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Post by ƤαƖƖαѕ ✧ on Apr 6, 2017 5:48:08 GMT -5
Semper's Advice Thread
Welcome
Hi! I'm Semper, but you can call me whatever you want. I get Issi a lot. Honestly, I'm not picky, just choose a nickname and I'll probably be fine with it. Probably XD
I decided that I wanted to do something nice on these forums in order to help others, so I decided to create this little thread. Yes, the title is unoriginal. No, I haven't come up with a better one yet. Just deal.
So I'm here to give people advice (if you haven't guessed) and generally just help people out a little bit. How am I qualified to give advice to complete strangers, who happen to mostly be impressionable young people? Uh…
I'm not. But I am quite good at advice. In real life my friends sometimes get angry at me for being too practical and logical during difficult situations when they're all being emotional XD
But yes, that's all there is to know. Enjoy the thread!
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Post by ƤαƖƖαѕ ✧ on Apr 6, 2017 6:06:28 GMT -5
Rules
1) Be polite and respectful of others. It might be really hard for people to talk about their issues, so please be considerate of this.
2) Understand that I might respond to other issues before yours, even if you contacted me first. Some issues are more urgent and serious, and I will (rightfully) respond to these first.
3) Don't pressure me. I'll reply as soon as possible. Don't bug me about it or I'll get stressed and then I'll need and agony aunt XD
4) Don't bash me if you take my advice and it goes badly. I did my best. There's nothing I can do about it if you take my advice and it goes badly. Don't hold me responsible.
5) Follow all forum rules. I don't think this should require explanation.
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Post by ƤαƖƖαѕ ✧ on Apr 6, 2017 6:21:11 GMT -5
Form
IF YOU WOULD RATHER NOT TALK ABOUT YOUR PROBLEM HERE, PLEASE DO PM ME. When you ask for advice from me, please fill out the following form:
Screenname: Topic: (Just a one-line summary of what you need help with) Problem: (FULL EXPLANATION here)
Reviews
If you would like to leave a review of the thread, please do! I'll put it in this section
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Post by ƤαƖƖαѕ ✧ on Apr 6, 2017 6:27:52 GMT -5
OPEN]
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Post by Deleted on Apr 6, 2017 6:29:13 GMT -5
I'll fill out a form here soon lol, it's nothing huge though, so if there is someone with a bigger problem then I don't mind waiting
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Post by ƤαƖƖαѕ ✧ on Apr 6, 2017 6:30:22 GMT -5
[@blubberywhales No problem! Just fill out a form and I'll get right to it x]
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Post by Deleted on Apr 6, 2017 6:42:29 GMT -5
Topic: My Mother Problem: my mom is normally very nice, hardworking, and my role model overall. I strive to be like her, and end up setting extremely high standards for myself that are quite hard to meet. And in turn, my mom seems to have caught on to what standards I want to meet and expects them out of me. Well, it feels that's way anyway. She doesn't want to see my GPA go below a 3.4 and I'm sure it has at this point, she's doesn't motivate me or encourage me to do what I want to do in life (I want to go into either the Air Force or Marines and even though she was in the military she doesn't want me to be in it), and she's just been in a really crabby mood lately overall. She expects so much out of me because I expect so much out of myself, and I'm so worried that I'll let her down, or that she won't be proud of me. How can I talk to her about this?
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Post by ƤαƖƖαѕ ✧ on Apr 6, 2017 6:51:11 GMT -5
Topic: My Mother Problem: my mom is normally very nice, hardworking, and my role model overall. I strive to be like her, and end up setting extremely high standards for myself that are quite hard to meet. And in turn, my mom seems to have caught on to what standards I want to meet and expects them out of me. Well, it feels that's way anyway. She doesn't want to see my GPA go below a 3.4 and I'm sure it has at this point, she's doesn't motivate me or encourage me to do what I want to do in life (I want to go into either the Air Force or Marines and even though she was in the military she doesn't want me to be in it), and she's just been in a really crabby mood lately overall. She expects so much out of me because I expect so much out of myself, and I'm so worried that I'll let her down, or that she won't be proud of me. How can I talk to her about this? (I think the important thing in this situation is to try and see it from your mother's perspective before talking to her. Maybe she thinks she's being supportive and encouraging when in reality she's putting stress on you? Also, as someone who has a father who was in the army and who hates that my two brothers joined up (and frequently tells me that I should NOT join up - not that I want to), she's doing it because she's concerned for your safety. No parent wants their child to go into the military, especially not someone who's experienced it for themselves. My advice here is to sit down and explain to her that (1) what she might think is helpful is actually putting pressure on you and you're struggling with it and that (2) You need her to be supportive of you because you're going to join up whether she wants you to or not and it would be better for the both of you if she tried to be encouraging]
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Post by ƤαƖƖαѕ ✧ on Apr 6, 2017 7:07:26 GMT -5
[Thanks Bleaky <3]
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Post by Deleted on Apr 6, 2017 7:15:29 GMT -5
okay, I'll give it a shot when i get the chance to talk to her. It's really weird that she doesn't want me to go in, at first, she told me she was all for it but now she changed her mind sort of? My dad was also in the Air Force and he said he didn't want me to do anything beside JROTC in high school. The only one who supports me is my step-dad who was in the army for 24 years and he said it treated him well, despite changing times. Is it wrong that I feel like he's the one I can vent to rather than my mother?
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Post by ƤαƖƖαѕ ✧ on Apr 6, 2017 7:17:50 GMT -5
okay, I'll give it a shot when i get the chance to talk to her. It's really weird that she doesn't want me to go in, at first, she told me she was all for it but now she changed her mind sort of? My dad was also in the Air Force and he said he didn't want me to do anything beside JROTC in high school. The only one who supports me is my step-dad who was in the army for 24 years and he said it treated him well, despite changing times. Is it wrong that I feel like he's the one I can vent to rather than my mother? It's absolutely not wrong! We turn to different people for different things. You turn to your step-dad for support because he is the only one who wants you to join up. It's natural. I think, however, you shouldn't discount the opinions of your dad or your mother, because they might have very valid reasons why they don't want you joining up. Perhaps you should ask them why they don't think it's a good idea?]
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Post by Deleted on Apr 6, 2017 7:40:33 GMT -5
okay, I'll give it a shot
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Post by ƤαƖƖαѕ ✧ on Apr 6, 2017 7:41:21 GMT -5
okay, I'll give it a shot [Okay, I wish you luck!]
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Post by ƤαƖƖαѕ ✧ on Sept 5, 2017 14:34:57 GMT -5
Okay, I'm going to try and bring this back because @aquathepiplup made an amazing thread trying to address the fact that people are being ignored. I want to give them a place to come to. Thanks Aqua ]
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