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Post by Deleted on Mar 27, 2020 12:13:36 GMT -5
What is the worst roommate you ever had?
My sister's husband is CONSTANTLY allowing people to live with us, well, it's only been four, but that's four too many.
All of them, except for one, was pretty bad, but these two take the cake.
They were a couple, a guy and a girl.
The guy was annoying, because he kept trying to control things, he didn't pay ANY dang bills or anything, and he kept saying that he was going to paint the house orange, because that's his girlfriend's favorite color. He also got jealous and mad, that his dog liked me more than him. He wasn't THAT bad, but the girl on the other hand..
She was SUCH an idiot! I'm sorry, but she had no money, no job, was living on our couch, and she was ACTIVELY trying to get pregnant. She would always bring people around, and stuff would end up going missing after they'd been over there. Whenever I'd go to the store, she'd tag along, which was like cool, because I don't like going places alone, but then, while I was checking out, she'd put her stuff with my stuff, and expect me to buy it for her, without even asking. I told her countless times NOT to put food in the sink, because there was no garbage disposal, and she never listened, she also hardly ever cleaned up after herself. One time, she left a half-eaten pot pie out, and it accumulated those disgusting freaking creatures! I feel bad for hating on baby flies, but omg, EWWW I hate things like maggots and the ilk, if anyone EVER comes at me with them, I will hate them for LIFE! This is not even a joke. Anyway.. She would constantly eat sunflower seeds, and spit the shells onto the floor, and not clean it up. She and her boyfriend would never clean up after their dogs. Another thing, is that she would ALWAYS shit talk my sister behind her back, and call her the B word and stuff. I know I don't talk that nicely about my sister most of the time, but she is letting them live there RENT free! They should at least be a little more courteous.
Anyway, I told my sister about the crap she'd been saying behind her back, and my sister was like, "Yeah, they're getting kicked out." And so she kicked them out, and the girl threatened to call the police on us for some reason, even though I don't think we did anything illegal? Anyway, since then, they've moved to another state, and I never heard from them again.
That's my worst roommate story. What's yours?
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Post by Northstar3213 on Mar 27, 2020 12:35:29 GMT -5
I think i touched on this roommate before, but she would always use up the limited toilet paper we had to remove her makeup. I could put a new roll in the bathroom when i wake up, but then it would be empty by the time i got a shower that night.
Also the entire week up before final, her boyfriend (who wasn't even supposed to be in the dorm anyway) was essentially staying with us and they played night baseball every. stinkin. night. And it didn't help that my desk shared the same wall as her bed.
The worst part about it was that she was super nice otherwise :/
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Post by Deleted on Mar 27, 2020 12:44:18 GMT -5
I think i touched on this roommate before, but she would always use up the limited toilet paper we had to remove her makeup. I could put a new roll in the bathroom when i wake up, but then it would be empty by the time i got a shower that night. Also the entire week up before final, her boyfriend (who wasn't even supposed to be in the dorm anyway) was essentially staying with us and they played night baseball every. stinkin. night. And it didn't help that my desk shared the same wall as her bed. The worst part about it was that she was super nice otherwise :/ Oh man, that sucks! It's good that she's not your roommate now, considering the way toilet paper is flying off the shelves. I don't wear makeup, but wouldn't using a sponge make more sense? Because you can use it more than once. I love the way you worded that XD That really sucks too though, the two people in my post would do that too, RIGHT in the open, and then got mad if me or my sister walked out there, like..you're doing it right in the living room, which is connected to the kitchen, do you expect us to live in our rooms like hermits, and never eat? Do you still talk to her?
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Post by Northstar3213 on Mar 27, 2020 12:50:19 GMT -5
Graduation certainly can separate roommates lol idk I don't wear makeup because my skin is so oily
Dude that's just so not cool.
No but I still have her number in my phone lol
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Post by Deleted on Mar 27, 2020 12:52:38 GMT -5
Graduation certainly can separate roommates lol idk I don't wear makeup because my skin is so oily Dude that's just so not cool. No but I still have her number in my phone lol Oh, I'm sorry if you still wanted to be her friend, and if you didn't, then that's cool lol Yeah, our house was kind of weird, my sister's room led straight out into the living room, and my room led straight out into the kitchen, and there was just like an arch thing separating the kitchen and the living room. The worst part was... no hallway. There's no hallway in the current apartment I live in. I REALLY hope the next place we live in (if we ever move) has a hallway.
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Post by Leapkit on Mar 27, 2020 12:55:43 GMT -5
I mean my current roommate is the only roommate i've ever had and he's physically abusive so i mean. That probably.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 27, 2020 12:56:28 GMT -5
I mean my current roommate is the only roommate i've ever had and he's physically abusive so i mean. That probably. Wow, I'm really sorry, you should kick him to the curb If you can't then, I'm sorry, I hope you're able to get out of that situation soon.
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Post by Leapkit on Mar 27, 2020 13:26:52 GMT -5
I mean my current roommate is the only roommate i've ever had and he's physically abusive so i mean. That probably. Wow, I'm really sorry, you should kick him to the curb If you can't then, I'm sorry, I hope you're able to get out of that situation soon. I can't. He's the only one with a job I've been trying to get one for the past 4 years with no real luck aside from a stained glass making job i had temporarily that wasn't even an official job but me just helping a local business and getting paid $6 an hour under the table. My health has been on a decline since then fighting with chiari flare ups and I'm pretty sure the surgery i had ended up messing with my spine because i can't really stand for more than 15 minutes without being in pain and I need a cane to walk places when I didn't before. Which also hurts my job getting process on account of the fact I don't have a car so i'd need to walk to get to a job, and then probably stand on my feet for another 6-8 hours.
He literally foots the bill for everything, the rent, the bills, my medical bills, the food, the cats, my meds, even sometimes getting me things I just need but don't actually want. And I don't want to sound ungrateful for any of it because he really doesn't have to do any of that but every time he comes home I'm just a punching bag.
I don't even have the energy to describe the kinds of fights we have but the past two times hes pulled a knife on me. Calling the cops wouldnt really solve anything because either he or both of us would just end up arrested and losing everything we own, our cats, his job. I say both of us because I pulled one back out on him as well because i wasn't just going to sit there and let him threaten me in my own home and I'm sure he'd probably do his best to take me down with him. And if not that, I've seen the kind of homeless and protection shelters around here because I've had my grandma and friends go through them, and they aren't pretty. The staff frequently treats them like criminals and scum there, and I've had first hand experience going to the long stay mental hospital and I definitely ain't in a hurry to go back there.
I'd genuinely rather risk things at home than face the lonliness and uncertainty that comes with making an even bigger mess of the situation that doesn't even guarentee that things will get better they'll just be a different kind of struggle that still results in the same feelings of neglect and unhappiness I've always had.
So I shove my nose in video games and stay low and try to not do anything that might get me killed.
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Post by Leapkit on Mar 27, 2020 13:30:23 GMT -5
Im sorry for making this about me i think i just needed to finally get all of this out somewhere.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 27, 2020 13:33:24 GMT -5
Wow, I'm really sorry, you should kick him to the curb If you can't then, I'm sorry, I hope you're able to get out of that situation soon. I can't. He's the only one with a job I've been trying to get one for the past 4 years with no real luck aside from a stained glass making job i had temporarily that wasn't even an official job but me just helping a local business and getting paid $6 an hour under the table. My health has been on a decline since then fighting with chiari flare ups and I'm pretty sure the surgery i had ended up messing with my spine because i can't really stand for more than 15 minutes without being in pain and I need a cane to walk places when I didn't before. Which also hurts my job getting process on account of the fact I don't have a car so i'd need to walk to get to a job, and then probably stand on my feet for another 6-8 hours.
He literally foots the bill for everything, the rent, the bills, my medical bills, the food, the cats, my meds, even sometimes getting me things I just need but don't actually want. And I don't want to sound ungrateful for any of it because he really doesn't have to do any of that but every time he comes home I'm just a punching bag.
I don't even have the energy to describe the kinds of fights we have but the past two times hes pulled a knife on me. Calling the cops wouldnt really solve anything because either he or both of us would just end up arrested and losing everything we own, our cats, his job. I say both of us because I pulled one back out on him as well because i wasn't just going to sit there and let him threaten me in my own home and I'm sure he'd probably do his best to take me down with him. And if not that, I've seen the kind of homeless and protection shelters around here because I've had my grandma and friends go through them, and they aren't pretty. The staff frequently treats them like criminals and scum there, and I've had first hand experience going to the long stay mental hospital and I definitely ain't in a hurry to go back there.
I'd genuinely rather risk things at home than face the lonliness and uncertainty that comes with making an even bigger mess of the situation that doesn't even guarentee that things will get better they'll just be a different kind of struggle that still results in the same feelings of neglect and unhappiness I've always had.
So I shove my nose in video games and stay low and try to not do anything that might get me killed.
Oh wow, he sounds like he needs to talk to someone, like a therapist or something, to sort out his anger issues. But that's easier said than done/ Does he ever make you feel guilty about him paying for all that stuff, because if he does, you shouldn't. It's not your fault, that there are things happening, that are beyond your control. Have you thought about going on disability? Or something like that, to help some in the financial state of things?
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Post by Deleted on Mar 27, 2020 13:34:23 GMT -5
Im sorry for making this about me i think i just needed to finally get all of this out somewhere. It's alright, it's good to not bottle things up, and hopefully, some people on here will truly be able to help.
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Post by Leapkit on Mar 27, 2020 13:48:48 GMT -5
Oh wow, he sounds like he needs to talk to someone, like a therapist or something, to sort out his anger issues. But that's easier said than done/ Does he ever make you feel guilty about him paying for all that stuff, because if he does, you shouldn't. It's not your fault, that there are things happening, that are beyond your control. Have you thought about going on disability? Or something like that, to help some in the financial state of things? I've suggested therapy and he agrees with me but he just won't take the time to. He doesn't usually make me feel guilty about it, but some of the arguments have been "Why do you have a problem with me look at everything I've gotten you." and honestly i don't feel like i can really argue with that because I am living on his dime when he doesn't ask for anything in return.
Not to mention when he's nice, he's really just genuinely wholesome and nice to be around. That's why we were even a couple to begin with. He had even proposed to me and I'd said yes but... things change I guess. I can't really put my finger on what exactly started poisoning the relationship to get to this point because it was just a gradual thing. I can't help but feel it was just probably my fault because of my bpd and I just split on him one too many times and finally broke him like I do with every relationship because people with bpd are undatable, I really should learn that lesson by now and stop falling in love with people just so i can hurt them but hey, thems the dice.
I have applied to disability before and got declined, but it might be worth another shot since I've dealt with the back problems and chiari pain for over a year now and last time I applied it was kind of a new thing.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 27, 2020 13:55:11 GMT -5
Oh wow, he sounds like he needs to talk to someone, like a therapist or something, to sort out his anger issues. But that's easier said than done/ Does he ever make you feel guilty about him paying for all that stuff, because if he does, you shouldn't. It's not your fault, that there are things happening, that are beyond your control. Have you thought about going on disability? Or something like that, to help some in the financial state of things? I've suggested therapy and he agrees with me but he just won't take the time to. He doesn't usually make me feel guilty about it, but some of the arguments have been "Why do you have a problem with me look at everything I've gotten you." and honestly i don't feel like i can really argue with that because I am living on his dime when he doesn't ask for anything in return.
Not to mention when he's nice, he's really just genuinely wholesome and nice to be around. That's why we were even a couple to begin with. He had even proposed to me and I'd said yes but... things change I guess. I can't really put my finger on what exactly started poisoning the relationship to get to this point because it was just a gradual thing. I can't help but feel it was just probably my fault because of my bpd and I just split on him one too many times and finally broke him like I do with every relationship because people with bpd are undatable, I really should learn that lesson by now and stop falling in love with people just so i can hurt them but hey, thems the dice.
I have applied to disability before and got declined, but it might be worth another shot since I've dealt with the back problems and chiari pain for over a year now and last time I applied it was kind of a new thing.
Oh, good luck if you do decide to give it another shot
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Post by Deleted on Mar 27, 2020 13:55:40 GMT -5
One of my roommates drives me crazy, but reading through this thread has made me realize that he's not that bad. I'm sorry he drives you crazy, but it's good that he's not that bad
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Post by Saint Ambrosef on Mar 27, 2020 15:22:38 GMT -5
damn have you ever been around an actually good person before
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Post by Deleted on Mar 27, 2020 15:26:10 GMT -5
damn have you ever been around an actually good person before Yes, my teachers in school were really nice, except for like two. One even said that if everyone was as nice and quiet as me, she'd have a lot less headaches, and one of the REALLY strict teachers, said that I was the best student in her class. That made me feel really happy. As for people currently, my sister is nice for the most part, but she uses me, and doesn't really appreciate the things I do for her.
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Post by Gold on Mar 27, 2020 16:38:39 GMT -5
I’m fairly certain that I’m already my own worst roommate.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 27, 2020 16:48:53 GMT -5
I’m fairly certain that I’m already my own worst roommate. I can relate to that lol
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you fantasize about meeting ronald mcdonald in person and perhaps catch a movie
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Post by •»ѕησωнєαтнєя«• on Mar 27, 2020 16:54:09 GMT -5
i just moved out of my freshman dorm last week & heres some things that my roommate did (or didn't do):
- i was closer w my suitemate (2 rooms share a private bathroom) and my roommate was close w/ the other suitemate. over winter break she texted me and was like hey! maybe it would work best if we swapped roommates. and i was like yeah that would be fine except i'm gonna stay in the room i'm in right now! and she was like well.... i was planning on staying in this room. and i was like so you're going to bring this up to me on a whim and expect me to move? it sounds like you're trying to kick me out of my own room. so we had to have a big convo with everyone involved b/c she didn't even mention it to my friend about the move and it just seemed snakey and like a ploy to kick me out of the room i've already been living in w/o any say for my part. we ended up not swapping
- when we were moving out, i knew she was taking the mini fridge b/c she bought it but she failed to ask me what i wanted to do w/ the food that was in it. so i came back to the dorm empty on her side and all my perishables (frozen food, yogurt, refridgerated take out,etc.) ALL over my side of the room. it had been sitting there for so long that everything melted and it smelled disgusting. not to mention she took all the trashbags too so i couldn't even use trashbags to throw my melted perishables away.
- she was borderline OCD (nothing against the disorder!!) and i'm a relatively normal level of clean. weeks where i'm busy it gets a little messier and eventually i pick it up and clean. her attitude towards my side of the room made me anxious to the point where i became nitpicky with how my side of the room looked and it made me feel like she was judging me if i left things out.
- she was so nonconfrontational to the point where it disrupted our once good relationship. i'm a fairly easy going person and i'm easy to compromise and talk to but she just. Wouldn't talk. which was horrible for my anxiety. i talked to her several times about how she can speak up if theres anything ever bothering her and she agreed but yet never did even when i could tell things were off.
- she was always in the dorm. i never could have alone time by myself because she was ALWAYS in there. homework, sleeping, eating, etc. everything. i always made sure to go to the library/starbucks to study and go hang out with friends elsewhere besides the dorm. it became a big issue because not feeling like i could relax in the dorm by myself and have privacy made me feel detached and not welcome in my own dorm.
theres more i cant think of rn but i'm frankly happy to be home bc of the pandemic because i don't have to live w/ her anymore
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Post by Deleted on Mar 27, 2020 16:59:31 GMT -5
•»ѕησωнєαтнєя«•Wow, I can understand a lot of the things about her, like being non-confrontational, and never leaving her dorm, because I'm the same way. However, it's a jerk move on her part, to just allow your food to spoil like that, omg, if someone did that to me, I'd kick them in the knee caps, I don't care who they are. Food wasting is one of my BIGGEST pet peeves. I'm sorry that you didn't feel welcome in your own dorm, I felt that way too, when people were living with us, like most of the time, I'd be cautious about leaving my room, because I didn't want to disturb them, even though I was there first, you know?
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•»ѕησωнєαтнєя«•
you fantasize about meeting ronald mcdonald in person and perhaps catch a movie
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Post by •»ѕησωнєαтнєя«• on Mar 27, 2020 17:07:27 GMT -5
•»ѕησωнєαтнєя«• Wow, I can understand a lot of the things about her, like being non-confrontational, and never leaving her dorm, because I'm the same way. However, it's a jerk move on her part, to just allow your food to spoil like that, omg, if someone did that to me, I'd kick them in the knee caps, I don't care who they are. Food wasting is one of my BIGGEST pet peeves. I'm sorry that you didn't feel welcome in your own dorm, I felt that way too, when people were living with us, like most of the time, I'd be cautious about leaving my room, because I didn't want to disturb them, even though I was there first, you know? moving out was right after spring break and she moved her stuff out two days before i left for home & i had bought over $60 worth of food for spring break b/c dining was closed and i was staying. I ate some of it but like..... it still felt like i just put my money in the trashcan when i had to throw all my perishables away. my suitemate still had a fridge and i could've put some of it in her fridge but by the time i got there it was wasted and she didn't even have the decency to send me a text asking me what i wanted to do with it. that bothered me so much i'm also pretty introverted and i hate confrontation b/c i'm sensitive but this was just like. A different level of introversion and nonconfrontation yakno i would've loved to have my friends in my dorm and be able to hang out with them in there too because i'm very much a homebody as well but it was just like i felt i had to change my routine to fit hers so for the year i gave her free time in the dorm hoping she would reciprocate because i wanted that time too but it just never happened for me
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Post by Deleted on Mar 27, 2020 17:11:07 GMT -5
•»ѕησωнєαтнєя«• Wow, I can understand a lot of the things about her, like being non-confrontational, and never leaving her dorm, because I'm the same way. However, it's a jerk move on her part, to just allow your food to spoil like that, omg, if someone did that to me, I'd kick them in the knee caps, I don't care who they are. Food wasting is one of my BIGGEST pet peeves. I'm sorry that you didn't feel welcome in your own dorm, I felt that way too, when people were living with us, like most of the time, I'd be cautious about leaving my room, because I didn't want to disturb them, even though I was there first, you know? moving out was right after spring break and she moved her stuff out two days before i left for home & i had bought over $60 worth of food for spring break b/c dining was closed and i was staying. I ate some of it but like..... it still felt like i just put my money in the trashcan when i had to throw all my perishables away. my suitemate still had a fridge and i could've put some of it in her fridge but by the time i got there it was wasted and she didn't even have the decency to send me a text asking me what i wanted to do with it. that bothered me so much i'm also pretty introverted and i hate confrontation b/c i'm sensitive but this was just like. A different level of introversion and nonconfrontation yakno i would've loved to have my friends in my dorm and be able to hang out with them in there too because i'm very much a homebody as well but it was just like i felt i had to change my routine to fit hers so for the year i gave her free time in the dorm hoping she would reciprocate because i wanted that time too but it just never happened for me Aw, I'm sorry. I think that if someone is a roommate, then it should be 50/50 in most cases you know? Like, it shouldn't be just one person calling the shots, and then the other just going along, even if they don't want to, there should be compromise or something. That is soo messed up that she didn't care enough to send a simple text
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Post by Saint Ambrosef on Mar 27, 2020 18:26:25 GMT -5
i had good luck with roommates. my freshman roommate was randomly assigned and were friendly, but never friends. perfect roommate scenario tbh. we're chill. my current roommate is also my closest female friends. the only thing that bugs me is that she and her bf have the most ANNOYING whispered conversations. next semester we're gonna be in a quad apartment with two other girls she knows. they seem like very sweet girls, so i'm not very worried.
our sophomore year, we originally were gonna get a double but ended up switching to a triple because they're nicer and because her bf's twin sister (BFTS) needed roommates. didn't know BFTS at all but all cool. --we registered for housing the previous april. she showed up the first semester with an ""emotional therapy dog"" for her anxiety. this thing was some traumatized terrier mix her mom picked at a petsmart who had a wealth of anxiety issues of its own. i'm a dog person. BFTS has no idea how to train a dog. the poor thing needed structure and authority (dogs need that!!) for her anxiety and this girl just coddled it. it slept in her bed. it stayed in her room 24/7. she baby talked it. it was scared to death of other people and the outside world.
--our triple suite had a sitting area. i never got to use it because it was freaking COATED in this dog's hair. it got all over the floor and stuck to our socks, which meant it got in our beds too. i was constantly sweeping. BFTS didnt seem to notice it at all.
that was the only thing that bugged me the first semester. the second semester was when we did our school's study abroad program and we were roommates there too-- i thought it'd be better since no dog.
--the cafeteria had a very limited schedule (only an hour for each meal) so we had to supplement. if you left any food laying around, she ate it. i had to hide snacks in my bunk bed cubby. --my friend group is very tight-knit and legit act like siblings. she thought this was weird and would tell friends we were like "incestuous-family close". not cool. --my roommate/best friend is the sweetest girl. BFTS didn't like her dating her twin brother because of her own attachment issues. (i think she is also jealous of my friend, who is pretty, well-liked, and sociable). so she talked shit about their relationship with her friends and would constantly make snide remarks when their relationship was brought up. at the end of the semester, my friend was very sad because she wouldn't see her bf for months. BFTS seemed concerned for her until i told her what was up, then proceeded to condescendingly dismiss her sorrow: "oh come on, get over it" etc --i had own bf in our room a few times at the start of the semester. the study abroad campus is very tiny with literally no privacy anywhere, so dorm rooms were the closest we could get. she mentioned to my friend/other roommate that sometimes she feels a little uncomfortable with our boyfriends in the room "so often" (like...three times a week maybe). we agreed to tone it down, nbd.
--two weeks go by. i have my bf over for the first time since that. next day the RA comes to talk to my friend and i about the "situation", because apparently she was complaining all the time to the RAs about how we have our men over ""all the time"" and how hard it is for her to deal with. are you shitting me. i couldn't have my own bf over. we literally do nothing but chat and snuggle a bit. there was literally no where else to go on campus. --she used the RC (campus coordinator) as a therapist, and im sure the RAs too, and my friend and i are convinced she was talking shit about us to them. they were especially unfriendly with me unlike the other 120 students. --pretty sure she was also gossiping about my relationship and what she didn't like about it. i'm catholic, it's no secret, i'm saving the Big Sexy Time for marriage. fairly certain she told everyone that we were doing the opposite. i was going through some shit social anxiety that semester and that Did Not Help. also the more i got to know her the less i liked her. she had some mental health struggles (which i totally understand). she has had some bad romantic/sexual experiences in the past and projected all her insecurities from it onto the relationships around her. she's never worked a day in her life and her family absolutely babies her due to her issues. due to this, she has no perception of expense/balancing money/what it means to pay for something yourself.
just. yeah. a real doozy. passive aggressive for sure, i'm glad we don't room with her anymore.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 27, 2020 18:30:54 GMT -5
Saint AmbrosefWow, I'm sorry you had to deal with someone like that. I mean, I understand that she had mental health struggles, but I that doesn't make it okay for her to lie about you, and to slander you like that. Do you still talk to her?
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Post by trickster ♥ on Mar 27, 2020 18:37:00 GMT -5
I've only had one roommate, randomly assigned, and somehow it worked really well bc we don't have any problems. the only thing I would say is she talks a Lot when I have to study or need alone time, but we've literally never had any real problems/fight with each other. but I have some friends with roommate horror stories just going to use fake names to distinguish. Megan has had 2 bad roommates, but one of them was way worse/inconsiderate. once she was over in Megan's side of the room eating ramen, laughed out loud at something, and spit noodles all over Megan's carpet. the carpet was one of the ones with the long strands, so the noodles and chunks got all stuck in those and it was gross. the roommate didn't offer to clean it at all, so Megan just threw it away. the same roommate also woke Megan up at 3 in the morning one time because the roommate and her bf literally shattered the window while, er, playing night baseball. putting these two under a spoiler bc they're more sensitive My friend Sarah has had 2 really abusive roommates, but the worst one was when Sarah had broke her back in an incident. during this semester, this girl would give Sarah's things away, spread rumors to everyone in the rest of the dorm hall about Sarah, and was majorly verbally abusive to her face. the worst thing is, their beds were in such a way that Sarah's bed was partially under the roommate's. bc of Sarah's back injury and seizure history (she came from a very abusive household and has had a lot of head trauma that sets them off), she mostly had to lie down in bed. unfortunately, the roommate basically moved her bf in without permission (it wasn't allowed either), and they... yeah. there's a lot more crap she had to deal with around them, but I think you get the gist.
the last one is definitely the most unstable. my friend Angela roomed with her bff (or ex-bff?? I don't even know rn). the roommate has cheated on her bf something like 12+ times within 9 months, which means constantly bringing guys in without asking Angela, Does It in ANGELA'S bed sometimes, etc. she also is super judgy, about things that shouldn't matter. she was super mad when Angela got into a relationship with a guy the roommate didn't know. the roommate has a past of introducing guys to Angela, and when Angela starts liking them the roommate will... get with the said guy, and hurt Angela. (another contributor to this is that the roommate's bf was Angela's own ex and they hid the fact from her until the roommate got pregnant by him, but that's another story). the roommate uses fake ids a lot to drink illegally. not that Angela is shy to that, she's not a saint, but she doesn't make it obvious. one night Angela's roommate got more drunk than usual (she caused a LOT of problems in the dorm that night that I won't go into) and was caught because she HERSELF called the RA, confessed her love to him, mentioned... doing something really bad to herself, etc., to the point the police were called. she got put on probation but managed to get out of more punishment by saying she got a pregnancy scare (which is...... somewhat true, she had had one. but it was like 2 weeks earlier and totally unrelated, so basically she lied) and the hormones made her do it (?????). the most recent indecent was she physically assaulted Angela when they got into an argument, jumped on top of her from the top of a bunk, tried to beat her up, attacked her with a Christmas tree, threw glass around the room, etc. she blamed that on being depressed, and after the incident turned it into a pity party for herself and a bunch of other weird stuff. this was kind of a last straw for Angela. they're still roommates (at least up to the quarantine) but Angela doesn't hang out with the roommate much (which pisses off the roommate) outside of it. also this chick is a mega hypocrite. Angela is trying to transfer to a better uni, closer to her family and bf, and she'll be able to commute/it be cheaper, but the roommate is SUPER against it and keeps spreading lies to their mutual friends, saying Angela is only doing it to be with her bf and she doesn't care about leaving her friends behind. even though, the roommate wants to drop out of uni, move to an out of state community college, marry her bf of 11ish months, and have kids with him while in college. not trying to judge her life choices, but I don't see where she has the room to talk.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 27, 2020 18:46:28 GMT -5
trickster ♥Whoa! I feel so bad for your friends, especially Sarah. Her bad roommate sounds like a straight up WITCH! I can't believe someone could be that terrible. As for Angela's roommate, she seems like she craves attention in the worst ways. I hope both of these people are getting help.
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Post by Saint Ambrosef on Mar 27, 2020 19:24:23 GMT -5
Saint AmbrosefWow, I'm sorry you had to deal with someone like that. I mean, I understand that she had mental health struggles, but I that doesn't make it okay for her to lie about you, and to slander you like that. Do you still talk to her? no. i'll like acknowledge her if we pass by or something but that's it. as far as i'm concerned we're not on the best of terms, even if she doesn't know it.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 27, 2020 19:26:38 GMT -5
Saint Ambrosef Wow, I'm sorry you had to deal with someone like that. I mean, I understand that she had mental health struggles, but I that doesn't make it okay for her to lie about you, and to slander you like that. Do you still talk to her? no. i'll like acknowledge her if we pass by or something but that's it. as far as i'm concerned we're not on the best of terms, even if she doesn't know it. Well, that's good that you don't have to deal with her on a day to day basis
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Post by Saint Ambrosef on Mar 27, 2020 21:59:18 GMT -5
I've only had one roommate, randomly assigned, and somehow it worked really well bc we don't have any problems. the only thing I would say is she talks a Lot when I have to study or need alone time, but we've literally never had any real problems/fight with each other. but I have some friends with roommate horror stories just going to use fake names to distinguish. Megan has had 2 bad roommates, but one of them was way worse/inconsiderate. once she was over in Megan's side of the room eating ramen, laughed out loud at something, and spit noodles all over Megan's carpet. the carpet was one of the ones with the long strands, so the noodles and chunks got all stuck in those and it was gross. the roommate didn't offer to clean it at all, so Megan just threw it away. the same roommate also woke Megan up at 3 in the morning one time because the roommate and her bf literally shattered the window while, er, playing night baseball. putting these two under a spoiler bc they're more sensitive My friend Sarah has had 2 really abusive roommates, but the worst one was when Sarah had broke her back in an incident. during this semester, this girl would give Sarah's things away, spread rumors to everyone in the rest of the dorm hall about Sarah, and was majorly verbally abusive to her face. the worst thing is, their beds were in such a way that Sarah's bed was partially under the roommate's. bc of Sarah's back injury and seizure history (she came from a very abusive household and has had a lot of head trauma that sets them off), she mostly had to lie down in bed. unfortunately, the roommate basically moved her bf in without permission (it wasn't allowed either), and they... yeah. there's a lot more crap she had to deal with around them, but I think you get the gist.
the last one is definitely the most unstable. my friend Angela roomed with her bff (or ex-bff?? I don't even know rn). the roommate has cheated on her bf something like 12+ times within 9 months, which means constantly bringing guys in without asking Angela, Does It in ANGELA'S bed sometimes, etc. she also is super judgy, about things that shouldn't matter. she was super mad when Angela got into a relationship with a guy the roommate didn't know. the roommate has a past of introducing guys to Angela, and when Angela starts liking them the roommate will... get with the said guy, and hurt Angela. (another contributor to this is that the roommate's bf was Angela's own ex and they hid the fact from her until the roommate got pregnant by him, but that's another story). the roommate uses fake ids a lot to drink illegally. not that Angela is shy to that, she's not a saint, but she doesn't make it obvious. one night Angela's roommate got more drunk than usual (she caused a LOT of problems in the dorm that night that I won't go into) and was caught because she HERSELF called the RA, confessed her love to him, mentioned... doing something really bad to herself, etc., to the point the police were called. she got put on probation but managed to get out of more punishment by saying she got a pregnancy scare (which is...... somewhat true, she had had one. but it was like 2 weeks earlier and totally unrelated, so basically she lied) and the hormones made her do it (?????). the most recent indecent was she physically assaulted Angela when they got into an argument, jumped on top of her from the top of a bunk, tried to beat her up, attacked her with a Christmas tree, threw glass around the room, etc. she blamed that on being depressed, and after the incident turned it into a pity party for herself and a bunch of other weird stuff. this was kind of a last straw for Angela. they're still roommates (at least up to the quarantine) but Angela doesn't hang out with the roommate much (which pisses off the roommate) outside of it. also this chick is a mega hypocrite. Angela is trying to transfer to a better uni, closer to her family and bf, and she'll be able to commute/it be cheaper, but the roommate is SUPER against it and keeps spreading lies to their mutual friends, saying Angela is only doing it to be with her bf and she doesn't care about leaving her friends behind. even though, the roommate wants to drop out of uni, move to an out of state community college, marry her bf of 11ish months, and have kids with him while in college. not trying to judge her life choices, but I don't see where she has the room to talk.
yknow hearing horror stories like this make me glad i got to a college full of other religious prudes like me where i dont have to worry about my roommate playing "night baseball"
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