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Post by Deleted on Mar 26, 2020 12:04:59 GMT -5
So, some of you may know that there's a poll up on the Warriors website, asking people to vote for either Leopardstar, Blackstar, or Onestar, to see who will get an SE next.
I asked three people to vote for Onestar, my sister, one of my friends, and my other friend.
My sister and my number one friend did it, because it literally only takes like two seconds, but my other friend wouldn't.
Instead he made it into some big deal, and then had the audacity to get mad at me for even asking him.
When, he has sent me countless of his lame tik-toks, and I've watched them, and given him feedback on them, also, I've taken time to read his Mortal Instruments fanfics, when I don't like that series, I only read the first two books, but even those were hard to get through.
However, he literally can't take two seconds out of his day, to open up another browser, and just click on Onestar?
I get that he's never read the series, but neither has my sister or my other friend, and they still voted.
Idk I just don't understand why he made such a big deal out of something, that takes no time or effort, especially when he's supposed to be my friend.
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Aroace
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Pineclaw
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Post by Pineclaw on Mar 26, 2020 12:47:23 GMT -5
If he doesn't want to vote on the Warriors SEs then he doesn't have to. But he could have simply said 'no' like a normal person instead of getting mad. Still, it's not like it was too much to ask of him. If he expects you to sit through stuff you don't like then wouldn't it be fair if he could do at least this little thing? Yes, he still doesn't have to but given what you said about him I think you're not overreacting and you have every right to be angry about this.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 26, 2020 12:54:59 GMT -5
If he doesn't want to vote on the Warriors SEs then he doesn't have to. But he could have simply said 'no' like a normal person instead of getting mad. Still, it's not like it was too much to ask of him. If he expects you to sit through stuff you don't like then wouldn't it be fair if he could do at least this little thing? Yes, he still doesn't have to but given what you said about him I think you're not overreacting and you have every right to be angry about this.
Thanks Are you talking about my posts I've made about him in this past, or just this incident in particular? Because if it's the first, then I'm a little amused, that you knew exactly who I was talking about.
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Aroace
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Pineclaw
Pronouns: He/Him or They/Them
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Post by Pineclaw on Mar 26, 2020 13:06:32 GMT -5
Haha, while I don't remember exactly what you wrote about him I think I've read about this guy xD But even if I had never heard of him, what you wrote here still makes your friend look well... difficult. As I said, if he knows you don't care about the stuff he wants you to watch or read but can't return the favor for something as simple as that that's pretty shitty behavior. But good to know it's that same guy xD
Still, don't get too worked up over this, save it for bigger issues. But maybe ask him why he gets mad over something so simple istead of just saying no. Or why he expects you to keep watching stuff you don't like when he can't do the same for you. Heck, not even the same, something so much easier and so much less tedious. This shit works both ways. Friendships, like all relationships, are also about giving and taking. He can't have just one of those.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 26, 2020 13:12:58 GMT -5
Haha, while I don't remember exactly what you wrote about him I think I've read about this guy xD But even if I had never heard of him, what you wrote here still makes your friend look well... difficult. As I said, if he knows you don't care about the stuff he wants you to watch or read but can't return the favor for something as simple as that that's pretty shitty behavior. But good to know it's that same guy xD
Still, don't get too worked up over this, save it for bigger issues. But maybe ask him why he gets mad over something so simple istead of just saying no. Or why he expects you to keep watching stuff you don't like when he can't do the same for you. Heck, not even the same, something so much easier and so much less tedious. This shit works both ways. Friendships, like all relationships, are also about giving and taking. He can't have just one of those.
It's impossible to have an actual conversation with him. Just ONE little thing can set him off, and I understand that he has mental health issues, and that he can't control some of his behavior, but the fact that he doesn't even take responsibility for a lot of his actions, and instead tries to place the blame on me, and making me out to be a bad person, and a terrible friend, when I've been there for him through ALL of his stuff. I know I should just ditch him, but I don't want him to do anything drastic, you know? Sorry that got a little off-topic
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Aroace
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Pineclaw
Pronouns: He/Him or They/Them
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Post by Pineclaw on Mar 26, 2020 13:26:42 GMT -5
Jeez. I thought I knew a thing or two about bad friends (met my fair share of those kind of people) but this is new. So he can't control some of his behavior. Well, that would be one thing if he would actually take responsibility. But the way he's actually handling things? Nope, not good. There are lots of people with mental health issue who are quite capable of taking responsibility for their actions. So uh... I guess suggesting therapy to him would be a bad idea? Kinda sounds like it. I know I should just ditch him, but I don't want him to do anything drastic, you know? Yikes. You think so? Sounds like quite the dilemma. But ask yourself this: if there's a chance of him doing something drastic if you ditch him, isn't there also a chance of this if you don't? If one little thing can set him of and it's pretty much impossible to reason with him? But I also get that you'd have a hard time actually ditching him. Just remember that you're not responsible for him.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 26, 2020 13:29:52 GMT -5
PineclawI'm going to message you, I hope that's alright.
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Aroace
#90ec86
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Pineclaw
Pronouns: He/Him or They/Them
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Post by Pineclaw on Mar 26, 2020 13:30:45 GMT -5
Chicken Of course, go right ahead.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 26, 2020 13:52:19 GMT -5
Thanks...warning, it's a bit long
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Post by Thunderlake on Mar 26, 2020 21:42:41 GMT -5
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with him saying no. I have so much to do daily that even opening an extra tab and voting on something can set me back sometimes. However he should have handled it like an adult and declined politely instead of being rude
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Post by Deleted on Mar 26, 2020 21:46:06 GMT -5
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with him saying no. I have so much to do daily that even opening an extra tab and voting on something can set me back sometimes. However he should have handled it like an adult and declined politely instead of being rude That's understandable. He does have the time to do it, and I bet if it had been anyone else, he would have, but he has a vendetta against me or something. You're right that there's nothing wrong with him saying no, but just the way he reacted is what bothers me the most
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Post by Thunderlake on Mar 26, 2020 21:47:07 GMT -5
Why the heck are you talking to him? He doesn’t deserve your time if he acts like that
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Post by Deleted on Mar 26, 2020 21:48:17 GMT -5
Why the heck are you talking to him? He doesn’t deserve your time if he acts like that It's a long long story
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Post by Leapkit on Mar 27, 2020 8:47:19 GMT -5
ur friend is a pp head.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 27, 2020 8:49:37 GMT -5
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