on Jun 7, 2017 20:31:50 GMT -5
switzerland is a very nice land of capitalist prime, def recommend. but you'll need to learn german, italian, or french.
that sucks though, i'm sorry. :[ my oldest brother didn't come to my graduation because he had a wedding to go to on the same day, and was part of the wedding ceremony, so he couldn't just not show up I know. I've been wanting to learn those languages and I already know a bit of French and Italian. I already know Spanish, so learning Italian shouldn't be too hard and I'm going to be taking either of those languages in college, anyway. Sorry to hear about your brother, but that's understandable. I hope you had a great graduation, though.
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#a3c5e6
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𝓣𝓲𝓷𝓾𝓿𝓲𝓮𝓵
Warrior Fanatic
All hail me, the flower-flushing queen of Prague
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Post by 𝓣𝓲𝓷𝓾𝓿𝓲𝓮𝓵 on Jun 7, 2017 20:33:26 GMT -5
Aww man that totally sucks. is there a way for you to spend time with both? Maybe one of them actually goes to your graduation, but you make plans to hang out with the other one to celebrate or something? Maybe, but I already have plans to spend time with my friends afterwards and one of them might be moving after the school year is over.
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Post by lazy penguin on Jun 7, 2017 20:35:37 GMT -5
Aww man that totally sucks. is there a way for you to spend time with both? Maybe one of them actually goes to your graduation, but you make plans to hang out with the other one to celebrate or something? Maybe, but I already have plans to spend time with my friends afterwards and one of them might be moving after the school year is over. Oh man that's rough. It's terrible that your family can't come together to celebrate you because of a petty feud.
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Post by KittyClearsight on Jun 7, 2017 20:36:37 GMT -5
Oh no, I'm sorry. Family feuds suck, especially when you're trying to remain neutral and nobody else is.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 7, 2017 20:37:18 GMT -5
Darn family feuds. I feel ya- my aunt started a fight with my grandmother and then suddenly she cut herself off from not only my grandma but my mom, dad, me, and my siblings. Went from her and I being super close and then suddenly she's gone for 10 years. Like wut... how does that happen? I mean, I get fights are nasty... but no need to toss half of your family in the trash over one argument.
Unfortunately fights are common in my family- we've found records of them being in my ancestors too. I REALLY hope I can break the cycle and end all this fighting once and for all with my descendants.
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Post by Glimmerfrost on Jun 7, 2017 20:43:53 GMT -5
I'm sorry to hear that. I'm actually not going to my sister's high school graduation in one and half weeks, but it's not because we're in a disagreement. I go to college in a different state and I'm staying on campus until the end of July to help with a research project. If I was able to, I would go.
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#a3c5e6
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𝓣𝓲𝓷𝓾𝓿𝓲𝓮𝓵
Warrior Fanatic
All hail me, the flower-flushing queen of Prague
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Post by 𝓣𝓲𝓷𝓾𝓿𝓲𝓮𝓵 on Jun 13, 2017 12:24:35 GMT -5
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#a3c5e6
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𝓣𝓲𝓷𝓾𝓿𝓲𝓮𝓵
Warrior Fanatic
All hail me, the flower-flushing queen of Prague
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Post by 𝓣𝓲𝓷𝓾𝓿𝓲𝓮𝓵 on Jun 13, 2017 18:52:44 GMT -5
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Post by ✲ριкαƒυєу✲ on Jun 13, 2017 19:59:37 GMT -5
That's awful. Family drama is so ridiculous, especially when they're so petty as to hurt those who aren't even in the feud.
I'm sorry they're doing this to you. It isn't fair at all.if I may ask, what exactly is this feud over?
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Post by ✲ριкαƒυєу✲ on Jun 13, 2017 20:02:58 GMT -5
Darn family feuds. I feel ya- my aunt started a fight with my grandmother and then suddenly she cut herself off from not only my grandma but my mom, dad, me, and my siblings. Went from her and I being super close and then suddenly she's gone for 10 years. Like wut... how does that happen? I mean, I get fights are nasty... but no need to toss half of your family in the trash over one argument. Unfortunately fights are common in my family- we've found records of them being in my ancestors too. I REALLY hope I can break the cycle and end all this fighting once and for all with my descendants. That happened in my family too. My mom and uncle got into a fight, and then my uncle completely cut all of us off. All because his wife is a miserable -bad word here-, and stirred up drama. So I didn't see him, or my three cousins for like...10+ years. All the while they brainwashed them into thinking my grandma hated them, when in reality they wouldn't let her see them. Which broke her heart deeply, enough to send her into a deep depression for months. Now they're all adults and yeah. Even funnier, my uncle suddenly started coming around the family again--around acting like nothing ever happened. No apologies. Nothing.
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#a3c5e6
Name Colour
𝓣𝓲𝓷𝓾𝓿𝓲𝓮𝓵
Warrior Fanatic
All hail me, the flower-flushing queen of Prague
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Post by 𝓣𝓲𝓷𝓾𝓿𝓲𝓮𝓵 on Jun 13, 2017 20:14:40 GMT -5
That's awful. Family drama is so ridiculous, especially when they're so petty as to hurt those who aren't even in the feud. I'm sorry they're doing this to you. It isn't fair at all.if I may ask, what exactly is this feud over? Honestly, it's really complicated and even I still don't get what fully went down. All I'll say is that the incident got the authorities involved, and Cloudpelt and Kestrelwing want Applefur's husband to take full blame even though Cloudpelt's husband isn't so innocent either. Something like that, anyway.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 13, 2017 20:18:59 GMT -5
Darn family feuds. I feel ya- my aunt started a fight with my grandmother and then suddenly she cut herself off from not only my grandma but my mom, dad, me, and my siblings. Went from her and I being super close and then suddenly she's gone for 10 years. Like wut... how does that happen? I mean, I get fights are nasty... but no need to toss half of your family in the trash over one argument. Unfortunately fights are common in my family- we've found records of them being in my ancestors too. I REALLY hope I can break the cycle and end all this fighting once and for all with my descendants. That happened in my family too. My mom and uncle got into a fight, and then my uncle completely cut all of us off. All because his wife is a miserable -bad word here-, and stirred up drama. So I didn't see him, or my three cousins for like...10+ years. All the while they brainwashed them into thinking my grandma hated them, when in reality they wouldn't let her see them. Which broke her heart deeply, enough to send her into a deep depression for months. Now they're all adults and yeah. Even funnier, my uncle suddenly started coming around the family again--around acting like nothing ever happened. No apologies. Nothing. Yeah, same. My Aunt just recently started calling us, and yep, acting like nothing's happened. But then again, that side of the family's known for being prideful and refusing to admit they've done something wrong, so I'd like to think it's just their issue. I bet she's oblivious to the pain she's caused me, anyway. At this point I've kinda just let it go. By now I've had plenty of chances to contact her, but I've declined them, and so now it's partially my fault too that we don't have a relationship. I kinda wanna try, but I kinda don't. I don't know if it's the fear that she isn't trustworthy or that I'm still half-heartedly holding onto that hurt, but for now I'm not ready to try again. Maybe one day.
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#a3c5e6
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𝓣𝓲𝓷𝓾𝓿𝓲𝓮𝓵
Warrior Fanatic
All hail me, the flower-flushing queen of Prague
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Post by 𝓣𝓲𝓷𝓾𝓿𝓲𝓮𝓵 on Jun 20, 2017 10:44:49 GMT -5
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Post by Turin not Torino on Jun 21, 2017 0:28:34 GMT -5
I understand you guy's side of situations like this, where you are collateral damage of a feud that doesn't involve you, but I also kinda see the other side. I cut my dad out of my life years ago, for my own emotional health. I tried to maintain relationships with that side of the family, but because they didn't understand the situation (and I wasn't going to bad mouth him to them trying to explain, though I doubt they would've understood anyway seeing as my mom does know everything and still doesn't get it), they just assumed I was selfish and mean for doing this to my dad, so instead of creating drama and conflict, I just silently backed away. I couldn't exactly call at Christmas and be like, "I'll talk to her, her, him, her, and him, but not her, her, or him" because that would bring bad feelings to an otherwise joyous celebration. I don't go out of my way to block or avoid the others, it's just how it had to be. I'm sorry for the loss of those relationships, but they are better off with him than me, so I feel my absence is the kindest thing I can do for them.
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