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Post by ᏞᎪᎠᎽ Ꮎf fᎪᏁᎠᎾms ミ☆ on Oct 15, 2019 18:30:02 GMT -5
not only am i very socially anxious, but im also very slow...my memory and info retrevial skills arent good as told to me by the special education councelor lady...
so im just sitting in class when the professor asks me what i thought about the video we just watched (keep in mind the video was at a low volume and it was already hard to pay attntion, let alone grasp what it was about in context).
and i couldnt say anything....and everyone was staring at me and i just looked at my professor with pleading eyes to never call on me ever again
but then the professor says she'll "come back to me." so now im in my head panicking REALLY bad and i feel my body go numb and it feels like death is upon me (dramatic, i know).
so i scramble to find something to say. anything. she just wanted to hear my opinion on the video, that SHOULD NOT be that hard, right?
but it is. i cant think of anything to say.
so the professor does in fact get back to me and asks if i finally thought of something and i stared at her again and finally managed a "cant think of anything right now" in the form of a squeaky voice.
and i just booked it out of the classroom after it ends because i was just HUMILIATED in front of eevryone!!!
WHY DO TEACHERS/PROFESSORS DO THIS!!!!!
i am not only anxious and shy,but im also SLOW. I CANT THINK OF THINGS TO SAY ON THE SPOT, OKAY?
it's just so unfair!
anyone else have this issue in school? idk how the heck to get rid of all my issues so i can participate like the average person
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Post by Deleted on Oct 15, 2019 18:44:31 GMT -5
Me all the time in highschool, I hate group discussions or anything having to talk in front of people or answer questions And a lot of the teachers knew that so it was like :/ I've even previously taken zeros for not participating in talking because I just can't
Even now over in online school English class I don't like typing responses that the entire class can see But I have to
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Post by Saint Ambrosef on Oct 15, 2019 18:58:26 GMT -5
professors are generally a lot more accommodating than high school teachers
make an effort to go to their office, or at least send them an email and explain what happened. actually if you have mental illnesses such as anxiety or learning disabilities like ADD, professors will do their best to accommodate you. they might ask you to do a short write-up of your thoughts after class instead of asking you during class, for example.
but professors can't be accommodating if they don't know they need to be.
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Post by Sand on Oct 15, 2019 22:55:33 GMT -5
Always let your professors know about what's going on; whether it's social anxiety, being slow with following in a class room, mental illnesses, or chronic illnesses... everyone involved is better off to be in the know. If they don't know, they can't help you and it will make your learning environment harder to work (or learn) in.
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Post by Skypaw13 on Oct 16, 2019 0:31:40 GMT -5
I don't know exactly what you mean by "special education counselor lady", but if it was a person at the college you attend, you should be able to get your anxiety filed with the disability center, which requires teachers to give you accommodations. Regardless, you do still have to talk to your professor so they can grant you said accommodations.
I never had super bad anxiety about being called on, but we all have our personal and unique school frustrations. For me personally, my brain processes things much slower, so I often can't finish tests on time. I got As on all my math tests throughout high school, but Cs in Precalc, for no reason other than the tests in that class were timed and all the others weren't.
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Post by Rio on Oct 16, 2019 8:07:35 GMT -5
Although it is in Japan( so it might be a little different), I teach at a Junior High School and I might be able to shed some light on it. When we, or at least when I, ask students for their opinions or get them to stand up and speak it's because I want to include everyone. I always make an effort to know the backgrounds of my kids so I can know what is appropriate for each individual and I never push them too hard if I know they're not ready. I always let my kids have thinking time, so they can write down their thoughts and feelings before I ask anything. If a kid is struggling, I will find out what they want to say and let them repeat after me or I let them answer with a friend. When I have a kid with anxiety, even if they make a mistake I will still give them a lot of encouragement for answering. I've noticed a big improvement in one of my 13 year old girls who has very bad anxiety. The previous teacher never asked her to speak because he was worried it would scare her. Just by giving her a short sentence with blank spaces to fill in on it and then asking her(and everyone else in the class) to read it out, her confidence has improved massively. If I had a kid that reaaaally didn't want to speak in front of everyone, I would hope that they told me because I'd hate to be responsible for giving them an anxiety attack or making them feel stressed.
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Post by *Ravenpaw* on Oct 16, 2019 16:33:03 GMT -5
I'm pretty sure I'm a bit socially anxious. Speaking out loud in a classroom is something I just can't force myself to do a lot. I don't like being judged and whatnot, so I have to make sure I have the courage to get through it.
There's quite a few good ideas from the other people on this thread. What I can say is that I'm sorry this happened to you. I hate when it happens.
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Post by Hawkflower on Oct 16, 2019 22:50:16 GMT -5
I’m exactly like that. I find it hard to explain things, especially a topic that is new to me or a hard subject in general, like new information from class. It’s hard for to participate at all in class since my mind just focuses on what I should be saying rather than actually learning. I have pretty severe anxiety and my therapist told me had ADD/ADHD symptoms. I do get help from my college so professors have to accommodate my issues but I still find it extremely nerve wracking when I’m choosing class for next semester, always looking up professor reviews and the like. Luckily next semester is my last and I will never have to deal with anything school related ever again.
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Post by pumpkin pie on Oct 17, 2019 7:03:21 GMT -5
I'm the same way. if i ever got called on, i could never think of anything to say and i would just stare like...i don't know
"what do you mean you don't know? you must have something to say"
i really cant think of anything. my mind just goes completely blank. that show it is any time i try to talk to anyone, doesn't have to be speaking in class. i try to rehearse in my head what i would say a lot of times but even then, my mind just completely blanks like there is nothing there.
but then of course if i were to try and write something down, would ya look at that, 'words'
idk. i always felt like people thought i was really stupid bc whenever i tried to talk, nothing would happen or anything i said would come out way wrong.
I'm no longer in school but at work, whenever i have to talk to people i feel really guilty whatever i say bc it never comes out right or i cant say what i want to say and then it makes me feel stupid or i feel like what i was trying to say would be misunderstood. i usually end up texting my manager and telling him what i meant to say and then apologizing a million times.
when i was in school though, i would just completely break down and start crying in front of the class if i had to give a presentation. fun times. you try to control it but...it aint easy. just happens. like i swear I'm not trying to cry and i swear I'm trying to think of what to say
like i had to give a presentation and all i had to do was read off of a piece of paper and i couldn't even bring myself to look at the paper and just started crying lol
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