nightfrost1211
I'm patiently awaiting the day when yet another anime consumes my entire being
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Hmmm
Jun 19, 2019 22:38:31 GMT -5
Post by nightfrost1211 on Jun 19, 2019 22:38:31 GMT -5
Well I'm not super sure right now because this is all pretty new to me (well not technically new, but I never truly realized it until now), but I think I might be asexual? Heteromantic? I don't even knowwww lol
I've had a couple boyfriends before, but I realized that a main "problem" I had (well for a while I thought this was supposed to be a problem) was that I never truly had a sexual attraction to them. I can't think of a time when I was like "oh wow, I'm feeling hot and bothered by this attractive guy", or basically any guy that I thought was attractive because I liked them. I didn't think of it to be anything "out of the ordinary", because I am a young teen so I could just not be sexually mature yet, but then I noticed that almost everyone else around me doesn't relate to that lol. I read some stories of how asexuals realized their sexuality, along with more details of what being ace truly means--and I really could relate to some of them. So maybe I'm actually just a late-bloomer, but all I know is that I kinda surprisingly seem to be in the same situation as asexual/heteromantic people ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
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Post by tiger beetle on Jun 20, 2019 0:31:22 GMT -5
welcome
at least to the land of questioning even if you end up not being ace
what I would say is, if you find the label useful right now, even if you’re not sure about later, it’s okay
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Jun 22, 2019 4:21:48 GMT -5
Post by Skypaw13 on Jun 22, 2019 4:21:48 GMT -5
You can use any label you'd like whenever you'd like. Whatever makes you feel comfortable and happy. And it's great that you're starting to come into your identity!
If you are feeling unsure about being ace, I'll say this. I identify as bisexual and have a fairly high sex drive, but I don't ever get "hot and bothered" by anyone I just see on the street or even talk to often; for me, it's more of a looks thing, not a sex thing. If you are a young teen, your sexuality in all its forms has barely begun to develop, and a lot of things will change as you pass the 15, 16, and 17 mark; and even after that, it can always evolve. Those years are just particularly important. It may be that you don't feel sexual attraction because you haven't experienced something that triggers it yet. That was the case with me. Maybe you are ace and you don't even want to try things. That's also fine, as is anything else. My point is, it doesn't really matter what the label is, and your experience will always evolve. Just find one (or several) that make you happy in the moment.
Also, if you're a young teen (I'm assuming this means 13 to 14), and you've had boyfriends before, a lack of sexual attraction is not the problem. At all. Personally, I don't even think 13 is old enough to begin dating, but that's just my opinion.
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Jun 22, 2019 18:34:37 GMT -5
Post by Protractor on Jun 22, 2019 18:34:37 GMT -5
could mean you're that one that all you're looking for is a relationship,none of that......other stuff
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Post by embertuft on Jun 22, 2019 20:59:15 GMT -5
I don’t even know what I am at this point
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nightfrost1211
I'm patiently awaiting the day when yet another anime consumes my entire being
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Hmmm
Jun 23, 2019 0:10:02 GMT -5
Post by nightfrost1211 on Jun 23, 2019 0:10:02 GMT -5
You can use any label you'd like whenever you'd like. Whatever makes you feel comfortable and happy. And it's great that you're starting to come into your identity! If you are feeling unsure about being ace, I'll say this. I identify as bisexual and have a fairly high sex drive, but I don't ever get "hot and bothered" by anyone I just see on the street or even talk to often; for me, it's more of a looks thing, not a sex thing. If you are a young teen, your sexuality in all its forms has barely begun to develop, and a lot of things will change as you pass the 15, 16, and 17 mark; and even after that, it can always evolve. Those years are just particularly important. It may be that you don't feel sexual attraction because you haven't experienced something that triggers it yet. That was the case with me. Maybe you are ace and you don't even want to try things. That's also fine, as is anything else. My point is, it doesn't really matter what the label is, and your experience will always evolve. Just find one (or several) that make you happy in the moment. Also, if you're a young teen (I'm assuming this means 13 to 14), and you've had boyfriends before, a lack of sexual attraction is not the problem. At all. Personally, I don't even think 13 is old enough to begin dating, but that's just my opinion. Oh, I'm 15. I just realized that I didn't make that a little bit clearer, sorry for that lol. I'm not very sure if that changes anything, but yeah, I think I just need some time to figure out my sexuality when it's developed more.
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Hmmm
Jun 24, 2019 1:12:00 GMT -5
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Post by Deleted on Jun 24, 2019 1:12:00 GMT -5
I thought I was ace for awhile because I’d never been attracted to anyone before. I’d never even had a crush.
And then puberty hit. I got really sick and almost died when i was 13, right after I got my first period and what not. After that puberty was kind of on hold until my freshman year of high school due to all of the medications.
It wasn’t until my sophomore year I think that I actually realized I was attracted to anyone at all. And now it turns out I’m bisexual. It only took me 16 years to figure it out, but I think I did it.
Good luck figuring yourself out.
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