Post by πβ β.Εpΰ»ΰ»kΰΈ―ΰΊiΰΊΰ».ββ π on Mar 22, 2019 19:54:28 GMT -5
im unsure of what to do..
story context;
well i woke up this morning and i feel all awful and weird about last night. my question i need help with is;
how do i go about telling him directly that i don't like him like that? My intentions were naively innocent. I know at this point it's not presumptuous of me to need to say something like this. It's too obvious that he likes me like that. whether it's because i was ex friends best friend back then i don't really know. but i don't want to keep sending false flags to him that i'm interested. because i'm n o t
please help.. thanks..
i know i should talk to irl people about this but i'd rather keep this more private.. asking people online makes me feel safer about this.
story context;
i have an ex friend. i couldn't be her friend anymore as for personal reasons. when i was friends with her, she had a bf. we'd all hang out some times. it was alright. he was really stupid and it was kind of fun to make fun of him with my ex friend. in a teasing way of course.
well flash forward to recent.. they're broken up and have been since october or december i can't remember.
me and him are talking a little bit after they split. i just wanted to help him feel better because my ex friend talked really awful about him and he was still trying to get over her and idk i felt bad. I did it because i'm really sympathetic and could see that he really tried to do everything he could for my ex friend. but my ex friend has always been after this one guy at work and has loved him for like.. years. but she'd date other guys anyway because she couldn't have him. so bottom line is. I felt bad. in hindsight i should not have said anything at all as it wasn't my place.
well he's been asking to hang out with me for the past couple weeks after i started talking to him again, and i assumed it would be okay as he wasn't overly like.. awful to be around. i did have worries that maybe he thought i was coming on to him or something but idk. i thought it was all fine and we're just hanging out to be friends. though because i was worried i asked if some friends could come and hang with us, and they did.
so last night is hang out night. the entire time we were all together he kept trying to take me away from everyone else and he was touching me familiarly(draping an arm over my shoulders. keeping an arm around me. grabbing me by my waist) and it made me uncomfortable but i didn't want to ruin everything by making a scene about it. i think he felt that i wasn't okay with it because he asked if "i didn't like the touching" and i said that "yes. I didn't."and he stopped. but he kept trying to get me to sit beside him and stuff even after the fact. i didn't do any of that. you could tell he seemed a bit down because i rejected his advances. he ended up leaving earlier than everyone else.
well flash forward to recent.. they're broken up and have been since october or december i can't remember.
me and him are talking a little bit after they split. i just wanted to help him feel better because my ex friend talked really awful about him and he was still trying to get over her and idk i felt bad. I did it because i'm really sympathetic and could see that he really tried to do everything he could for my ex friend. but my ex friend has always been after this one guy at work and has loved him for like.. years. but she'd date other guys anyway because she couldn't have him. so bottom line is. I felt bad. in hindsight i should not have said anything at all as it wasn't my place.
well he's been asking to hang out with me for the past couple weeks after i started talking to him again, and i assumed it would be okay as he wasn't overly like.. awful to be around. i did have worries that maybe he thought i was coming on to him or something but idk. i thought it was all fine and we're just hanging out to be friends. though because i was worried i asked if some friends could come and hang with us, and they did.
so last night is hang out night. the entire time we were all together he kept trying to take me away from everyone else and he was touching me familiarly(draping an arm over my shoulders. keeping an arm around me. grabbing me by my waist) and it made me uncomfortable but i didn't want to ruin everything by making a scene about it. i think he felt that i wasn't okay with it because he asked if "i didn't like the touching" and i said that "yes. I didn't."and he stopped. but he kept trying to get me to sit beside him and stuff even after the fact. i didn't do any of that. you could tell he seemed a bit down because i rejected his advances. he ended up leaving earlier than everyone else.
well i woke up this morning and i feel all awful and weird about last night. my question i need help with is;
how do i go about telling him directly that i don't like him like that? My intentions were naively innocent. I know at this point it's not presumptuous of me to need to say something like this. It's too obvious that he likes me like that. whether it's because i was ex friends best friend back then i don't really know. but i don't want to keep sending false flags to him that i'm interested. because i'm n o t
please help.. thanks..
i know i should talk to irl people about this but i'd rather keep this more private.. asking people online makes me feel safer about this.