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Post by 𝘨𝘰𝘭𝘥𝘦𝘯 𝘴𝘶𝘯 on Oct 10, 2016 7:57:02 GMT -5
basically, what the title says. i'm really unsure about how to go about it. i've asked to see someone outside of the family several times before, and every time they've been okay with me talking to someone. every time it's been more of a counsellor than a therapist, which is all good, but it hasn't really been of any help. i've gotten half-decent breathing exercises and then been sent on my way home, and about two days later my mental health is back to where it was. because of this, they're getting more and more careful about the whole thing. my mental health is worse than ever now, something they're well aware of, but because things haven't worked out in the past they don't want me to have to sit down with a stranger to discuss it - which just so happens to be exactly what i want to do. since my mother has a degree in psychology, she's taken it upon herself to go through it with me, but it just makes me really uncomfortable - and since a lot of what i need to go through is related to the family, i don't feel that she's the unbiased outsider i need. whenever i bring this up, it almost seems as if it goes right over their heads. not so much because they're ignoring what i want but because they can't hear what i'm saying? so, after this whole long paragraph, any advice on how to bring it up clearly and without seriously offending anyone?
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Post by Deleted on Oct 10, 2016 8:21:02 GMT -5
search up therapists in your area, preferably ones that accept your insurance (if you dont know what insurance you're under, ask your parents). narrow it down to one that you think would be best for you and write it down on a piece of paper, take it to your parents, and say "hey i did research on this therapist and i think they'd be able to help me with my problems" or something similar. if your mom knows you did your research she'd probably more inclined to let you go. www.goodtherapy.org/find-therapist.html^ thats a site that lets you find some within ur area. Click on their names and under their picture is a box that tells you what insurance they take
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Post by 𝘨𝘰𝘭𝘥𝘦𝘯 𝘴𝘶𝘯 on Oct 10, 2016 8:22:40 GMT -5
I was offered therapy 2 years ago, but I never got any. I had to confide in my piano teacher, poor lady. I was (and still am) very close to my piano teacher, and wanted to get me professional help. I never did. (Mainly because I'm shy and stubborn) Keep pushing for want you really need. That might sound childish, but trust me, parents get tired of it very quickly. i'm glad you had your piano teacher to talk to. i talk to mine quite a bit too, and i can never tell if she's just over it or if she's seriously concerned. but she's a wonderful lady, so i'll place my bets on the latter.
thanks. i think once i get through to them it'll be smooth sailing, but i just need to get there first. if repetition is what it takes, i'll nag without complaint.
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Post by 𝘨𝘰𝘭𝘥𝘦𝘯 𝘴𝘶𝘯 on Oct 10, 2016 8:26:29 GMT -5
search up therapists in your area, preferably ones that accept your insurance (if you dont know what insurance you're under, ask your parents). narrow it down to one that you think would be best for you and write it down on a piece of paper, take it to your parents, and say "hey i did research on this therapist and i think they'd be able to help me with my problems" or something similar. if your mom knows you did your research she'd probably more inclined to let you go. www.goodtherapy.org/find-therapist.html^ thats a site that lets you find some within ur area. Click on their names and under their picture is a box that tells you what insurance they take thank you so much for the advice. i'm in sweden, so the time up until the actual therapy works a little bit differently since the state pay for everything they're a lot more involved in the whole thing, but research is great advice. i'll have to speak to my doctor and/or school for information on the therapists close by, but i'll absolutely do so. thanks again!
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Post by Deleted on Oct 10, 2016 8:41:37 GMT -5
search up therapists in your area, preferably ones that accept your insurance (if you dont know what insurance you're under, ask your parents). narrow it down to one that you think would be best for you and write it down on a piece of paper, take it to your parents, and say "hey i did research on this therapist and i think they'd be able to help me with my problems" or something similar. if your mom knows you did your research she'd probably more inclined to let you go. www.goodtherapy.org/find-therapist.html^ thats a site that lets you find some within ur area. Click on their names and under their picture is a box that tells you what insurance they take thank you so much for the advice. i'm in sweden, so the time up until the actual therapy works a little bit differently since the state pay for everything they're a lot more involved in the whole thing, but research is great advice. i'll have to speak to my doctor and/or school for information on the therapists close by, but i'll absolutely do so. thanks again!oh, oops, i didn't consider that you might be in another country haha sorry. good luck tho!
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Post by 𝘨𝘰𝘭𝘥𝘦𝘯 𝘴𝘶𝘯 on Oct 10, 2016 8:52:21 GMT -5
Be as blunt and precise as possible. "You are not the right people to assist me with my issues. It's nothing personal. I simply need an unbiased, outside party who lacks the history and context that you have experienced over the course of my life." probably what i'll end up having to do, honestly. be incredibly blunt and pray nobody gets offended seems like the way to go, along with everything else people have told me here. thanks!
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Post by 𝘨𝘰𝘭𝘥𝘦𝘯 𝘴𝘶𝘯 on Oct 10, 2016 8:53:06 GMT -5
thank you so much for the advice. i'm in sweden, so the time up until the actual therapy works a little bit differently since the state pay for everything they're a lot more involved in the whole thing, but research is great advice. i'll have to speak to my doctor and/or school for information on the therapists close by, but i'll absolutely do so. thanks again! oh, oops, i didn't consider that you might be in another country haha sorry. good luck tho! nah, not to worry. the advice itself was great! and thank you, i'll need it.
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Post by Suspicious Toast on Oct 10, 2016 9:51:27 GMT -5
I mean your parents aren't mine but I just kind of talked to them about the kind of situation I was in and then just said that I thought that maybe seeing a therapist would help. And they were like "ok we'll see what we can do." I know it's already been mentioned but I know that if they don't do anything about it or refuse most schools do have resources to help you out with finding one on your own.
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