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Post by scint on Mar 19, 2019 16:24:48 GMT -5
My mom just said that the next time me or Middy end up in the E.R for a suicidal crisis she’s sending us to a mental hospital because she’s fed up with us taking up the family’s time and us being “incompetent”. Tomorrow I’m calling a foster center because that was the final straw, especially after my dad was scolding my sister Middy after she had a suicide crisis again on Sunday. He pretty much called her stupid the entire day and banned her from the computers forever, so I’m secretly letting her go on my school chromebook whenever our parents are far, far away from us in the house.
…Middy and I aren’t at fault just because we both have autism. And we don’t have an obsession with suicide or want to do it for attention either, dad. It’s called needing proper help and proper care.
(Middy doesn’t know about this yet, but once I get a chance I’m telling her because me and her are pretty much the targets of my family’s abuse.)
(This is the censored version. There's a lot of colorful language in the original.)
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Post by Arrow↠Deirdre on Mar 19, 2019 16:59:21 GMT -5
I really hope that the foster center can help. Nobody deserves to be in that sort of situation.
*offers comfort cookie*
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Post by ᏞᎪᎠᎽ Ꮎf fᎪᏁᎠᎾms ミ☆ on Mar 19, 2019 17:04:05 GMT -5
I'm so sorry to hear about this! This is simply outrageous...! I can't believe how horrible those adults are to say such things...I don't know how any person can be so heartless and selfish.
I truly hope that something can be done legally. No one deserves this, let alone young people who know they need actual help!
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Post by ᴀᴄʜʀᴏᴍᴀᴛɪᴄ on Mar 19, 2019 17:16:21 GMT -5
Mental hospitals aren’t fun. I hope you don’t have to go to one, especially since I honestly think they wouldn’t help your situation other than providing a temporary getaway from your parents. Fingers crossed that the foster center will help!
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Post by dreamgurl42 on Mar 19, 2019 17:23:59 GMT -5
I hope you and your sister can be safe while getting help. It doesn't seem like your parents are there for your well-being and it's very unfortunate.
They may be your biological parents, but they don't treat you or your sister with the love and tenderness you need at this moment. Please be careful.
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Post by Leapkit on Mar 19, 2019 17:26:12 GMT -5
I hope whatever hapens you can get he help you need. You're a good sibling and person and you do not deserve this.
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Post by scint on Mar 21, 2019 8:24:44 GMT -5
*sigh*
I tried, but at the most I could hardly manage to stay at the phone long enough (don't use school phones) and the fact that 45 minutes is not enough to explain all the abuse your parents throw at you.
My mom was just yelling at my sister again, and in a sense mocking her for feeling suicidal. she also said that my dad should've just let the police that my sister away and put her in a hospital, or something to that extent. That and I'm hardly able to wake up on time for school anymore, which results in me having to be dropped off at school by her. Basically she's upset with me and I go to sleep at the right time. And because of her stupidity, my suicidal thoughts are starting to come back, and my sister's are no doubt considering the way my mom screamed in her face. So apparently your children feeling suicidal is completely fine. Oh, yep yeah you can just stick them in a mental hospital and it'll be over. Yeah, she also just said my sister is too stupid to be in 5th grade and shouldn't go to 6th. Again. For the 13th or 14th time.
See, I'd tell another adult in the building but that just takes me straight back to that asshole social worker who pretty much supports abuse and blames me for my parents' behavior, and calls me disrespectful for it.
The only good thing is that my friend would ask her therapist for help. But if that appointment is a long way away or not today because Spring Break is coming up soon, then we're calling the police because there's no way in hell me or my sister are spending the entire weekend non-stop with these disgusting people.
Another thing about my dad, he bought these very dumb shirts for the family to wear. They are those eternally damned baby shark shirts (don't even get me started on that). And he's going to force us all to wear these shirts for a family photo. First of all, it's not your decision whether I wear that accursed shirt. Second off, if you try to come anywhere near me with it or force me to put it on, I will tear that shit to pieces and/or burn it until there's nothing left but ashes.
And now that the phones in our house are working again, she said that she's not picking up the phone if it's from either of our schools because 'we shouldn't be so stupid' and that 'we need to suck it up and deal with it'. I wouldn't be surprised if she was the one who made sure our phones weren't working, but I digress.
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Post by dreamgurl42 on Mar 21, 2019 9:07:54 GMT -5
My god this is horrible.
First off, with your mom talking about sending her daughter away to a hospital wouldn't be allowed she just making empty threats. The law wouldn't support this type of behavior. America has a dark history with parents or families sending their kids to hospitals if they misbehaved or for having any form of a disability.
Is it possible to request another social worker? Clearly, if this person isn't helping you or your siblings then I wouldn't waste your time with them especially if they are ignoring your mental state.
If you do manage to call the police you can easily say this type of behavior, your parents are displaying is, neglectful.
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Post by Papillon on Mar 21, 2019 9:44:37 GMT -5
Mental hospital do give you proper care and help. Wanting to get you guys into one isn't exactly a bad thing. That's where I got sent when I was in the er for suicidal things and it's the only thing that helped Mental hospitals arent like movies and TV shows, or how they were 50 years ago, they're there to help. Idk why people give them such a bad reputation when most the time they aren't terrible anymore. And police taking you is normal. Even when I was in the er, then to the mental hospital, I got taken in the back of an ambulance and strapped down even tho I wasn't a threat to others or immediate threat to myself anymore. That's just what's required
Yeah she could've been a bitch about the way she said it to you, but that doesn't mean its the wrong thing to do. I got to therapy from a mental hospital and to a psychiatrist, it might happen that way for you too. In the hospital we learned coping skills, a bunch of stuff, we were precribed medications and try to find which ones would be good for , we had free time for tv and goofing off, we all got our own scheduled therapy appointments, we had exercises time and got to go outside with everyone, and we were with a bunch of other people our age.
Seriously they're not like they were when parents would ship off anyone even mildly misbehaving. They're not like they were when everyone was in straight jackets or however you hear about it in movies, insane asylums, whatever.
Also idk why you seem to think you can just dial up a random foster service and get taken away, because that won't happen
this is very very extreme. It's just a shirt for photo..?? He probably thought it'd be cute to be matching in it. Idk why this makes you so angry
I can't speak to the abuse because what your mom is saying and how she's behaving is really shitty and awful. So, sorry you guys are dealing with that.
Anyway hope you get help one way or another because you have some very clear anger and depressive issues that are likely contributing to more than you know.
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Post by scint on Mar 21, 2019 11:28:01 GMT -5
this is very very extreme. It's just a shirt for photo..?? He probably thought it'd be cute to be matching in it. Idk why this makes you so angry The thing is, he won't stop pestering me about it and has threatened me at least once about it. That and I won't wear anything that people are constantly trying to force me to wear and that infuriates me greatly.
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Post by Leapkit on Mar 21, 2019 18:37:02 GMT -5
My god this is horrible. First off, with your mom talking about sending her daughter away to a hospital wouldn't be allowed she just making empty threats. The law wouldn't support this type of behavior. America has a dark history with parents or families sending their kids to hospitals if they misbehaved or for having any form of a disability. Is it possible to request another social worker? Clearly, if this person isn't helping you or your siblings then I wouldn't waste your time with them especially if they are ignoring your mental state. If you do manage to call the police you can easily say this type of behavior, your parents are displaying is, neglectful. Youre very wrong that the law doesnt support that behavior, ive been detained in juvy 4 times and went to the mental hospital once because of my abuse. police dont help you.
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Post by dreamgurl42 on Mar 21, 2019 18:56:45 GMT -5
My god this is horrible. First off, with your mom talking about sending her daughter away to a hospital wouldn't be allowed she just making empty threats. The law wouldn't support this type of behavior. America has a dark history with parents or families sending their kids to hospitals if they misbehaved or for having any form of a disability. Is it possible to request another social worker? Clearly, if this person isn't helping you or your siblings then I wouldn't waste your time with them especially if they are ignoring your mental state. If you do manage to call the police you can easily say this type of behavior, your parents are displaying is, neglectful. Youre very wrong that the law doesnt support that behavior, ive been detained in juvy 4 times and went to the mental hospital once because of my abuse. police dont help you. That's extremely sad and I'm sorry you went through it. I've think I learned from my own personal experience the police were little to no help when I was reporting my mom for using my identity to open credit cards under my name while I live with her. Surprisingly, the ones that did help me and cleared the debt out of my name was social security and the credit card companies she used. In these situations the police are supposed to be there to protect individuals that are being abused. It's extremely unfortunate the reality of it and hopefully there are individuals that can listen and help. No one deserved to be hurt or scared away from the system that can do so much more for the individual.
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Post by Leapkit on Mar 21, 2019 19:09:39 GMT -5
Youre very wrong that the law doesnt support that behavior, ive been detained in juvy 4 times and went to the mental hospital once because of my abuse. police dont help you. That's extremely sad and I'm sorry you went through it. I've think I learned from my own personal experience the police were little to no help when I was reporting my mom for using my identity to open credit cards under my name while I live with her. Surprisingly, the ones that did help me and cleared the debt out of my name was social security and the credit card companies she used. In these situations the police are supposed to be there to protect individuals that are being abused. It's extremely unfortunate the reality of it and hopefully there are individuals that can listen and help. No one deserved to be hurt or scared away from the system that can do so much more for the individual. I think its a problem with american police mostly because the training focuses on combat or harder crimes and only briefly covers abuse and mental health crises. So a lot of them dont know what to door how to help. They see issues at face values only. And to op: Dont let my issues discourage you from still trying to get a hold of them. There is still a chance they will help you, and a mental hospital might be even better at helping you too if it comes down to it. It will suck but using all the resources at your disposal is a good thing and I wish you the best.
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Post by *Faith* on Mar 21, 2019 19:46:16 GMT -5
I'm so sorry you have to go through this. Both of your parents sound terrible and I really hope you and your sister end up safe.
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Post by Scotus on Mar 23, 2019 20:39:44 GMT -5
Agree with what Mouse said. A Mental Hospital might not be a bad thing if you have suicidal thoughts.
I have known two people personally go there because things were getting real tough, I know at least one of them didn't think it was too bad. The other one idk because I only had one conversation with her afterwards. They've taken her phone away until she gets better at a therapy ranch.
A third I've heard of online and going to the mental hospital really helped her.
Personally I've been sent to a therapy day center of sorts, and it was pretty nice there at least. Everyone's pretty nice, although they do monitor you and dictate your schedule every day but that sometimes helps.
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Post by finland on Mar 24, 2019 9:18:14 GMT -5
That's horrible. Your parents need to be reported.
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