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Post by carbonated water on Nov 5, 2016 23:56:43 GMT -5
so i've been in a not good relationship for about 25 months now.
i don't talk about the bad parts much but yea. tonight wasn't good. i need to get out of it but i don't know if i can do it
i broke up with him once and then just got back together a month later. i don't want to do that again.
logically i know i don't need him but i still feel i do.
i'd like to say i don't know why i'm posting this thread. but i do, and it's cause i don't want to tell anyone irl the truth cause that makes it so concrete and i keep thinking he'll change. my mom always told me i can't change anyone. guess that never really got thru.
for better news, i've been doing some more art lately, i posted some stuff in the art forum if anyone's interested.
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Post by Ginz on Nov 6, 2016 1:30:04 GMT -5
i had to deal with a bad relationship that kept being on and off and i know i refused to listen to any logic until i couldn't take it anymore
i can't make you do anything, but i do want to say that i don't want you to get to the point of recovering from emotional abuse. get out of there. i had three years of it, and i was friends with her for three more years prior
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Post by carbonated water on Nov 6, 2016 2:06:19 GMT -5
i had to deal with a bad relationship that kept being on and off and i know i refused to listen to any logic until i couldn't take it anymore i can't make you do anything, but i do want to say that i don't want you to get to the point of recovering from emotional abuse. get out of there. i had three years of it, and i was friends with her for three more years prior i'm sorry you went thru that... i don't really know what to do. not even 2 minutes after i posted this he texted and apologized. idk
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Post by Deleted on Nov 6, 2016 2:09:16 GMT -5
so i've been in a not good relationship for about 25 months now. i don't talk about the bad parts much but yea. tonight wasn't good. i need to get out of it but i don't know if i can do it i broke up with him once and then just got back together a month later. i don't want to do that again. logically i know i don't need him but i still feel i do. i'd like to say i don't know why i'm posting this thread. but i do, and it's cause i don't want to tell anyone irl the truth cause that makes it so concrete and i keep thinking he'll change. my mom always told me i can't change anyone. guess that never really got thru. for better news, i've been doing some more art lately, i posted some stuff in the art forum if anyone's interested. Hey Weedpaw, it's been awhile since we spoke at all. I'm test from that chat. Are you doing alright right now? Also I'd love to see your art.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 6, 2016 2:15:33 GMT -5
would you be in harms way by breaking up with him again?
also, what you are feeling is something that is very common in people who have been abused (whether it be physical, mental, or emotional).
basically there's a cycle for abuse, with essentially a "honeymoon" phase after incidents of abuse. these honeymoon phases can make the abused person feel as if they were overreacting and question if the abuse was real because their abuser begins being nice to them.
you're absolutely not wrong for feeling hesitant about breaking up! that is normal and to be expected imo with these sorts of relationships.
i have an abusive family member and understand how confusing and difficult it is to deal with. i hope that you can find a way to get out of this relationship once and for all, but please make staying safe your number one priority!!
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Post by Deleted on Nov 6, 2016 2:43:07 GMT -5
Please please please run dear god If a relationship doesn't make you happy, even if it doesn't necessarily make you unhappy, you don't have to be in it.
I don't know what this person has done to you, but please remember if you let it go on, I can almost promise it will happen again. Once you've been through a bad relationship, your brain picks people like that over and over and you'll find great people still, but you'll also find yourself in that situation again.
People only change if they want to. It's not your job to change someone or forgive someone. And never feel guilty about ending it. Please get out now, it only gets harder the longer you stay. You'll regret it at first, but you'll be happier in the long run
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